I don't understand why they should be offensive. In fact, l would very much like it as l would be able to perform anything that would pleases both of us.
I hear you. Had way too many boyfriends who were freaked out by it. But I think it's down to a lack of understanding as to what submission means. I think a lot of guys stereotype D/s behaviour based on society, porn and unimaginative friends so it's up to us to explain what it really means.
Some guys possibly see it as welcoming disrespect for women? I, for one, can see why that would freak out some men.
Stock answer to most forum questions:
Some do, Some don't
Love blindsides us all.
It can be erotic, though even with a fully submissive woman it's not my nature to be all that controlling. I've not had an experience, I am sure, quite like you're describing.
The closest I've come to being in that situation started when my wife was tired one time, spread her legs and said 'just take me'. So I did, she was a living 'fuck doll' and everything I did was all about my pleasure. It was surprisingly erotic, more than I would have expected.
I think they might get offended by you wanting them to be dominant.
To be a Dom is not all that easy, it's not something anyone can do.
I thought submissive people worked that way too, that they can't submit to whoever.
If someone wanted to control me and pushed me about it I would get offended too. There are two or more voices in a relationship, why is yours the most important? I'd say it's better to meet halfway or try to find someone who is a dom, from the start.
Do they?
maybe they saw it as you just being lazy and ot wanted to take control and give him any pleasure? Personally i like doing both, but more being submissive than dominant.
Because men have been taught from an early age that being dominant and controlling and forceful with a woman makes them an asshole or an abuser (or somewhere in between).
Society upholds the traditional assumptions about romance, with the "perfect lover" being gentle and a giver and putting a woman's needs before his own.
Sometimes, it might be hard to deconstruct those things when it comes to sexuality.
I can see how some men might be confused or uncomfortable when a woman asks to be dominated/controlled or humiliated/degraded when it comes to sex.
and with the mix of cat and doll, you get a confused guy, who might get "confused" which can be interpreted as "offensive.".
I think like most things in life it depends on the peson them selves but i wouldnt say all men find submissive women offensive infact i know for a fact there are plenty of men out there who strive to find the perfect submissive woman
Er.. we dont actually. Most girls who think we do are projecting their fears of being seen as a wanting slut. But its not our view per say.
Squirt is in the eye of the beholder
"Totally submissive = boring partner." ... or the 40's, 50's and 60's. Welcome to sexual evolution.
as my experience it is a nature of a girl to be submissive maybe one way on how to hold their man, for some they find it as offensive to their part but for me every behavior has to be talk, process so that you meet half way by compromising the guy wants and girl wants.
People fear the unknown and what is different, and to a lot of people the dom/sub (culture?/style) is different than what they are used to or they have preconceived notions about it.
"So how does it feel to know that someones kid in the heart of America
Has blood on their hands, fighting to defend your rights
So you can maintain the lifestyle that insults this family's existence"
Security is mere illusion; yet in that illusion lies security.
They don't seem very offended when a girl is on her knees in front of them with a mouth full of cock xxx
I don't find a submissive woman offensive, but I do find it intimidating. To take control of a woman, a man must have control of himself, no? My wife is the epitome of submissive, yet I have no control of her, simply because I can't control myself...
If the person you are with finds you offensive, I would suggest that the problem does not lie with you, luv, but with the other person...
Submissive women do not offend me, far from it. Dominant women offend me. Simple.
You are very young and probably inexperienced. It's natural for many young women to be submissive. In fact, it feels natural for many women throughout their lives. Find someone who wants to dominate and let them help you learn as much as you can about the give and take of relationships. It's as simple as that. Pretty sure you will either be happy being dominated or learn how to ask for something different.
Most people enjoy some give and some take. : )
Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.
