Why are attractive guys so boring?

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It usually feels like the guys who look the best don't know how to keep a conversation going

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Is that a view you have formed through conversations here or in real life or perhaps both?.

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I am unable to look at a man, any man, and say he's attractive or unnatractive until I've heard at least a sentence come out of his mouth. What do we consider 'attractive'? Attractive to me is a man who reads, who knows how to play chess, who can recite at least a few poems off by heart, who knows that Africa is a continent and not a country, who likes to travel, who appreciates science and history, who is well spoken, charming.... I could go on. Is appearance important? To some extent, sure. But I'd much rather spend the night with someone like Benedict cumberbatch or James mcavoy than Brad Pitt or Ryan Reynolds.

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Sorry, I was just upset because a guy I went on a date with was a total bore and it was frustrating. To me, attractiveness has a lot to do with personality and confidence but a little eye candy never hurts.

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It usually feels like the guys who look the best don't know how to keep a conversation going

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Some men can be attractive and interesting

Or so I've heard

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I've got the opposite going for me: unattractive and dull as dried dog shit.

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A few good looking men and women can be self-absorbed and shallow, but certainly not the majority of them. It may be that their looks have opened doors for them and they have not developed other aspects of themselves. Most of us get past the surface and are interested in people for the content of their minds and hearts, not what they are wrapped in, handsome/pretty or not. I am attracted to intelligence, kindness and humour rather than looks.

I agree with MiaCroft above.

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It usually feels like the guys who look the best don't know how to keep a conversation going

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It usually feels like the guys who look the best don't know how to keep a conversation going

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So is DateKate saying she finds boring guys attractive? Or is she saying the guys she finds non-attractive are not boring? The answer to these questions is yes. She said she finds good conversation attractive, and she implies non-attractive guys can hold a conversation yet they are not attractive. In other words, while the ability to hold a conversation is an attractive trait yet isn't enough to make one attractive in her mind. Also lacking the skill to hold a convo isn't enough to make one unattractive--just a bore. So what makes one attractive to DateKate? What makes one unattractive to DateKate? She didn't say. At best we can only guess that conversation skills are only a optimization to attractiveness. You have to listen to women. Most of the time they don't make sense such as in this case. But if you pay enough attention the answer is there. The girl will always give the guy the answers he needs to know--most of the time without her realizing it.

My advice to guys looking to test the waters with DateKate is you most likely are the type she finds unattractive, yet if you can hold a conversation long enough she'll have sex with you. She claims to be able to deep throat. I'm not going to lie that alone made me want to talk to her. Talk to her about everything under the stars and slowly hone in on a subject that interests her and then--hey look at that! I guess you can add me to the list of guys that can make it look like she has an Adam's apple.

Keep in my I have found that the prettiest and most confident of girls role in packs. She's going to tell her friends all about it. So if you're not trying to fuck'em all it's best to leave the one's that look like DateKate alone because you may find yourself that the attention of other hot chicks. If you're the type of guys that needs attention from many women, well then, I guess it would be prefect for you.

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And it should be his job to keep the conversation going because why? Obviously not a guy but that was what sprang to mind.

Myself, I find men who can keep up with me in conversation, incredibly attractive. Male? Catch a fast reference to Tim Russert, David Bloom, Ed Bradley, Morley Safer, Edward R. Murrow, Mike Wallace, et al., sharing beers in Heaven? You've just caught me.

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It usually feels like the guys who look the best don't know how to keep a conversation going

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Awwww I don't think you are...I think you have excellent taste in avatars (that cup of tea looks perfect) and music You know what a real troll is, what they eat and where they live...you think I am an awsome friend even though I had to Gloria Estefan you to get you to admit that I quite like you tbh and apologise for saying so because if the OP is correct then I am saying your in my attempt to actually try to be nice to you by saying I don't think you are boring

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I'm guessing the same reason so many hot women are airheaded bimbos.

They've been attractive their whole lives and have come to rely on it, so they never bothered developing a personality or brains to go along with it.

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I'm guessing the same reason so many hot women are airheaded bimbos.

They've been attractive their whole lives and have come to rely on it, so they never bothered developing a personality or brains to go along with it.

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Belthazor don't you dare bad mouth bimbos. The bimbos of the world make the world a happier place. For the record I love bimbos. I think they are misunderstood in your eyes. In fact bimbos are misunderstood in most guys eyes. Usually when a guy calls a woman a bimbo it is showing that it doesn't truly know how to connect with that woman on an emotional level aka love level. For example, DateKate, you may see her as a bimbos that love taking dick and only good for making dick cum real quick. She's just being honest with the type of dick she likes and how she likes it. I've found a lot of women say they want really big dick but turns out they don't, and it is because they weren't being honest with themselves in the first place so they couldn't realize what type of dick they honestly enjoy the most. On the other side there are some women that hide their feeling because they fear people will perceive them as bimbos. Shame on you sir. What you call an airheaded bimbo, I call an emotional savant. Women like DateKate intuitively know how to make get to his highest level of excitement because on a primal level they want a guy to get hard and throbbing and to the point his in a craze. Women such as DateKate this by lending themselves to the moment. So they, the women you call bimbos, put all of what they're feeling at the time into the moment as the result the guy cums quickly. In the end she did get what she wanted, even if it happens to be brief, him at maximum excitement. The aftermath of him cum quickly, may not be what she wants, it's just a reality for these types of women. One of the traits for the ideal mate for a woman such as DateKate would have to be able to also thrive in that type of environment. In other word, he would have to be able embrace her emotions long enough for her to also reach maximum excitement. And this shouldn't take hours in fact climax should happen within mere minutes. Those for DateKate and a suitable mate they want and need multiple peeks within the same round and small breaks between rounds--where toughing, kissing, rubbing take place. Try not to judge man. You call women such as DateKate bimbos because in fact women similar to her are sexual geniuses and wouldn't be complaining when she makes you achieve your powerful feeling climax within 2 minutes. Then you pass out because it was all you could take, with a smile on your face. And she not made or upset because a girl like DateKate is used to that. Girls like her think that's normal. Normal is only what you make it. So try to see from other's points of view.

DateKate I wasn't offended. You worded a post in a way that was meant to invoke emotional response without having a real answer. At least you thought there was no real answer only opinion. Their was an real answer to the question and I gave it to you and the others to see. Don't be shamed of how you feel. Keep being open like that and I can assure you that you will find the guy just right for you. The only draw back to being completely open, for women, is that you'll also many others getting at you. Your looks, the way you talk, think, humor. All these this will make push the guy for you your way weather he knows it or not.

As for what I think about DateKate? Knowing her and myself, I'm not about to message thoughtful things to her. That would create an intimacy and you know things would take off from there. I'm smart and being responsible. I don't want anything like that to happen so I do the responsible thing and not PM her.

Nothing personal DateKate. People such as me and you have to stay clear from each other.