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Why not let your self cum? What's the point?
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To make the pleasure last longer ; it also makes the orgasm more pleasurable at the end.

I'm a certified edger myself, especially when I masturbate. Sometimes I can masturbate to porn for one hour while alternating between wanking and pausing, and I finish with a big orgasm at the end. At other times, I can masturbate for 5-20 minutes and not cum at all ; I might have another session where I'll cum later that day or the next one.

I must say I lift weights almost every day and feel very lethargic after cumming. Thus if I masturbate before lifting, I make sure I do not cum to maintain enough energy for my session.

- Masturbating without cumming provides me some form of high as it raises my dopamine levels.

- Cumming gives me a down as it raises my serotonin levels as well as other relaxing hormones (prolactin, oxytocin, etc).
Edging builds up our ejaculation capabilities. When I start edging on a Saturday morning say, and do it periodically throughout the day, by time evening rolls around my cock is not only hard and raring to go, my cum blasts are very potent. Even for a middle age guy, I can still pump out two or three sizeable ribbons of cum. Wife likes watching me letting it fly, especially at the end of a handjob!
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To make the pleasure last longer ; it also makes the orgasm more pleasurable at the end.

I'm a certified edger myself, especially when I masturbate..


So how do you get certified? Is it like a big circle jerk and the first to cum is thrown out? This is really interesting..........
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Why not let your self cum? What's the point?


I know this is directed toward men, but as a woman who loves to edge, perhaps I can help you. Similar to the men's responses, edging allows me to get close multiple times in a session/day/time frame so that when I DO let myself cum, it is explosive and my body has built up and built up to the point that the orgasm is much much better than when I just get off quickly.
Two reasons... to keep my hand in with self-control

Secondly, for a mahoosive splooge that would give Niagara an inferiority complex - usually gratefully received on my gf's tits. Ok, I lied about the first bit, it's a massive splooge.
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So how do you get certified? Is it like a big circle jerk and the first to cum is thrown out? This is really interesting..........


A sort of 'last man standing' situation? Sounds messy.
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A sort of 'last man standing' situation? Sounds messy.


A big messy and delicious circle
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not sure what that means. any help ladies
Quote by SereneProdigy
To make the pleasure last longer ; it also makes the orgasm more pleasurable at the end.

I'm a certified edger myself, especially when I masturbate. Sometimes I can masturbate to porn for one hour while alternating between wanking and pausing, and I finish with a big orgasm at the end. At other times, I can masturbate for 5-20 minutes and not cum at all ; I might have another session where I'll cum later that day or the next one.

I must say I lift weights almost every day and feel very lethargic after cumming. Thus if I masturbate before lifting, I make sure I do not cum to maintain enough energy for my session.

- Masturbating without cumming provides me some form of high as it raises my dopamine levels.

- Cumming gives me a down as it raises my serotonin levels as well as other relaxing hormones (prolactin, oxytocin, etc).



Coming from (sorry, I couldn't help it) another Certified Edger I'd say SP has it dialed. I know my findings from years of, ummmm, research mirror his as far as the effect on sport interest/performance go. As others have noted, the final release is heightened both physically/visually and with that lovely rush of hormones that we all crave.

Spending (the puns just keep spilling out) an evening with your partner with the intent of keeping her on edge, up to the brink then backing off repeatedly, is so hot! Setting the tone with candles, baby oil, and a massage is my go-to and for best results it's never a bad thing to have her restrained just enough so she can't reach her trigger.
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I know this is directed toward men, but as a woman who loves to edge, perhaps I can help you. Similar to the men's responses, edging allows me to get close multiple times in a session/day/time frame so that when I DO let myself cum, it is explosive and my body has built up and built up to the point that the orgasm is much much better than when I just get off quickly.



Well said SecretLush.. men aren't the only ones who edge.
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Why not let your self cum? What's the point?


What's the point of questioning what someone else does with their own body? Do you have a checklist of acceptable techniques for the next time I jerk off?



When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
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What's the point of questioning what someone else does with their own body? Do you have a checklist of acceptable techniques for the next time I jerk off?


I do! You can start by keeping the frigging camera still, you keep going out of shot.
Agree with what everyone has said here. Makes the final shot that much more enjoyable.
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What's the point of questioning what someone else does with their own body? Do you have a checklist of acceptable techniques for the next time I jerk off?


Honestly I was more just curious about it . Believe it or not not everyone is expierenced enough to have a jack off strategy . I was simply looking for a definite answer on wether people do it for pleasure or if it's something that benefits your partner
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SecretLush said it all...for both sexes!
Just to add to the already large amount or right answers..
For the premature guys here(I used to be one of them) edging helps you train your muscle and by doing so (in my experience!) helps you last longer over time.
Riding that edge just feels so fucking GREAT! Prolonging the pleasure really is fun. Plus, Sometimes I'm jerking in front of my computer while watching a porno AND reading a lush story. I want to have my big explosion around the same time the dude in the story I'm reading goes over the edge as well!

Anyone else do that?
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Why not let your self cum? What's the point?


I'm ultimately in agreement with the other guys here, but another reason (for me at least) is that it's easier to go a second round when I'm with a woman than when I'm alone, so it's simpler to edge and keep the pleasure going.
its like taking the control totally over .... like dominance !!
To achieve a better and longer orgasm…
nener thought of the reason, but is kinda fun sometimes!
Because otherwise we would cum so fast that no women would ever sleep with us silly lol
I do this all the time, but I didn't realise there is a proper term for it! Like many others have already said, I do it to prong the pleasure throughout the day. When I do eventually allow myself to cum, it feels so intense.
Keeps me turned on longer. I can edge for hours, there's still going to be a cum. Let it build!
So much better in the end. It is sort of like ....put two breaths of air in a balloon and pop it. Ok. Now blow up a balloon until it is as large as you can get it and THEN pop it. Big difference in the results of the released energy.
It's all about the tease...I'd love to have a woman just tease me until I'm about to explode then stop for a bit, and then start it all over again.
Because it’s such an exquisite feeling holding my penis on the brink with my shaft so taut I feel it’s going to snap and ultra sensitive to touch. And of course it leads to a much stronger orgasm.
Cause its damm close to multiple orgasms. When I learned it back in my thirties I found I could train my self to go further & further along the pleasure curve into orgasm. The further I can extend that pleasure without triggering the muscle contraction of ejaculation the more orgasm like that peak is. The second part is training my body to voluntarily back off from that peak, leaving me still aroused and able to become erect again and reach another peak without ejaculation, then come back down for a while.

Some times I finish with the contractions and a flood of semen, other times I reach a post orgasm level of satisfaction without making a mess. Either way I've had within a couple hours two - four orgasmic levels of pleasure. It also seems to be releasing a lot more of the endorphins putting me up to the same for of 'high' that you can get from a extended erotic massage.

Some of my partners have understood this well enough to assist and even control the cycle of edging & backing off.

For me, as a 65 year old, I can edge/play with myself for hours, but once I cum, all sexual interest is gone for a quite some time.