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Can you be in love with two people at the same time?

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Personally I can't ..
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I think the greatest gift to mankind is our capacity to love. I alo think there are many types of love, the love of a brother, erotic love and the unconditional love we all seek. Erotic or Eros love is the one yhat becomes possessive and controlling that has a tendency to not only cause the most pleasure but potentially the most pain.

So my thinking is yes, we can love more than one. In fact, we should.
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There are many definitions of love. You just have to be able to discern what kind of love you are feeling for each person. My belief is, if you fall in love with two person, it doesn't actually mean that you are unfaithful or don't love them both equally. It could actually be equal, but there is always one thing that tips the weight. And that one thing is, Who Can You See In Your Future?
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Great question that I believe is yes for all... We tend to be torn by it and cconfused at the time. Usually leading to hurt feelings and lost friendships, which is sad. I have went through this answer was obvious to it at the time and still have sweet memories of what was. I must say, yes, although it is painful and sorrowful.

And... I hope she is happy.
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Hell no.....U cant love two different person with common intention or category because true love happen just once & rest are fake
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I think most of us CAN love more than one person at a time. BUT, due to societal norms and fear of LOSING a lover if we are fully honest about our feelings, most of us also repress it or at least don't pursue more than one RELATIONSHIP at a time.
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Absolutely I think you can. Why couldnt you?
Love has many different outlets. We love our parents, our children, our spouses, our friends, colleagues etc. All these loves have different places in our lives but all are still deep, strong emotions for these people.
I think when it comes to being in love, intimate love, it is the same. While the love I may have for my husband is very intimate and personal, the love I would feel for a lover could be built on a different level of intimacy and friendship. Both though being strong physical feelings.
I have developed some very real freindships here on lush, and have strong feelings for some of these people. Is it love? Maybe a certain kind of love, maybe not. However, they are still real with real feelings, each one different for different reasons.
To limit ourselves, our way of thinking, to loving just one person would be a shame. All of us are capable of loving many people. Wether all at once or one at a time, its in us to give.
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Though I've never experienced being in love with 2 different people, I'm positive it can happen. Not sure why people think it can't.
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Yes, but it very probably would be less love or less passion for one than the other. Maybe love with two with different interactions. My wife and man/wife sex, my boyfriend/lover male/male bonding sex. Yes I could just two slightly different levels of passion and interaction.
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Some people here have said vehement "no"s. In the sense that it's not possible for that person, they may be correct. But it's certainly possible for *some* people. Might even be possible for me. If it happens, I'll let you know.
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Quote by sillyjenny
There are many definitions of love. You just have to be able to discern what kind of love you are feeling for each person. My belief is, if you fall in love with two person, it doesn't actually mean that you are unfaithful or don't love them both equally. It could actually be equal, but there is always one thing that tips the weight. And that one thing is, Who Can You See In Your Future?



Jenny, you are so wise! You hit the nail on the head once again.
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yes. although it's never happened to me, i can see how you could find two people that meet two completely different sets of needs in you.

Say. Her. Name.


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Different people, different shades of the same mysterious thing.
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Yes, I do love more than one with my heart and soul. The problem is most people hate to share and enjoy what is offered.
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How can you not?
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It's very possible, and I don't know why it's frowned upon so much
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Of course you can. Sometimes it isn't reciprocated as you would wish. But that doesn't make you love less it just makes it different.
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I would have to say no. Unless somebody can explain how it can happen and not have one favored over the other.
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Yes, certainly we can love 2 or more people at the same time. Don't you love your parents and your partner at the same time. Also if you have kids, friend, etc. You can love many people at the same time. I wonder why you ask such a weird question in the first place?
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Some have already answered this very well. I believe you can. it has not happened to me, but if the relationships are equal ad you are all happy with it, I dont see why not.
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Yes but in the end you have to go with the one who has YOUR best interests.
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Yes but in the end you have to go with the one who has YOUR best interests.
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Nope, I am not wired that way. You can have feelings for one person or another, a strong friendship, caring, but to be fully entrenched in a full blown relationship, with more than one person, not for me.

For example, in most cases those people that I've observed who have recently ended a relationship, and are starting another; the old relationship is like a boat anchor that they have not cut loose (old feelings and hurt that can't be dismissed that easily), they cannot seem to invest that caring in the new relationship, at least not until they completely get "rid" of the past emotions.

Those people I know who do have "open" relationships, their love or feelings seem to be less complete, or more shallow.
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Like all things in life, for me this depends upon context. If we're talking about loving your partner and simultaneously loving your mother, then the answer is obvious. If we're talking about "love" in the context of sexual relations (which makes sense, given the purpose of this site) then yes, I've cared for two people at the same time in ways much deeper than lust. If we're talking about loving someone in the romantic sense with the depth that I've felt for my spouse for the past 31 years, then I have a hard time imagining that.

I've never been in a fully polyamorous relationship, so I can't speak with authority about the concepts of primary, secondary, etc. The closest I've come is being open and honest with my wife about having a girlfriend or boyfriend, and even having them know each other and be friendly. I believe that one of those relationships could have blossomed into something deeper, but my girlfriend at the time couldn't get her head around the idea of my wife approving of the arrangement. Would have been nice to find out. As Jimmy Buffet says: "If it doesn't work out, there'll never be any doubt, that the pleasure was worth all the pain."
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In "The Four Loves," C. S. Lewis explains the different kinds of love, and how we love more than one person at a time. But the question is I think that if we are IN LOVE with someone, doesn't that get us so captivated that we only have eyes for them?
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Yes you can be in love with two people at the same time. Exactly for the reason Billybroadband said.
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I think so, at least one can be love and one can be lust, but there often the same thing.
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Although I've been in love several times. I've never been in love with two guys at the same time.
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It is my experience that one can love two women at the same time, and there is no greater joy than in caring for them in their different ways.