I’ve always wondered if you are secretly on here how would your spouse react if she found out.
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I'm putting number one but am not sure. I keep thinking about how to break it without a major upset. After all, it's been my secret for seven years now and the realization that I had this other life might be a problem or a revelation. I certainly don't see her joining, but she might let me stay once she saw it. And it hopefully would open some doors, including perhaps a reboot of our sex life (which has been on hold for probably 3 years now).
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I think seeker4 just read my mind and within a few years. I'd say I've been on here for around nine years, but have/ would have the same grief. Would love to see her on here though.
You don't seem to have listed my situation. My spouse has always been aware I am on Lush. I am here to a great degree to write. I have accomplished that. I also have social activities. My spouse is not aware of all of them. But has never expressed any interest.
It would cause a great degree of upset and not entirely sure how it would end. I certainly couldn’t see my wife joining as sex is supposed to be not spoken about and kept behind closed doors.
You haven't listed my situation. My wife knows I'm on Lush and actively encourages me to write my stories. It also turns her on when she reads them. Especially the true accounts of our adventures as it brings back some very erotic memories.
My wife is aware and doesn’t approve and told me that she feels like it’s like I’m cheating on her. If there was more Intimacy in the relationship I wouldn’t have time to be reading the stories.
I doubt that she'd be upset knowing I was reading erotic stories. She's found me looking at porn on several occasions, and while it's a little embarrassing and awkward, it's not really a big deal. My social game on LS is limited to none, and I haven't been looking outside the marriage for any kind of sexual or emotional connection (either online or in person). The most problematic thing, I think, is that some of the stories I've written might not land very well with her since they were inspired by fantasies about other people we know.
My wife doesn't know I'm on Lush. We have an infant so she's in bed early with the baby every night. She knows I stay up late to "work things out on my own" but I can't say she approves of my activities.
Quote by scottob1234 She knows, it should be on he list.
Same here. She not only knows, she has her own account and profile, reads, writes a little, and has a small group of friends. Not an issue for either of us, obviously.
Wow I read the replies on this page & some guys are going thru the same thing I am. Our sex life is dull if it happens at all. I joined Lush for the freedom to be myself & not have to hide from what I feel. My wife does not know I am on here & she'd be mad if she found out.... Couldn't imagine the outcome but I would probably shut down for a little bit.
None of the poll answers - my wife is here on Lush with me! But we have no secrets between us so even if she wasn't, she would know I was and she would be fine with it. She trusts me and I her. No problem.
Quote by samg61 She has known since i joined. She has her romantic novels she reads and is not interested in the site.
^^^ This. My wife knows I'm here, is happy when I place in competitions or just write because I love doing it, but she's not interested in reading them. She read one or two and just went, "Meh." Haha.
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She doesn't know, but I doubt if she found out it would be a big deal. We are mid 60s she is "played out" sex wise and I am not much better in the physical dept, but still have the mental horniness of a teen, so if she found I was reading erotica,it wouldn't matter any more to her than her reading her Victorian biographies etc.
She doesn't know, but I doubt if she found out it would be a big deal. We are mid 60s she is "played out" sex wise and I am not much better in the physical dept, but still have the mental horniness of a teen, so if she found I was reading erotica,it wouldn't matter any more to her than her reading her Victorian biographies etc.
Quote by ramblerman62 Wow I read the replies on this page & some guys are going thru the same thing I am. Our sex life is dull if it happens at all. I joined Lush for the freedom to be myself & not have to hide from what I feel. My wife does not know I am on here & she'd be mad if she found out.... Couldn't imagine the outcome but I would probably shut down for a little bit.
Well, my wife told me I was expendable after she'd learned of my appetite for reading and writing erotic stories. We agreed to separate and I went on to make myself a new life. After being without me a while she now acts like she wants everything to go back to where it was before we agreed on the separation. I prefer being separated but I still make time for her and our family except in the bedroom because I never stay with ANYONE once they tell me I'm expandable. After reading the other posts on this blog I feel we're all in the same boat as to why we're here in the first place. I'm in the first year of the seventh decade of my life and I too - like someone else who posted recently - still have a teenage mentality when it comes to my libido. In face, I'm better now than I ever was in my teens and twenties in most every way except for a few aches and pains that creep up on me now and then. I will stay married as lone as my wife wants us to be but I will never make love with her again. It has been 4 years and I haven't missed that part of my life one bit. But I do love the family we've built.
And none of the poll questions fit me, and really don't fit a lot of other guys here either.
I started this thread to find out about being on here “secretly” so that is why the poll questions are that way. Sorry if I confused some people but I am enjoying everyone’s comments
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My wife is sitting next to me as I surf Lush Stories listening to music on Pandora. She is my muse and encourages me to write stories and I'll occasionally read her some of the posts and how I responded.