Unusual Punishments

When a woman decided that the only way is going me to listen to her was to get a guy penetrate me anally in front of her.

speaking from my limited experience as a submissive to my Master, i am only 23 and he is my first and hopefully last master and again this is just based on my experience and my Master's way of thinking, he has much more experience in a M/s relationship and BDSM play and is older than me. We have been in a 24/7 M/s relationship for almost 3 years, but it was not M/s until about 6 months after we started dating and became intimate lovers.

During his "training" and exploring my needs and desires while fulfilling his and learning about his and how to please him, it was discovered i have some pretty strong masochistic tendencies. Pain, in the right context i need to add, turns me on and during some of our hardcore play sessions can make me even orgasm without him even penetrating me. i can cum from just the pain.

My Master is not a sadist and he is not a misogynist who has no respect for women. He does not get off on hurting me, well maybe a little and he does like to hear me whimper and beg lol. But during our harder play sessions, he does get "hardcore" because he knows that is what i desire. He also knows when to stop it and when i have had enough even if i don't know myself and even if i have not used my safe word.

He told me that punishing a submissive like me can be difficult and he has to get creative, which he does very well lol. He also knows there is some pain that does not arouse me and just fucking hurts lol

1) the punishment should fit the crime. 2) a sub should never be punished by a Dom who is angry at her, the Dom needs to calm down first. 3) Punishment is not an excuse to abuse your partner and the Dom should not receive enjoyment from punishing his submissive. It is used to correct bad behavior. sadly some people do use BDSM as an excuse to just abuse their partner and i have seen it in some of the replies to this question. Know what Doms to stay away from, they are not true Doms but sadists who get off on hurting their partners.

Now, how does one punish a submissive who has masochistic tendencies? Spanking won't work because it turns her on...or he sorry...so that's not punishment. flogging, nipple clamps, caning etc can also arouse a masochist so that will not work.

Have her wear an anal plug all day? umm yes please lol.

My Master has found pain i do not enjoy. Kneeling on uncooked rice for whatever period of time he thinks is needed for the punishment based on what I did.

Chastity belt of course and orgasm denial works. especially on me because i am also wanting him to fuck me and make me cum lol. BTW they do make chastity belts that can be worn for days or weeks and will not interfere with a woman peeing and her other ummm bodily function lets call it.

having the bottom of my feet flogged or caning the bottom of my poor little footsies! That hurts and does nothing to arouse me.

and other clever methods. No foodstuff, however, playing with food and sex does not really mix that well, and having it inserted in certain areas can cause people to get some serious bacterial infections that way.

Funny side story, well not funny for the poor girl, i have a friend who is an ER nurse and she told me this one young woman and her b/f come into the ER and she is complaining about intense soreness in her pussy. come to find out she had frostbite inside her pussy because her and her b/f were playing with popsicles lol

Mind games are the worst though, they can go on for hours and hours and days. I would rather him just "beat" me and get it over with than his mind games. Mind games suck!!!!!

Speaking here as an ex-top who has gone 360 and landed somewhere in switch with bottom leaning tendencies country, but everything depends on the dynamic, the personalities and what is allowable or acceptable to BOTH parties.

Having grey lists or pink lines discussed and clear is one way of ensuring punishments are allowable to all involved.

The key should always be on praising or facilitating the desired behaviour, however, we’re all human and transgressions will happen. Punishments should always be proportionate to the misdemeanour and should allow for an apology or offer of correction.

No generalisation for unusual really exists. What is a red line for one person is green for another. Often, from my moderate experience, taking one or a handful of the grey list items and adding a twist is normally a pretty responsive and consensus way of enacting a correction.

I could offer examples of things I know I would consider a punishment (definitely not a funishment) that do not stretch my red lines but I’d make them clear from the outset so everyone is on a level horizon.