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Quote by dbnemi
Ok I am new to this and I thought this might be quickest way, I am looking for a mistress. I am really submissive and need someone to take advantage of that fact. If interested or have any suggestions please email me on here I would very much like to hear from you.
me thinks this may be the longest way ... just saying
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well, come on .... you go into a chatroom and say what? "hey, gals, I am looking for a mistress ... anyone interested?" honestly .... what do you think most women in a chatroom are gonna think? A good percentage of women in a chatroom are there to chat with friends, or make new friends. Maybe try that route .... friendly chatting .... finding out about the person and if the idea of becoming a mistress is entertaining to the woman after a little bit of time.
(or do you have a deadline for this mistress to appear?)
in case you are unaware, there are a good many woman who want to find out about someone, chat in general ..... and yes there are those who just want a quick cyber shag.
maybe Lush is a place to find a mistress ..... or maybe you could find one on a few of the "dating/affair" sites found on the internet. The other sites you might have to pay a fee.
good luck!
(or do you have a deadline for this mistress to appear?)
in case you are unaware, there are a good many woman who want to find out about someone, chat in general ..... and yes there are those who just want a quick cyber shag.
maybe Lush is a place to find a mistress ..... or maybe you could find one on a few of the "dating/affair" sites found on the internet. The other sites you might have to pay a fee.
good luck!
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I agree with PA.
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Quote by dbnemi
And i have problems tryin to talk to anyone in rooms and i think that comes from the not bein assertive enough
Ummm....you don't have to be 'assertive' to talk to people. It's not like they're expecting you to march on in and start asserting yourself all over everybody.
All you have to do is be able to put words together, in a more or less correct and relevant order, which, lets face it, isn't really that difficult.
Constant Gardener
db... A few suggestions, if I may.
Obtain a digital camera...and a tripod upon which to place this camera. Clean up the area behind which you will be kneeling. That same area will be directly in front of said camera too. There is really nothing worse than a messy slob of a slave. Seriously. It doesn't have to be so clean you can eat off the floor, (which you will be doing, incidentally - but later). Just don't let it look like Kuwait 1991, in view of the camera.
Next, obtain some props.
I'd suggest, in no particular priority order.
(1) leather collar. It does not need to be fancy...if you finagle a mistress she might send you out for a correct collar or send you one that she obtains for you.
(1) polished steel animal feeding bowl (or one of those inexpensive plastic jobs, if you're broke).
(1) length of dog leash chain. Again, within reasonable cost.
(1) broad felt tip magic marker. Black shows up better against any skin tone when being photographed.
(1) pair of blue jeans.
(1) liter of milk. The fluid should be white for visible contrast in the photographs.
Some of these items you might even have laying around the house (or borrow from the neighbors).
No other attire should be necessary. As a matter of fact, bare chested and bare footed might well be the clincher here. No ball caps, no sun glasses, no fancy bling belts. By dressing down, you indicate a need to be dressed up...taken care of, ordered around. And that's one of the things you're wanting, right? Say it with pictures, db.
Put on blue jeans and then collar yourself and attached shiny leash, fling it over your shoulder in some manner so that it can be seen and determined roughly what it is. Wrap it at least once around your neck if need be, for that matter. You will be on you knees anyway.
Pour milk into the feeding bowl and place approximately 12 feet away from the camera tripod. Set camera up, point at bowl, adjust zoom, etc... You may find you'll need to take 500 pictures to obtain 5 shots which are just right and suitable for using on your Lush profile. (or Alt.com website, as -ahem- some suggest) Ensure that this camera has a 5 to 10 second timer, this is crucial... you'll never get in the frame in under 5 seconds. Trust me... I know, enuff said.
This next part will be tricky, but authentic. Do not ask any friends for assistance or you will never hear the end of it. Do not enlist the aid of your siblings either...you'll never hear the end of it. You're going to have to use the magic marker and write on your chest - 'WILL SLAVE FOR YOU'. Use proper spelling. No tacky text speak. Show and indicate a smidgen of dignity. Face a mirror when you scribble across your chest for assistance, you'll be writing backwards, but it is only 15 letters!
When taking your photographs, do not place your hands upon your hips. This will show defiance. Allow your hands and fingers to dangle at the end of drooped arms and if you don't already slump your shoulders naturally.
Do so.
I'd even bow my forehead a bit, without looking directly into the camera lens. Indicate that you are already halfway broken...or 25% docile at the least. Do not be fully tamed appearing though...You want your prospective owner to see that she has room to take you and guide you, to create with you. Don't give her too much challenge nor too little. It's a fine line...practice, practice, practice.
Try some unique poses such as lapping the milk out of the bowl or being photographed with a yearning look on your face as if you're just waiting to be told that you may do so! Realism, db...Who cares if the photographs are staged. Your future Mistress will appreciate your planning and imagination.
Hell, experiment, man! Remember....100 photographs for every keeper that you will want to show prospective owners.
Nobody is a born slave/pet... you have to work at it...think of this as step 1 in a critical initiation process.
Personally...I'd try posting your photos on your Lush profile as well as the other alternative lifestyle websites. You're fishing a shallow pond already. Use all your available advertising resources!
Let Lush be your dirty lil secret!
Good luck dude.
Obtain a digital camera...and a tripod upon which to place this camera. Clean up the area behind which you will be kneeling. That same area will be directly in front of said camera too. There is really nothing worse than a messy slob of a slave. Seriously. It doesn't have to be so clean you can eat off the floor, (which you will be doing, incidentally - but later). Just don't let it look like Kuwait 1991, in view of the camera.
Next, obtain some props.
I'd suggest, in no particular priority order.
(1) leather collar. It does not need to be fancy...if you finagle a mistress she might send you out for a correct collar or send you one that she obtains for you.
(1) polished steel animal feeding bowl (or one of those inexpensive plastic jobs, if you're broke).
(1) length of dog leash chain. Again, within reasonable cost.
(1) broad felt tip magic marker. Black shows up better against any skin tone when being photographed.
(1) pair of blue jeans.
(1) liter of milk. The fluid should be white for visible contrast in the photographs.
Some of these items you might even have laying around the house (or borrow from the neighbors).
No other attire should be necessary. As a matter of fact, bare chested and bare footed might well be the clincher here. No ball caps, no sun glasses, no fancy bling belts. By dressing down, you indicate a need to be dressed up...taken care of, ordered around. And that's one of the things you're wanting, right? Say it with pictures, db.
Put on blue jeans and then collar yourself and attached shiny leash, fling it over your shoulder in some manner so that it can be seen and determined roughly what it is. Wrap it at least once around your neck if need be, for that matter. You will be on you knees anyway.
Pour milk into the feeding bowl and place approximately 12 feet away from the camera tripod. Set camera up, point at bowl, adjust zoom, etc... You may find you'll need to take 500 pictures to obtain 5 shots which are just right and suitable for using on your Lush profile. (or Alt.com website, as -ahem- some suggest) Ensure that this camera has a 5 to 10 second timer, this is crucial... you'll never get in the frame in under 5 seconds. Trust me... I know, enuff said.
This next part will be tricky, but authentic. Do not ask any friends for assistance or you will never hear the end of it. Do not enlist the aid of your siblings either...you'll never hear the end of it. You're going to have to use the magic marker and write on your chest - 'WILL SLAVE FOR YOU'. Use proper spelling. No tacky text speak. Show and indicate a smidgen of dignity. Face a mirror when you scribble across your chest for assistance, you'll be writing backwards, but it is only 15 letters!
When taking your photographs, do not place your hands upon your hips. This will show defiance. Allow your hands and fingers to dangle at the end of drooped arms and if you don't already slump your shoulders naturally.
Do so.
I'd even bow my forehead a bit, without looking directly into the camera lens. Indicate that you are already halfway broken...or 25% docile at the least. Do not be fully tamed appearing though...You want your prospective owner to see that she has room to take you and guide you, to create with you. Don't give her too much challenge nor too little. It's a fine line...practice, practice, practice.
Try some unique poses such as lapping the milk out of the bowl or being photographed with a yearning look on your face as if you're just waiting to be told that you may do so! Realism, db...Who cares if the photographs are staged. Your future Mistress will appreciate your planning and imagination.
Hell, experiment, man! Remember....100 photographs for every keeper that you will want to show prospective owners.
Nobody is a born slave/pet... you have to work at it...think of this as step 1 in a critical initiation process.
Personally...I'd try posting your photos on your Lush profile as well as the other alternative lifestyle websites. You're fishing a shallow pond already. Use all your available advertising resources!
Let Lush be your dirty lil secret!
Good luck dude.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
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Quote by nicola
Welcome to the site.
If you are looking for a mistress in real life, you're better off going to a site like ALT.com.
People generally come here to read stories, participate in the forums, or for a casual chat in the chat rooms.
Two things:
Why is Nic hanging out at ALT.com when she has my e-mail address?
Even more importantly, I feel cheated. I thought this thread was about how a dude could get a piece on the side.
Oh well, back to reading stories.
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Quote by WellMadeMale
db... A few suggestions, if I may.
Obtain a digital camera...and a tripod upon which to place this camera. Clean up the area behind which you will be kneeling. That same area will be directly in front of said camera too. There is really nothing worse than a messy slob of a slave. Seriously.
Good luck dude.
I'm sorry, but I can't stop laughing at this. Total pet peeve of mine with pics on Lush. (well, that and claiming stolen pics are your own) I received a random friend request from a guy who, of course, had the obligatory cock pics. Upon closer inspection, not of his cock, I had the following thought bubbles.
"Is he actually taking a pic holding his cock standing in front of a cat litter box? Seriously? AND it's a dirty litter box!!!!"
If you're going to take pics, clean up the area, People! Or at least crop the pics better!
To the OP, looks like you've received some very good and very thorough advice. Good luck!!
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Well I can tell you from my Mistress point of view your profile leaves nothing to be desired. You need to make it more appealing with pics in your gallery and your personal info filled out. Let your profile give a sense of who you are and what you're into. If you look at mine you know immediately what the deal is. Good Luck!
Bunny12
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Quote by Bunny12
Well I can tell you from my Mistress point of view your profile leaves nothing to be desired. You need to make it more appealing with pics in your gallery and your personal info filled out. Let your profile give a sense of who your are and what you're into. If you look at mine you know immediately what the deal is. Good Luck!
EXCELLENT advice for everyone, Bunny12!!
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Quote by nicola
Welcome to the site.
If you are looking for a mistress in real life, you're better off going to a site like [url=]ALT.com[/url].
People generally come here to read stories, participate in the forums, or for a casual chat in the chat rooms.
She's right its a very good site for dominatrix and bdsm interests
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Quote by dbnemi
wow .... you sure clean up all your posts to ...... BLANK
Advanced Wordsmith
sorry everyone i changed them all to blank because i have found someone and i would like to thank the person that brought it to my attention that it wasn' the right way to go about it. i do thank all of you though for your help and insight on the subject.
Constant Gardener
Congrats db
Another successful (initial) hook up, which can be directly tied back to the Lush advisory committee.!
Another successful (initial) hook up, which can be directly tied back to the Lush advisory committee.!
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
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I am really happy for you db. May all your mistress dreams come true.r3huD7FNfIzT7Dwj
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bubbly all around!
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