My question, why are collars so important? After signing my contract my master collared me. I was okay with it at first, believing that I would only have to wear it when I was with him. Then soon realizing that it was not the case. As a new slave I want to make my master happy. But being collared, it makes me feel so degraded and humiliated. It honestly feels more of a punishment than a reward to wear it. I talked to my master about this and he told me that I should do some research on this topic and try to understand why its important and why its an honor to be a collared slave.
Can anyone help shed some light on this? I really do want to make my master happy but without feeling as if its abusing me emotionally.
I always ware my Mistress' collar, it makes me feel wanted and reminds me I am loved. I was a little worried when I first wore it, wondering if people would notice it and know what it was, but no one has, or at least they don't comment on it.
My Mistress has written a part on collars on her BDSM 101 thread on here (I can't post links yet, but it is on the second page about half way down)
I would like to take a moment and thank the people that responded here and helped with SlavePrincess's dilemma with her collar.
As her Master, I am sure people will come back in to read to see what I have said here, and I want to make this clear. Princess, your inability to wear the collar right now is something that stems from things that have taken place over a long period of time.
I am proud to be your Master and collar or not I know your faithfulness to me is something that will never be called into question. We can work through this in a way that will allow you to come to grips with things in a manner over time. Because time is the one thing that I know we have and that heals all things.
If you have read 50 Shades of Gray and think that you are ready to be a dom or a sub. Then you have a lot to learn.
Follow my slave's blog slave skye's real life blog if we can get 100 followers she is going to start posting pictures!!! I know there are at least 100 of you that want to see that click the link enter your email and follow. We hit 100 then she has said she will post a picture of herself. I think collars mean different things to different people. For me my collar shows that my mistress loves and cares for me and in return I proudly wear her
collar. It also acts like a wedding ring of sorts in that it reminds me of who I belong to and that in turn helps me to remain faithful to her. I also think that a
collar is important b/c it identifies an individual as living the lifestyle.
Ravyn, first of all your words are so true.
I can not express in words the love I have for Princess. The fact is that there is nothing in the world I love more than seeing her in her collar. I understand what her feelings are and because of her uncomfortable feelings we have worked out another arrangement that has her feeling very full.
But all of you are right. Collaring a slave or submissive is all about the level of commitment a Master believes is involved with the relationship. I know in my case there is no higher compliment.
If you have read 50 Shades of Gray and think that you are ready to be a dom or a sub. Then you have a lot to learn.
Follow my slave's blog slave skye's real life blog if we can get 100 followers she is going to start posting pictures!!! I know there are at least 100 of you that want to see that click the link enter your email and follow. We hit 100 then she has said she will post a picture of herself. I don't know anything about you two or your relationship but I completely agree with everything people have said. If it is the physical collar around your neck that has you feeling degraded or humiliated, you should try getting a different kind of collar to start out with. I used to have a collar but was unable to wear one around my neck or constantly wear another type of jewelry so I wore an ankle bracelet as my collar. Something different could help you get used to the idea of wearing something for him. It's nice having just a subtle reminder of his love. Depending on your situation you could wear a collar around your neck only when you are with him, or over time work your way up to wearing a traditional collar. Some couples may choose never to have a traditional collar but it sounds like he might like you in it (ke)
omg....I love the collar, but be sure as I was collared once and the Master I had at the time was a fake...I would love to be collared by red_dragon...I would wear mine proudly...I am his
doing my best to be good..
So many have said it so nicely...its a honor. i look at mine as i look at my wedding band. i wear them both constantly and would not take off either
my newest :)
Interesting read... and the opinions expressed are what I expected to read here. My view on the collar is that it is only a symbol, and does not mean that those who ware them are any more loyal or submissive to their Master than those who don't. It is simply a symbol the sub and Master choose to share. In other words, those who do not choose to collar should not feel in any way "less" than those that do.
I would also never ask my sub to be collared. I feel that is a gift she would give to ME, and I would accept it with joy and pride. But I understand that for many reasons, some women simply would never be comfortable wearing a collar, even if they were every bit as submissive to their Master as those who choose to be collared.
Personally I prefer a bracelet, pendant, ring, or other object that can be worn at all times but does not instantly draw attention from others, but holds as strong of a bond and meaning as the collar does for those who choose that way of expressing their bond. And I know some do a combination of this along with a collar when it is more appropriate to wear.
There are times when wearing a collar is not essential to the relationship, many live in areas in which wearing a collar in public would be looked down upon. Such as your work place or the area in which you live. Even though it s 2013 many still look down upon anyone admitting to being slave.
Collars are a dangerous thing, its a double edged sword.
Many subs believe that as soon as they get a dom, they will be collared. Not always the case.
A collar is a special symbol, showing a masters love for their sub or slave. Each collar should be personalized to the subs personality. Re using a collar is disrespectful to both your sub, and degrades your relationship with them.
However, being collared by a master does not mean you get your collar right away, personally i believe in taking the time to get to know the sub, having a steady bond before actually physically placing a collar on them.
I believe when a dom gives a collar to their sub or slave they are trusting them with a part of themselves. Do not be hasty my friends. Subs you are all lovely creatures, but be patient, we all know that dom/sub or slave, relationships are a process.
I'm not sure he understands fully the symbolic meaning behind it, but even there, it's always been an incredibly special commitment in my eyes.
