Lot's of guys are wussies and see a negative profile and want to "fix" you or "make you happy"
So inadvertently you may be attracting a specific personality.
I read the profiles or the posts to see if something there interests me. For others they do not even read the profiles
No offense, but I generally don't add any girls who profess to be lesbians or bisexual, because more often than not, they are really interested in speaking to girls.
Ultimately it's your choice who you friend and who you don't.
Best of luck, my advise, ignore them.
From what ive seen men dont care whos avatars are real or fake. They just want the fantacy for cyber. And for ALL of the women attacking other women for fake avatars need to calm down. When your real photos end up on Tumblr or any photo search with out your consent you wouldn't be so quick to judge.
We are all on here for different reason. Just injoy it and show everyone some respect.
As you all know my avatar is the real me. I got tired of all the Hollywood glamour and all the beautiful rich people so I decided to join Lush. I have also gotten friend requests saying how beautiful I am. Since they can only see my avatar do they really believe I am Scarlett?
Avatars: Posting a recognizable face picture on your avatar is your decision, but should not be decided on lightly. People can recognize you – friends, family, co-workers, employers, probation officers, creditors, and so forth. In many cases your career could be jeopardized. You can also leave yourself open to stalkers finding out who you are.
Friend requests: Random, nilly willy requests do not seem sincere. In some cases though, the requester may have read your bio page and been impressed with you, thinking they would enjoy getting to know you. Maybe they enjoy your stories and would just like to know the author a little better.
I suggest just making sensible decisions.
I would still F/R you.
I don't care what people look like. I'm interested with your personality.
As you can tell from my avatar, it's not all about me. It's more a look at my sense of humor.
Seriously, there are some of us who don't bother with the avatars. I look for friends based on either comments they have made on a story of mine, a story they wrote which touched me or their profile. Every picture tells a story, they say, but not here.
When I friend someone, its because they are interested in my writing, I'm interested in theirs, or both. I do read their profiles but unless they specifically state they don't want requests, I offer one.
When I do, I'm careful to be polite and respectful. I'm upfront about my intentions or lack thereof. To be honest, I've almost never been turned down.
Whether or not people are accepting you isn't about who you are or what their desires may be. Its about how you present yourself. Be respectful, don't assume a woman wants to cyber you and tell him or her your real interest and why you'd like there friendship and you will find they will be respectful and open to your request.
well! Some of that was....interesting reading....For me the point is simple...have the respect to read a profile...use a little judgement before sending an F/R....a little interaction, be it Forums, chat, familiarizing yourself with a writer's work beforehand speaks volumes to me about a person's character...exhibiting respectful behaviours in response to a profile isn't that hard...
Disclaimer: yes ginger is a friend of mine...being a lazy ass, non-multi-tasker I don't chat with her much...but she destroys me in Forums on a regular basis and makes me laugh like hell...
Late last night I received a friend request from some girl I had never heard of. Her introduction to me was "Hi".
That's not going to cut it with me for a friend request. If I were to do that I'd be laughed off this site in no time.
I replied to her asking why she wanted to be my friend and her reply to that was that she owned a blog and that she didn't think a "Reason" was necessary to become friends.
I checked her profile and saw that she has been on Lush all of two days and had amassed 178 friends, some of them gold members. I turned her down, saying that I like to talk to my friends from time to time and that a collector like her wasn't interested in what I have to say anyhow. Being a lemming isn't for me anyway.
I guess it just goes to show that it takes all kinds to make up a large club such as this. The biggest power we all have is the power to say no.
First even those who are are our friends in real life we also dont knew them but after some time people start talking to each other and if they both like each other they become good friends but here at lush u mostly dont talk with the petson in ur friends list so just forget about getting response who are not there in that list so however i thing is a good person or can be a good person i send him f/r. tats it.
I am with Serene Prodigy here that response is real perspicacity.
My Av is clearly not me .. there is absolutely no ambiguity about that.
To respond to the OP: your question is logically flawed.
It (maybe not you because clearly you are too intelligent to make that mistake unwittingly) implies that you are a blank page on here. Obviously you are not; in reality you are a bit of a queen around here.
Hence you have already revealed quite a lot. The qualities that come over are those of considerable intelligence, and fierce individualism. You are a contrarian, and very opinionated.
All this makes you interesting and possibly worth considering as a friend.
But you know all this only too well which is why my learned colleague above has captured it all so well with his picture.
I also know one of your greatest pleasures in this life is to stir the ordure and pitch it into the fan.
Please do it again soon.
Have a very nice day.
Bxxx