Quote by Ajax
Almost spit my coke all over when i read that . But, my coworkers, friends, family Don't concern themselves with what i do in my spare time/ private life . If by 1 in a million chance someone did recognize /confront me ? , i'd just turn it back on them.
We've had employees get caught lookin at porn on work comps in the past. They weren't terminated for it (if anything a verbal warning). If anything , some probably got a kick out of it. Know i was about it.
Have no idea why anyone would send Ginger an FR, .
Wasn't a bad question at all compared to a lot of what you see around here. Why is she catching flack for it?
Not like she asked why people put porn/genital parts on her wall. Considering it is a sex site and all.
Quote by 1LovelyKinkyKitsune
Ginger, some people just send friend requests, it is really just that simple.
Some of the guys said it well, and I just realised this is on "ASK THE GUYS" ~ sorry.n9vLLDAX78fD1LZ0
I am the same way.
I understand.
My profile has said a lot of things right up front, and always has since I first joined, yet I STILL get requests. I am not pissed or bothered, I always knew that it would pronbably continue, maybe less, and I can use that as a source of reference, and that is as much as I can do. I can't make everyone read my profile or even go look to see what things I state BEFORE making a request. I mean~ it just doesn't work like that. I read profiles, but that doesn't mean everyone else does or even wants to. I think profiles are interesting but some people just see the picture and that is all or a post and that is all. It is not nessicarily a faux pas or bad, just people are different and have different reasons than what I may have. Maybe they see me on a forum and they are not thinking this is rude or inappropriate... I get requests from straight males, married males, males looking to swing or have an affair, straight females, lesbian females, bi males, bi-females, AND couples, lol. Sometimes someone has actually been interested in some of my interests or we talked because of a post and it was a bit deeper than just a random request. I don't mind messages. O mind chat requests even more than f/r because my computer freezes, lol.
So to answer your original question, and in all seriousness, I seriously doubt the friend requests will stop altogether no matter "what" you do & some people just do not look or think about things.
Quote by dpw
How come you haven't had any from gay males? That would complete the set, lol.
You are right about not being able to stop it. It's as easy to press "no thanks" as "accept" and if you check their page you might get a pleasant surprise.
Some people only visit infrequently and you may have forgotten them but they remember you.
What bugs me most is when I send a pm and they only accept them from friends. This is mainly when they write stories. It's happened a few times when I wanted to say how much I'd enjoyed their story and I can't send it. It never says on the profile page and it just wastes my time.
Quote by 1LovelyKinkyKitsune
I know right! I have gay male friends in 'real life,' and we get a long great. I am open to all kinds of friends here or rl, but who talks to me regularly here on Lush determines more. (Yes my signature and things that may be a superficial reason, why or why not, unless someone wants to get to know me for other reasons, and that happens some, too.) Though, personally, I don't reject a friend request, but I usually do not accept. I like to get to know someone, or talk in messages and know they are someone I will speak to ocassionally or frequently... but that is just me. I am not male and should not have answered here. I can say that my bf will not send a friend request unless he becomes friends. He doesn't take that lightly. We have had one mutual male friend we both talked to.
Quote by dpw
The first part was said tongue in cheek because there are only two of us that post in the forums.
You said that you don't accept but you don't reject! Do you just leave them in the request folder? The person that requests thinks that you've rejected them anyway. You aren't informed of a rejection, so if you hear nothing then you assume it is rejected.
Quote by Buz
Ajax, already many employers fire or do not hire people just because of what they post on their Facebook and Twitter accounts. Public school teachers have been fired for posting photos showing themselves drinking a beer and the US courts have have backed up the firing.
It all depends upon your career choice.
If you're a dancer, bouncer, or bartender down at the corner strip club, then I doubt you'll catch any grief, but many other career choices will not fare so well.
Being careful with one's true identity online is their own choice. It is a choice and if it turns out badly because they were indiscreet then they only have themselves to blame. That's life.
I am guessing Ginger, being a female, gets bombarded with male friend requests from guys she does not know and has become frustrated and overwhelmed with that.
It is a sex story site and most guys are horny. So a huge number of them will overwhelm women with friend requests. That is life.
I prefer having a good reason to send out a friend request, having already met them here or discovered that they have taken an interest in my stories or poems.
Quote by ginger86
as stated in profile, avi isn't me. you have no idea what i look like if not a friend. i spend a lot of time in forum games and they understand me. at least those who get to know me. now go read my profile, would you still send a f/r? so with my negative profile and can't see pic of me, why so many f/r from me and other girls who you know isn't them
Quote by Nikki703
WOW. So much hostility today!! Send F/R, Don't send F/R! Read profile, don't read profile! Seek attention, avoid attention! Be my friend, don't be my friend................Life is too fucking short people!!!
Quote by kinkygirl
As you all know my avatar is the real me. I got tired of all the Hollywood glamour and all the beautiful rich people so I decided to join Lush. I have also gotten friend requests saying how beautiful I am. Since they can only see my avatar do they really believe I am Scarlett?
Quote by dpw
How come you haven't had any from gay males? That would complete the set, lol.
You are right about not being able to stop it. It's as easy to press "no thanks" as "accept" and if you check their page you might get a pleasant surprise.
Some people only visit infrequently and you may have forgotten them but they remember you.
What bugs me most is when I send a pm and they only accept them from friends. This is mainly when they write stories. It's happened a few times when I wanted to say how much I'd enjoyed their story and I can't send it. It never says on the profile page and it just wastes my time.
Quote by jeni
When I get a friend request I always check out their profile and if I find them interesting I will add them. If I find that we are not compatible there is always the delete function. As for the accept/no thanks thingy I use to hit the "no thanks" one if not interested but I found, at least in some cases, that this doesn't always work. I have said no thanks to more than a few guys, girls too, and a few days later get another request from them. Maybe they suffer from short term memory loss or maybe like profiles they don't read them either or they send out so many they don't even remember who they've sent them to. Now I just leave them there unanswered. It may be rude and insensitive but I learned that if you don't reply they will get a message saying "you have already sent this person a request" if they try to send another one. I'm sorry if anyone reading this sent me a request and I didn't reply with the no thanks.
Quote by jeni
One thing that really is almost hilarious to me. You get a F/R from someone you've never interacted with and a message that just says hi. You go to their profile and all they have is one of those red and white avatar. They have no bio, no pictures, no stories and nothing at all about their interest. This has happened quite a few times to me. Does anyone ever really accept those kinds of requests?
Quote by AngelHeart01
It may be confusing since your past avatars and pictures weren't you either, but you played them as if they were.
If you are a writer on lush, I would think the more friends the merrier. I mean, don't you want people to read your work? If you aren't a writer and people request to be your friend it's probably because something perked their interest. If you don't like being called pretty, etc thinking they haven't read your profile ... Why have an avatar? You have that option too.
After reading your responses to people on here, you may no longer have this problem.
Quote by jeni
I now see why people seldom ask serious questions on Lush. Some of you take all as a joke, some dislike a person and find a reason to put them down, and a very few actually answer the question asked. I thought this was a very relevant question and wanted to hear truthful answers but seems most of you wanted to express past hated, not liking the person, or loving her, or just be an ass. Only a few actually answered the question. My avatar isn't me either, so fucking sue me, is yours?
Quote by overmykneenow
The question itself seemed to me more rhetorical than anything else and I'm sure it was only posted out of frustration. As has been pointed out already, the types of guys she's aiming the question at aren't the type to come on here and throw their hands up and say "yeah, my bad".
The truth is, people add popular people. If you have a high presence on here you'll get a lot of FRs. It's almost as if people see the Socialite badge and think "well she must add anyone!"
Personally I wouldn't send you an FR because I would have read your profile and thought - and I apologise for this in advance - "23 year old, bisexual, topless waitress - yeah, right!" - fact or fiction it just sounds ridiculously implausible to me. I stress, that's just my impression from when I read it. A lot of other guys here will lap that kind of stuff up though and be desperate for you to be their friend.
Most guys here don't have lots of friends and don't know how to go about getting any either so they will just fire the FRs out indiscriminately . Girls generally don't have to send FRs because they will just end up in their inbox anyway and multiply like fungus.
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I hope that was a serious enough answer to the question for you.
Quote by ginger86
I was actually 22 when i wrote this
. I guess there are no topless waitresses in your town or somehow you think the angels serve you. You made it apparent us girls don't exist. have fun and bye
Quote by ginger86
I was actually 22 when i wrote this
. I guess there are no topless waitresses in your town or somehow you think the angels serve you. You made it apparent us girls don't exist. have fun and bye
Quote by CurlyGirly
Ummm, does that mean you're Jeni? No more Lush lunch breaks for me. Now, I'm confused.
Quote by ginger86
I was actually 22 when i wrote this
. I guess there are no topless waitresses in your town or somehow you think the angels serve you. You made it apparent us girls don't exist. have fun and bye
Quote by Mazza
Ginger, I hope you don't mind me saying, but I think you need to relax a wee bit - that's twice in this thread that I've seen you take something personally that wasn't directed at you.
I know it's been a wee bit heated, but this wasn't even about you at all!!
Quote by kiera
I'm curious as to when Ginger has used an avatar and played it off as being her, perhaps you could be more specific and give examples?