I liked ruonwords answer because it hit a part of my past. I had an affair because I wasn't getting 'my needs' met which ended in divorce.. I'm now in another committed relationship and the important word now is committed. If 'my needs' are that important then for me I would have to end this relationship to go searching for someone to fill them.
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Quote by Pixie
Ok here is a question for the guys that I am dying to know how you will respond.
Lets say, that you are in a commited relationship. And lets say that there are sexual things that you want your significant other to do and she refuses. Whatever the reason may be, would you consider looking elsewhere for those needs to be filled? And at the same time stay in that relationship and not tell your significant other what you are doing?
Definitely not. I could never do that. If the thought even crossed my mind, then I would have to re-assess the entire relationship. If we spend our entire lives holding out for the one person who's in to everything we are, then a lot of people would be going without sex. And we can't have that!
Quote by mazoo
nope just enjoy what you can do together and forget about the other thing
Exactly -- and who's to say she won't change her mind down the road? My ex-girlfriend refused to let me go down on her when we first met because of a bad experience in the past. She would gladly suck my dick day or night, but she didn't want my mouth anywhere near her pussy. I was disappointed, but everything else was so great, I let it slide without protest. Then, a few weeks later, she admitted she was willing to let me try eating her out. 45 minutes later, she was coming down from her fourth orgasm and my chin was soaked!
Sex, like relationships, is fluid. Communication and compromise are key!
If a woman offers you standard conventional sex, in 90 per cent of cases, the man is as happy as Larry. One day the man could say what about bondage? Spanking. anal, oral, or whatever. The woman refuses. So the guy has his dream house, but without the garden. Normally the guy can put up with it, even for life. In terms of the size and costs of the whole house, a garden is small side issue. In a minority of cases the guy is some kind of psychiatric case with a foot fetish, he craves womens feet, it is an addiction like a drug, but the wife wont go for it. The guy with an obsession, can't help himself and will sek pleasure elsewhere, whilst in all other repsects remaining one hundred per cent loyal to the wife or whatever.
So it depends wether the guy has a compulsion or obsession. Believe it or not, most guys are kind of normal. If they get conventional sex, and a few variations to keep things interesting, he will not stray to get oral or whatever. Oral is good, but it's not crucial.
So it depends wether the guy has a compulsion or obsession. Believe it or not, most guys are kind of normal. If they get conventional sex, and a few variations to keep things interesting, he will not stray to get oral or whatever. Oral is good, but it's not crucial.
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I would have to talk to her first. But no matter the outcome, I'd never do anything behind her back.
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So you can maintain the lifestyle that insults this family's existence"
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I will never cheat on a partner and do things with others without their consent. That's terrible.