As a Dom or a Sub
What are the qualities do you seek when looking for a new top/bottom?
Where do you look?
What DON'T you want?
The single quality that I look for is trust. If you cannot trust someone forget it. Don't even go any further. You have to have open lines of communication as well, trust has to be a part of that. You need to make sure that as a Top you have to trust your sub. They need to be open and honest with you, if not the relationship will go nowhere.
I was very lucky I didn't have to look anywhere, we were already friends. Over time the relationship developed and here we are. This special someone was closer than I knew.
I personally don't want someone who will be submitting to multiple people. Like I have said before if I can't trust you, it's going nowhere anyway.
Dudealicious I totally agree with you trust is the key ingredient to a relationship and communication. Im lucky my wife is my sub/slave but we will talk things through if we are not comfortable our have any doubts.
I see if she is naturally submissive, I have met some wannabe subs who are actually not fine with being controlled. Experience is also important, its much easier with someone who knows what is expected of them. Finally, honesty and loyalty, it turns me on when I'm sure she is mine and mine only.
Had a dream I was king, I woke up still king!!
I am a sub, but now I am looking to play the role of a master. I was brutally beaten everyday by my old master. It was horrible. I would lik someone who is naturally submissive and knows his/her limits but wants to be pushed over the edge a little bit.
What are the qualities do you seek when looking for a new top/bottom? I need to be able to trust them, as others have said, this is the most important quality. I need to know that if I say my safe word, everything will stop. There also needs to be a connection, I met a Dom through a website, we got together and had a good time but something was missing because there wasn't that connection.
Where do you look? That's something I'm still figuring out
What DON'T you want? A bully, or someone who thinks they have what it takes to be a Dom. I also don't want to be one of many subs, I want to be the only one.
The good: Intelligent. Adventurous. Sense of humor. Trustworthy. And I wouldn't be honest if I didn't also say "cute butt."
The bad: Self-hating. Unstable. Takes it all too seriously.
Where to find: In the haystack.