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hello everyone...
i am 22 going to be 23 in aug 2
im a switch
i like to Dom
but i alway love being submissive
i recently broken up with my girlfriend
we have been together for 8 years
we were gonna get married next year
but i do have twins from a ex (yes i was with a guy before i met her)
Hello, my name is Nick.
Birthday is February 24th.
I'm a motivational speaker.
I love sex.
I'm looking for a blonde with curves.
Hi everyone! I'm Beth, Beffers to my oldest and closest friends (and my kid sister who first started calling me that), @JumelleMauvaise on Twitter, which means Evil Twin, both of which have been my online screen-names for the past 8 years until I also started using my real name when I took over as senior administrator/moderator on a lesbian social-site called SweetWhores.org 6 years ago. I'm 34, an identical twin, and bisexual, although I tend to fall in love with girls, while only falling into bed with guys. I run a property management company with my boyfriend David, who's been my best friend and traveling companion since college. We have experimented sexually with many different aspects of the lifestyle, ...experiences which I have been writing about for years on my own blogsites. I'm a graduate of Ohio State University (history), with a master's in political science. I'm part Cherokee and have written extensively online about Native American culture and history. I was a photographic model all through my twenties, and a frequent naturist/nudist. I'm also a political activist for progressive and feminist causes... and I wish someone had told me about Lush years ago!!
*awkwardly shuffles feet*

hey! i'm miz liz, 26 bout to be 27 aug 19th woo! i'm a switch but a naturally dominant woman which i always need to spell out for the doms out there. i call the shots outside the bedroom

i wouldn't say i came into the lifetime at any point i've always had strong feelings of dominance that over time moved into submissive experimentation. i started actually experimenting with my dominant side back in high-school and found really quickly that i love bondage whether its me tied up or the guy, humiliating them, putting them in my femme outfits and crawl around on the floor for my amusement. then later we moved onto cuckolding which got me really amped up. all in all i just love the control and making grown men my bitch *shrugs*. submission is exciting but not something i take lightly. a little bit of play like being tied up or held down, some type of bondage interspersed into it is fun but i've only had a couple that i really let take over and that was with a strong trust and lots of prior discussion on the do's and fucking do not's. some try to say that if your a switch it's because you haven't figured out which you are, to which is say BULLSHIT. both sensations are amazing and yet completely different. being a domme is heady because you have this person who is intrusting you with their body to use as your own and then thanking you for it afterwards. and then submitting to another, that's a great feeling too. always that nervous fluttering of anticipation, will he push me far this time and if so how much? i love it.
Hello, my name is Kitten and I'm a Sub in a 24/7 Relationship with my Sir.

He allows me to chat with people as long as it doesn't get serious. I wear my collar proud all day everyday and have been into the BDSM lifestyle since I was 15. I have been with my sir for Five years. I'm usually a very happy, outgoing person, so hopefully I can make friends with others who are interesting as well. heart

hi all i just love sex male female has long as it safe fun willing to try any and have never said no yet if i don't like it at lest i tried it has long has its pain free(allmost) and toliet stuff only clean fun

ive had mmf threesome with straight friends and been to male saunas i just love sex
Hi everyone.
I am Rachel and I have been doing BDSM for twenty years since I was 17. It started with two male friends who first took my virginity outside and later experimented with me inside and out using bondage, spanking, whipping and cold baths. From that at University I had my first group sex session and that led to many more adventures with fun and games of one sort or another. Although I am not as young as I once was I still love BDSM in every way and enjoy being used by a group of hunky guys who have me restrained and totally at their mercy.
Hello folks
I have been in the lifestyle for more than 5 years now, but I have seen many changes since my start. I started from a Strict Daddy Dom and am now, a little sissy Princess. It has been a long journey, with many lows and highs, that made me where I stand now. Nonetheless I have finally realized that it's been only this that I was born to be. Feel Free to ask me more if you want.
Regarding my role(as of now), I am more comfortable on the bottom, most likely a human pet/Daddy's lil girl. I live to please my Owner by any means possible. I can switch with the right partner as well,but that is very less likely to be with a male. I am very much open to anything sorta person but that doesn't mean nothing can put me off. I would not like to have to anything dealing with Toilet, Family, Forced, Crime, Blood, Extreme voilence, Children and yeah Puke(makes me throw up).
I am the collared pet of My Domina here on lush. She goes by the user destiny322355. We met almost 2 years ago, though under certain circumstances, I had to leave lush and haven't been able to make my way back till recently. She is a very loving(Momma Domme), unlike most other rougher than sandstone Domme's. She has me, body and soul, and we love each other dearly. I am her first and only pet, and moreover her Alpha bitch, which allows me to choose my play mates. But for now I dont feel the need for any new playmates, as much as I am careful to end up hurt as I am someone who gets too much attached to people.
Thats my story. Thank you for reading.

kisses
Shaaz
Hello everyone. So I was really active on here a few years ago and then there was a ton of adulting that had to be done and real life and all that jazz. Anywho, I'm soo glad to be back. A little about me. I have been in the lifestyle for about 6 years now. I currently live with my Daddy and we have been together for nearly three years. We have a 24/7 dynamic. I also top for impact play and sensation play. I have a little side. Impact play is probably one of my biggest kinks, I also really enjoy verbal humiliation such as being made to repeat to my Daddy that I am a cock loving slut ect... I love sensory deprivation, though I have not been brave enough to try any play with hoods involved. I tried bastinado last year and found that I do not like it one bit. Knife play is a huge turn on for both myself and my Daddy. I also love needle play. I attended a class a few years back and I was all a twitter for days! I am collared. I have a daily routine that I do my best to stick to and we also have rules and protocols set in place. Most days though it's just normal life. I call him Daddy when we are at home and at kink events, and by his given name when we are with the vanillas. The usual yes Sir, no Sir apply. I am not allowed clothing for bedtime and he has access to what belongs to him at all times. There is way more than I could possibly include here but that's the gist of our kink life.
Really, sex and laughter do go very well together, and I wondered - and I still do - which is more important.
I'm Eli. I've been submissive for 8 years. I like a Dom that shares me and makes it rough and stretches my hole. It doesn't matter if it's a group of hung guys or girls with big strapons. Message me if you wanna know more
Online Red Flags (Danger Signals, it’s time to hit ignore! )

onedom:

A “Red Flag” is any indication that you should steer clear of a particular person, either Dom/me or sub. These can pop up at any time, though most often in the beginning of a potential relationship. They can be obvious or they can be subtle.

Some common examples might be…

1. Inappropriate questions or comments during the initial conversations, such as do you want to play? or what are you wearing? or what do you look like? or asking for your phone number immediately, etc. Such questions have nothing at all to do with D/s, but rather indicate the person is looking for cyber or phone sex.

2. Moving too quickly: if the prospective Dom/me or sub seems to be in a hurry to begin a relationship, or to advance it faster than seems reasonable or comfortable for you. Like if they want to meet you within the first 10 minutes online. Trust is the cornerstone and cannot be rushed. Clearly, there is no arbitrary time frame, but most long-lasting relationships take several weeks if not months to build before actual contact.

3. Inappropriate attitude: “bow down and worship me” those who act as if every submissive must obey every so-called Dom, and begin giving or obeying orders from the word go. Or those who have the idea that each and every Tom, Dick, and Harry must be addressed as Sir, whether they know them or not. Many subs in the chat rooms do this, but respect is worth little if it is so lightly given. Both of these attitudes and practices show a poor understanding of the true dynamics of Dominance and submission.

4. Safety violations: reluctance to have a safeword or other safety precautions in place, either during the first meeting or later. Run.

5. Lack of communication: if your potential partner is reluctant to discuss something with you, pay attention. Likewise, and equally serious, if you are told directly or indirectly, that you may not discuss something with others, or may not talk to someone else, or may not go to a particular area, be careful. Trying to “gag” someone is a sign that something is wrong.

6. A persistent bad reputation: or unwillingness to give references. This can be tricky if the person you are talking to is new online, but it is still a red flag. Or perhaps a yellow one.

7. Trashing ex-partners. When someone is constantly talking about their ex publicly in the chat rooms and on bb’s, i.e., trying to ruin their rep, try to keep in mind that you might be their “ex” someday and be subjected to such treatment if things do not go the way they want. This is something that both Dom/mes and subs are frequently guilty of. Warning others of potential danger from an ex-partner is obviously a different case.

8. Frequent inconsistencies. If someone often makes contradictory statements from one day to the next, like Mon. tells you s/he has no children, then on Fri., mentions his/her son’s birthday or something. If a person often seems to have a lot of trouble remembering what they have said to you from one day to the next, it could be that they are telling a lot of people a lot of different things. Just in general, I would encourage anyone to really try to get to know someone before making a final judgment on their character. However, caution and common sense should always rule. If you have doubts, do not give out personal information. You can still talk to this person, but be careful and please, trust that GUT INSTINCT.

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Hi everyone! I'm Beth, Beffers to my oldest and closest friends (and my kid sister who first started calling me that)


In Dutch 'beffen' is eating pussy and so 'beffer' is the person doing that ;)


===  Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER  ===

Hello All,

I am a new Dom and in fact a new man. I had a bomb dropped on me 6 months ago. My wife of 24.5 years woke me up crying in the middle of the night. She told me she had been involved with a man online for 6 weeks and when she tried to break it off he threatend to blackmail her.

Now im not perefct by any means but ive raised 3 boys and have been a football coach, baseball coach, soccer coach, and scout master for much of the past years. My wife has had everything she ever wanted in life and not had to work a day outside the home since the month before our oldest child was born. I still to this day give her a foot and back massage every night before bed. Im a fool and still madly in love with my wife and lover.

I hate being that in love with someone that i now find never truely loved me (couldnt have done what she did if she had) and never probably will but i cant help myself.

That brings me to why i am here. Ive never been active on the web and really never been a forum group type person. The only one that doesnt and has never had a Facebook account. You see my wife told me that i was an amazing husband and father but she missed the sex we had when we first got married and the sex we had never had Bdsm. I've researched the hell out of what i can find and am now reaching out to people with real experience.

The good news is my wife says ive exceeded her evry expectation and our marriage is better than it has ever been. I dont want to leave it at that and i cant get enough. I never want to disappoint her again.

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
I have a real challenge for all female members im a 43 yr male , , and ive been setting the out to all members , in the last 20 yrs ive been looking for ne one able to turn my ass to a very dark shade of black/blue ,or have the ability to turn me to a bawling mass of flesh , but haven't found ne1 willing to try , if ur in the US , or in PA , look me up and ill let you have ur shot at this goal .
Good day all, I’m a Canadian who has had an interest in BDSM since before I knew what the hell it was. As a youth I watched many movies and seeing men controlling women came off natural to me, hearing and seeing some people being so prudish and conservative always baffled me. Of course when I became a teen and got greater access to things the scope and nature of this life style was open to me. Since that time I’ve taught women, single or in relationships, married or not. I can still remember one case where I was even talking to the guy due to his girlfriends request so he could get into the swing of things for his girl, his idea of control was getting her to take out the garbage. Oy. I always viewed this life style being most successful if you got a certain mentality and nature to you, some grow into it and some discover but if it’s a part of who you are at your very core I find the person will usually succeed best. That ability to be who you are, who you truly are without the shackles and limitations placed upon your society and it’s regular views.
Hello, my name is Charity but most people call me Cherry, I'm 52 and although I am new to the lifestyle I have been submissive all my adult life, my first fantasies were of submitting to someone usually people in authority. I married young seeking something thinking a family would make me feel fulfilled so I had children with someone who was the least dominant person in the world. Which of course led to massive amounts of us trying things to try to make it work sexually, some things helped for a time, but eventually faded and I was back to my fantasies again. So after all these years I am seeking someone to bring me into the lifestyle.
One thing about waiting so long to take this leap, I have done plenty of research I know what this lifestyle is and is not I am seeking a true power exchange. Dominated not bullied. I am willing to take my time to find the right person. I will be honest with you and devote myself to you.
I would like to get to know any subs who might me willing to guide me as well.

Cherry
Hello and greetings to all,

My name is T and I started learning about BDSM lifestyle since the early 90's - although little traces of the lifestyle like rain drops came to me as an early teen, although I had no idea what all this stuff was about since in the early 70's and 80's since there was not a whole lot you could find out about since there really was no internet at the time and besides living out in the boondocks didn't help either.

Honestly it wasn't really until the 90's did I really find the right material to read about ( internet ) and of course the people I met too helped too. I am sure we all have experienced the wanna bees and obviously some reading material was not entirely about holding a true D/s- M/s relationship but rather primarily about sexual practices or kink.

What I have learned and put into practice ( keep in mind no one is perfect) is firstly is to take a look at oneself-Do I have my life together - Do I take care of my responsibilities-? Because as they say if you cant take care of yourself how can you take care of another. It really starts with yourself - learning to communicate - learning to be patient - learning to be responsible. I think also it is great to have a kink filled mind and enjoy all of these fantasies. Although one must be able to lead /follow without arrogance - and selfishness.

No one is going to be perfect - that's why it is important to learn to work together and communicate always and about it all - whether it is a vanilla topic or kink related. It is so important.

Myself and my sub practice when we can the lifestyle and protocols - We have no book of rules from some type of Guru on the lifestyle as we talk and take what works for us in regards to our journey from one or more authors- growing together always.

T
Hey everyone, I’m Nicole! I have always been interested in BDSM since I was a teenager but have never had a partner that has also wanted to explore it, so I’m SUPER new into learning about this lifestyle. I recently have found someone willing to explore this and would like me to be her Dom. I would love any tips, tricks and overall knowledge you guys are willing to throw my way so I am a proper Dom!
The acts of punishments and rewards when I dont see her on a regular basis is hard for me to wrap my head around. As well as what is too much done for my own selfish wants/needs. Also, probably a dumb question, but is there a huge difference in making it my lifestyle or just in the bedroom type of thing?
Feel free to PM me!
Hi, I'm Chris. I'm an avid writer of spanking and BDSM stories. I'm a male switch and write Fm, Ff, and Mf stories. I look forward to sharing my stuff and making some friends.
Hi, I discovered my intrest in this lifestyle when I was in my early 30's. Still not understanding why having mostly women(and some men) tie me up, spank me....prefferably my cunt not my arse & control me, and treat me like their personal whore makes my pussy the wettest ever. But I just can't help it
Love and accept yourself 1st?
My name is dorcia and I am a slave. I am writing this with the permission of my Master, Yeahme. I was introduced into the lifestyle 17 years ago when I was only 22. I left the life for a few years but when I found my new Master, I immersed myself back into being what I have always believed I am – slave.
I have started to write the story of how I got into being a slave with the help of my Master so if anyone is interested in reading it, you can find it at

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/bdsm/-my-true-odyssey-of-slavery-and.aspx

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/bdsm/-my-true-odyssey-of-slavery-and-1.aspx


If anyone has any questions about my life as a slave, I will be happy to try and answer them.

Thank you

dorcia
Hello A/all. I'm Tonya and I'm a natural sub. I found the lifestyle several years ago before which i found something missing but wasn't sure what. Online I am a submissive and have been fortunate enough to meet several Doms. Many are friends whom I can go to with any questions I may have and I've had some more serious D/s relationship with others. I like many aspects of the lifestyle including bondage, spanking, and the structure given to you. I have also been told that I have some little tendencies and can be snuggly and loveable. I have also experimented with having a sub of my own to help me deal with a spouse who prefers to be dominated. This is a challenge for someone who desires to give themselves over to another. I also have learned much from my submissive friends who are always ready to talk me through any questions I may have. I am curious, loving, and mostly obedient. Most of my stories have some aspect of the lifestyle interspersed.

My Anti-Valentine Entry 💔

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/cheating/a-valentines-date-to-remember

My first EP and a top ten from the Pride Competition
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/lesbian/-love-is-love-.aspx

Hanging in the background but around

My name is Caiti. I asked my master if he would take pictures of me to use as he pleases. He liked the idea SO much, and he decided I should set up a Lush account and share the photos while he watches over me and instructs me. I am a big BEAUTIFUL woman. I am submissive, but I like to push my master a little bit, hoping for a little punishment. I am definitely an exhibitionist, so please check out my profile and add me to see more photos.
We have been active swingers for many years, BDSM is fairly new for us. Straps and ball gags now form part of our play box.

I’m 45 and I’ve been in to being spanked for as long as I can remember. I guess it started when I was at primary school when we were all lined up to watch the very prim, proper, and well spoken middle aged headmistresses give a group of older children what was known as a ‘slippering’ with a large, well worn, rubber soled plimsoll. Not long after she moved on to a larger school, corporal punishment was banned in UK state schools and as my parents didn’t agree with spanking children I never received corporal punishment for real, but was curious about what it felt like. That curiosity grew and grew during my teenage years and while my peers were dreaming of page three girls my fantasies were almost always about slippered and caned by a strict, stern, lady just like my old headmistress and I touched myself countless times thinking about being disciplined and sexually controlled by a strict older lady. I was almost caught self spanking with a plimsoll a couple of times by my parents in my teens, but I didn’t get my first taste of someone else spanking me until a couple of years after being married when I made a gasping request to be spanked while we were engaged in some mutual self-enjoyment (sex for us has always been about more than penetration). She was unsure at first, but agreed to try and though I wouldn’t say she raved about it, she didn’t hate it and it was pretty obvious that I enjoyed it. She got me to show her some of my favourite spanking videos and we bought a pair of large size school plimsolls and a cane, which she found she preferred to use over her hand and things evolved from there. She no longer uses her hand at all and we now have several different canes, including a viscous smoked dragon cane, and different weights of plimsolls, tawses and paddles, along with crops, gags, restraints, chastity cages (they are gradually getting smaller 😳), plugs and last year a collapsible spanking stool that we keep hidden under our bed when not in use. She is now as enthusiastic a spanker as I am recipient (more so at times), and no matter how much it hurts I am always eager to thank her with my tongue as soon as it is over. Neither of us are into leather, dungeons, whips or chains, but I love it when she plays the strict headmistress or school matron and treats me like a naughty school boy or girl in desperate need of the firmest of firm hands from her. 

I’m new here but have a couple of stories I’m looking forward to submitting. The whole idea of BDSM seems very erotic to me. I’m a bit of a control freak most of the time so the idea of totally submitting to another person is a terrifying turn on. I don’t think I’m ready for the “lifestyle” but I am fascinated by the idea of dipping my foot in the water. Maybe with a life preserver.