I have always wondered why guys in porn hit women in the face with their p*nis...and the whole spitting in the v*gina thing..if that happened to me in real life I'd get a bit upset...do men really do this in real life ? Is it a turn on and if so why?
I know this is a girls ask guys question, but here goes (if you want more answers, I'd post it in "The Lounge" instead).
I'd guess it's because 99% of porn is aimed at men, and 99% of people who produce porn are men, and treat women like objects to be used.
How much porn have you ever seen where a woman is treated with respect and tenderness?
I've never slapped a woman in the face with my cock.
Are you saying the guy is spitting on her vagina, while he's inside her, for more lubrication? I've seen that before.
I watch porn, but yes, there is something more real about reading these stories as they are down to earth. I am new to this site, but I love it and sharing our thoughts so openly with one another.
SE, I heard years ago there's supposed to be a company run by women that made porn directed toward them. Can't remember the name of it. Supposed to be nice and sexy.
Jenna Jameson started her own company years ago.
She made " Conquest " and many others.
She dscided that it was better to control her movies then let let other tell her what to do.
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Thanks BB. I've never seen one either but heard they were supposed to be good.
Yes - former porn actress Candida Royalle started the company to make films better suited to women's tastes. I have only seen one of her films years ago and I enjoyed it.
Thanks, Chef, BB and Ali. Those movies sound better suited to me. I'll have to check them out.
I have to say though SE that some time just for shits and grins you should get your girlfriends together with some wine or whatever and watch one of the other kind. The kinds we don't like. I never laugh so hard as when I have a couple glasses and then rip one of those movies apart with my girls. Laugh at the wallpaper, the clothes, what he says, etc.
Something else we do is compare how many old BFs said some of the same cheesey lines.
I remember Candide or Candida Royale. I didn't know she went into producing. Jenna's made a porn empire.
Both are a turn off, if I am watching porn and that happens I stop it.
There's porn and, then, there's porn. Different strokes for different folks, as the saying goes and when it comes to porn one's enjoyment, or repulsion, is as individual as fingerprints. In general, however, men enjoy the visual; women the written word and that maybe because women are more discerning.
As regards to respect shown, or tenderness given and/or received, that's not the point of porn. It's basis is to get the viewer hot. For some it's intercourse, for others BJs and, as one of my favorites, cunnilingus. Now whether or not the "actress" is faking her orgasms if she does a good enough job so that I can't tell, I'm satisfied, but if she can't, the film is a failure.
One of the things I most enjoy about porn are still photographs and artistic renditions. Some of the earliest porn (not all liked, but nonetheless interesting) is the Femdom Art of Bernard Montorgueil, which treat men as the sex objects of women. He drew these pictures to illustrate his written pornography at about the turn of the nineteenth to the twentieth centuries. Before him, of course, is the notorious Marquis De Sade and following him, at the close of WWII, are renditions supposedly of enema art, but, actually, depicting woman pedophiles abusing boys (if having all manner of sex with them is called abuse). No doubt, these latter illustrations were born from a sharp decline of men in Europe and most particularly Germany following the war.
The latest, or one of the latest sets of illustrations are the outrageous behavior of women toward males in their efforts to sissify them. Amusing, but quite outrageous.
The only male tenderness I've ever seen displayed to a female in porn was in a henti. I've never been able to find actual porn where they were having sex rather than just fucking.
"Think left, think right. Think low, think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!" ~ Dr. Seuss
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Good point, Loislane.
I have never spat into a woman's vagina, but I have slapped a woman in the face with my penis ... at her request. When my sex partner specifically and emphatically asks me to do something, I do it. Now, a lot of people (me included) would say "That's weird, that's disrespectful, that's abusive ..." and so on, but how weird/disrespectful/abusive is it when you are honoring a request?
Porn vs. Real Life: Watching pornography to learn about sex and relationships is like watching "The Flintstones" to learn about dinosaurs. For informed adults who are seeking stimulation or entertainment, you're going to get it. For the uninformed who are seeking information, you are looking in the wrong place.
The sex you see in porno is rarely fun or comfortable or practical in real life. The sex you see in porno is visually interesting.
I like porn. I watch my share of it. But it needs a disclaimer at the bottom: THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ACTUAL RELATIONSHIPS or possibly that old stand-by PLEASE DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME.
