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Why would anyone like to be humiliated and degraded?
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a few thoughts, one actually. there is a huge difference between a Domme saying/doing things to humiliate their sub because they know it sexually arouses the s sub to be treated like that and a Domme who really means them. Subs are going to know the difference, and recognize it for what is is; the Domme looking after the needs of the sub, feeding that arousal for the sake of the sub, not because of any real need to degrade them. in a way, it's roleplay and the sub knows that they don't truly mean those things, no matter how convincing they might act/sound.
Absolutely Sprite! It can be like dirty talk in any kind of sex. 90% of what is said is role play. Both people know the other person you are calling and SOB is not someone who doesn't know who his/her daddy is, or that their Mama is a poodle ya know?
We must say over and over to ourselves, that this is not about one person "getting over" on another person. It is about two people who care about each other, choosing to play with each other, having fun, and enhancing
the pleasure and meaning of their sexual play.
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Absolutely Sprite! It can be like dirty talk in any kind of sex. 90% of what is said is role play. Both people know the other person you are calling and SOB is not someone who doesn't know who his/her daddy is, or that their Mama is a poodle ya know?
We must say over and over to ourselves, that this is not about one person "getting over" on another person. It is about two people who care about each other, choosing to play with each other, having fun, and enhancing
the pleasure and meaning of their sexual play.
thats true and I agree, its supposed to be fun and erotic. It pretty much just enhances the roleplay of a sub and dom
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Absolutely Sprite! It can be like dirty talk in any kind of sex. 90% of what is said is role play. Both people know the other person you are calling and SOB is not someone who doesn't know who his/her daddy is, or that their Mama is a poodle ya know?
We must say over and over to ourselves, that this is not about one person "getting over" on another person. It is about two people who care about each other, choosing to play with each other, having fun, and enhancing
the pleasure and meaning of their sexual play.
thats true and I agree, its supposed to be fun and erotic. It pretty much just enhances the roleplay of a sub and dom
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thats true and I agree, its supposed to be fun and erotic. It pretty much just enhances the roleplay of a sub and dom
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For some it actually turns THEM on... the submissive... I hear this in cuckold, and wife swap things I have read, and even people have told me about their personal lives. I have looked at pictures of implements that look torturous as well as grotesque. I have heard of people craving to be called all sorts of derrogatory names. For some, it is punishment, control, and for some, they WANT and enjoy the punishment and degradation that comes with humilation.
I cannot say as I understand -personally speaking, either, it is not the aspects of BDSM I am into. There is so much diversity in kinks. What might seem hellish to one person might be highly arousing and significant to another. I enjoy sex studies and learning.
I wish those into it would explain more.
I know it sounds wonderful because Id love the same thing ,like being over a girls knee taking a spanking or getting paddled or taken from behind from a girl with a strap on and maybe her female friend watching me get pounded hard sounds wonderful
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I am trying to learn and understand here, not put anyone down.
For me it is important to treat other people with respect, and most of all those you are is a near relationship with. I have through my work seen relations where one partner is abusing and destroying the other - and psychological abuse can be just as destroying as physical violence.
I guess I am not wired for BDSM, but I would think that there must be a mutual respect between Dom and Sub, and a trust that the Dom is not going to damage his/her sub physically or psychologically.
Is that what you mean by difference between humiliation and degrading? Humiliation is pushing your limit into embarassing and awkward territory that may be or become likable anyhow? But degradation is abuse.
But do you agree that the relationship between Dom and Sub should have a mutual respect, that the Dom is not more worth as a human beeng then his/her Sub, and that a Dom should not damage a Sub?
This is a great question and I appreciate the time you are taking to understand it.
One of the paradoxes for me about Domination / submission is also the thing that makes it the most potent.
What is that you might ask?
It's the fact that the most extreme acts of dominance require the highest level of trust.
Everybody sees and talks about the acts that a submissive will allow. After all, any true Dominant will tell you that a submissive has all the power. In my case she decides what power she hands over or not.
There is a point at which a submissive will hand over the power to decide. That's incredibly powerful.
Humiliation play for me, comes at that point or after. It's a way in which to express the intense trust and pleasure that you get from pushing somebody past a limit they never thought possible. For them, in turn, it is taking something from you that they would never take from anybody else.
If its not rooted in trust however, it becomes abuse.
What is the degradation part of humiliation?
There are those that are aroused when they are called names. Subs I have played with find it a jolt to be called a slut, a bitch, a whore during play.
There are those that then will take treatment that is more demeaning. Depersonalization is a popular way to move into this territory. This is where a submissive will allow herself to be treated like a dog, or a piece of furniture.
The question of why somebody enjoys this is a big topic. There are multiple reasons. Sometimes it has to do with dealing with trauma, and in that case it is best that this kind of play is avoided. In other cases, it is a way for them to reclaim things that they once had difficulty with.
What I do know is that humiliation play with submissives I have spent a long time with and gotten to know have resulted in some of the most potent mindfucks and powerful orgasms ever - on both sides.
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it enhances the adventure
Advanced Wordsmith
I like being degraded and humiliated because it helps me to lose my control. To me it's a turn on and a demonstration of my trust and love for my Dom. But that's just my personal experience 
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A lot of us don't like ourselves that much. Also not being loved and gaining approval through looks and manipulation. Spanking itself is a common kink so it's more than that. Someone who cares enough to punish you without being cruel? Also degradation and humiliation are different.
Force of Nature
I don't understand it, myself. I considered shooting #2, the shit.
Looks like we're in for a nasty spell of wether.
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