Which are you?

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What is the difference between a sub or a bottom? I will take bottomsub

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Bottom, sub and slave are three tiers of the receiving end in BDSM.

bottom - The receiver in a BDSM scene or session. This is the basic BDSM term for any person on the receiving end of scene play. By itself, the term simply refers to anyone who takes the passive part in play or relationship. A bottom in a relationship will likely receive playful attention from their Top, or discipline in some cases, but will only go further than that if the bottom is also a submissive or slave. Rules given to someone that is strictly a "bottom" and not one of the other two will apply to the bottom's well-being, such as bedtime or being forbidden to smoke or drink.

submissive (sub) - Unlike bottom, which is a simple statement of wanting to be the passive in play, sub refers to someone that, as a personality trait, prefers to surrender control of part of their lives to a Dominant. While a bottom's part in a session ends when the session is over, being submissive is a more constant situation. A submissive will have the same rules that a bottom might have, but could also have some self-serving rules that the Dominant assigns, like always walking behind him or wearing a certain outfit on Tuesdays.

slave - A slave is the ultimate surrender of their own control, becoming the "property" of their Master. As such, every aspect of the slave's life may be controlled by the Master at his whim, within any preset limits established at the start of the relationship. Things that others take for granted, like sitting in a chair instead of on the floor, choosing your own clothes each day or listening to your favorite music on the radio, could very well be a reward to a slave, only given when the Master feels that the slave deserves it.

Each higher tier is a subsection of the tier before it. Thus, all submissives are bottoms, but not all bottoms are submissives. All slaves are both submissive and bottom, but not all bottoms or submissives are slaves

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I've been Dominant all my life, yet you Chica, have defined the three levels as well as I have ever seen. Even a newbie could understand it! Thanks Much

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I prefer to submit myself to the right person(s), But most of my partners get off on me to be the dominant one.
Go figure!

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It's because you are so butch.

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Bottom, sub and slave are three tiers of the receiving end in BDSM.

bottom - The receiver in a BDSM scene or session. This is the basic BDSM term for any person on the receiving end of scene play. By itself, the term simply refers to anyone who takes the passive part in play or relationship. A bottom in a relationship will likely receive playful attention from their Top, or discipline in some cases, but will only go further than that if the bottom is also a submissive or slave. Rules given to someone that is strictly a "bottom" and not one of the other two will apply to the bottom's well-being, such as bedtime or being forbidden to smoke or drink.

submissive (sub) - Unlike bottom, which is a simple statement of wanting to be the passive in play, sub refers to someone that, as a personality trait, prefers to surrender control of part of their lives to a Dominant. While a bottom's part in a session ends when the session is over, being submissive is a more constant situation. A submissive will have the same rules that a bottom might have, but could also have some self-serving rules that the Dominant assigns, like always walking behind him or wearing a certain outfit on Tuesdays.

slave - A slave is the ultimate surrender of their own control, becoming the "property" of their Master. As such, every aspect of the slave's life may be controlled by the Master at his whim, within any preset limits established at the start of the relationship. Things that others take for granted, like sitting in a chair instead of on the floor, choosing your own clothes each day or listening to your favorite music on the radio, could very well be a reward to a slave, only given when the Master feels that the slave deserves it.

Each higher tier is a subsection of the tier before it. Thus, all submissives are bottoms, but not all bottoms are submissives. All slaves are both submissive and bottom, but not all bottoms or submissives are slaves