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Clearly B...it's the courteous and correct thing to do in any situation regardless of site...
I think R.A. Heinlein said it best, in Time Enough For Love:
Moving parts in rubbing contact require lubrication to avoid excessive wear. Honorifics and formal politeness provide the lubrication where people rub together. Often the very young, the untraveled, the naive, the unsophisticated deplore these formalities as "empty," "meaningless," or "dishonest," and scorn to use them. No matter how "pure" their motives, they thereby throw sand into machinery that does not work too well at best.
So, yes, please reply. But a simple "thank you, but no thanks" will suffice.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
If you don't reply to me, I'll have a little bitch to myself about how rude you are. However, I'm likely to concoct some excuse(s) for you like that you're really busy and/or in high demand. Perhaps it's just my nature but if you don't reply then I'll probably forgive you.
If you send me a little note saying, "Not today, thanks," then it's harder for me to invent excuses for you and I'll just be offended.
If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
personally i would rather know where i stand. a small thank you no thank you is fine by me.
I prefer B after all it's nice to be nice and if you do get a nasty reply then it would appear that you were justified in not wanting to chat with them in the first place
For me, it's B. Whenever I get a message, (which is not very often sadly, lol) I will always respond. I would like the same courtesy, but I know that does not always happen.
"So don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
Don't lie to me,
Just get your things.
I've made up your mind."
--Evanescence
It all depends on how its written. alot of times i just delete them if im not interested in what is asked said or what ever. most of the time its men who dont read profile first asking to be friend so they get what they deserve, but then i mean to keep it as exclusive as stated in profile. its always good to be helpful to others so im more then willing to answer questions that are relevant. if one is being friendly ill be glad to talk
Well at times the unsolicited messages can be annoying, but a kind, "no thanks, not at this time" is all that I do.
no response is the best. If someone doesn't answer back then i know they are not interested.
i try and reply to all messages and i say why if i have declined..but on my profile i have a lil note about what guys i'm interested in, mostly i only get messages from guys who fit my criteria..perhaps if more people put this on there profiles they would not get unwanted messages..just a thought
Just let them know if you're not interested
How would you respond to this if it comes from someone you have never had any contact with, and then it was followed with a friend request?
hey!!! how are you sexy??? HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
have you had sex in these days? with who?
how long is the biggest you have ever tried? and the smallest cock??
do you want to see my cock?
do you like anal sex?
what do you want to know about me?? make me many questions...
Because I get them all the time as I am sure many other women do too.
Not the best way to get me to want to chat with you but at east this one didnt ask for any naked pics, they usually do.
I do try to respond to all of my messages - sometimes that can take a while, as I do get snowed under...
Some will just be a polite refusal, some will really make me laugh and a bit of banter can happen...
any message would be nice i would not be at all judgemental xxxx
When I get a nice note, even if not interested, I'll send a short note back. But for the rude and/or offensive clots, they simply get blocked. You do not owe some jerk, who feels he can start questioning details of your personal life, a moments time.
I find it interesting when someone friends you, and on your first hello, they say nothing. I would love to get just a short return, not the generic *im busy catch me later* I totally realize some of you are very popular, but have the courtesy being human and not using the fast way out. "just sayin"
i would prefer a small message saying something along the lines of "hi, i read your message and i'm sorry but i am not interested" ... although a no return message means much the same to me and i will always avoid re-messaging that person (unless it's been some time and i forgot i messaged them in the first place! lol)
