This happened a while ago but i wanted to get more male opinions on this..
I asked my boyfriend of nearly a year to stop spending time with this one girl i was really paranoid about, she seemed to have a vendetta against me and cause me nothing but trouble and i was incredibly paranoid that he would cheat on me with her cause they had been friends several years before we met and i had been friends with her so i knew what she was like. All i did was ask him to not spend time with her when it was avoidable since i know they worked together and had to spend some time together.
The main thing was when she had a new years party and he insisted on going and spending the night there after saying that others were staying over at hers too... He did at first ask me to go but since i cant stand being around her i refused and then insisted he was going alone even after i suggested we spend new years together instead.
All i want to know from you guys is if you were asked by your girlfriend/boyfriend of nearly a year to not go to a party in this situation would you think she/he was being unreasonable and paranoid like he tried to make me out to be?
Btw he finished with me the day after i asked him not to go and spend it with me instead, got with her three hours later, shes caused nothing but hell for me since and even threatened me with a knife for no reason and yes he did spend new years with her, had sex with her that night and gave my returned christmas present to her and i now have to see him and her everyday until i am able to leave.
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I don't think I would like it if my girlfriend tried to go "I don't want you spending time with her." But I would make it very clear to her that she had nothing to fear from said girl.
But that said, I think that if you've been together a year it's not too demanding to want to spend New Year's eve together, and I consider it wrong by him to leave you on your own for New Year's, especially if you didn't really have any other plans. I don't know how the living situation is with the two of you, but surely he could have come hom and spent the night with you? The whole "But everyone else is sleeping over" is the reasoning you hear from a child, not a grown man.
Maybe I'm just a pushover, but I think he's in the wrong here and you have a right to be upset about it.
But that said, I think that if you've been together a year it's not too demanding to want to spend New Year's eve together, and I consider it wrong by him to leave you on your own for New Year's, especially if you didn't really have any other plans. I don't know how the living situation is with the two of you, but surely he could have come hom and spent the night with you? The whole "But everyone else is sleeping over" is the reasoning you hear from a child, not a grown man.
Maybe I'm just a pushover, but I think he's in the wrong here and you have a right to be upset about it.
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All this happened 5 MONTHS ago: "Btw he finished with me the day after i asked him not to go and spend it with me instead, got with her three hours later, shes caused nothing but hell for me since and even threatened me with a knife for no reason and yes he did spend new years with her, had sex with her that night and gave my returned christmas present to her and i now have to see him and her everyday until i am able to leave."
I can't believe you are still stressing about this scum. ALL he is wanting is a "new/fresh" piece of pussy and has NO REGARD for you. He does NOT care for you at all. Any lovey/dovey words outta his mouth toward you is just an attempt to get back into your bed. Don't even give him the honor of "dumping him"...ie...telling him off, etc.....just TOTALLY ignore him and go on about your life. Get away NOW!!
Threatened with a knife...THAT's reason enough there to get away NOW.
Rick...who can't stand D-wads that do *^&%^ like that!!
I can't believe you are still stressing about this scum. ALL he is wanting is a "new/fresh" piece of pussy and has NO REGARD for you. He does NOT care for you at all. Any lovey/dovey words outta his mouth toward you is just an attempt to get back into your bed. Don't even give him the honor of "dumping him"...ie...telling him off, etc.....just TOTALLY ignore him and go on about your life. Get away NOW!!
Threatened with a knife...THAT's reason enough there to get away NOW.
Rick...who can't stand D-wads that do *^&%^ like that!!
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Antonia,
There is a reason our eyes are on the front of our face. We should always be looking forward...
Move on!
Only our butt hole faces the back. That is all they deserve to see of you.
There is a reason our eyes are on the front of our face. We should always be looking forward...
Move on!
Only our butt hole faces the back. That is all they deserve to see of you.
I have females friends I have known for years and I wouldn't let my girlfriend dictate which party I could go to and which I couldn't. The better option would have been to have sat you and her down and laid your cards on the table so you could have thrashed and sorted it out.
As it turns out, he was after this girl all along so just move on and find a better guy next time.
As it turns out, he was after this girl all along so just move on and find a better guy next time.
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I would be okay with that I think.
And this sounds like a case of the girlfriend probably tilting the "how much will I put up with depending on how much I like her threshold" too far toward the "I don't want to put up with this shit anymore" side.
By choosing the party he is letting you know he doesn't give a fuck cause you're being annoying. Too annoying to care about your feelings enough to want to spend it with you. He may sense you are in a bad mood anyway and anticipates a fight if he spends his evening with you pretty much guaranteeing a shitty night. That could be a reason too.
I see this is all resolved though by what you say at the end there but I felt like being honest tonight.
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I would have stopped spending as much time with her, especially since I would have KNOWN
she was purposely after you, with only ill-willed intentions. Maybe I would just be a means for
her to get back at you; an instrument/trophy and nothing more. Shame he didn't consider this.
She sounds like a venus fly-trap, and you're better off without him.
she was purposely after you, with only ill-willed intentions. Maybe I would just be a means for
her to get back at you; an instrument/trophy and nothing more. Shame he didn't consider this.
She sounds like a venus fly-trap, and you're better off without him.
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Regardless of whether I thought you to be unreasonable or paranoid I would have not gone this assuming of course that I wanted our relationship to continue which does not seem to be the case here and thats the key. No bloke who is enjoying a relationship would want to jeopardise it over attending a party on his own surely !!.
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Sounds like you're better off.
That wasn't being paranoid btw.
That wasn't being paranoid btw.
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Regardless of whether I thought you to be unreasonable or paranoid I would have not gone this assuming of course that I wanted our relationship to continue which does not seem to be the case here and thats the key. No bloke who is enjoying a relationship would want to jeopardise it over attending a party on his own surely !!.
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It looks like she went after him and you getting paronoid helped her cause as she might have hoped it would. But saying that he more than likely had been with her before that in casual way for him but would have given her hope that they could be couple. As to telling a partner what they can and cant do it is a fine line between reasonable request and jeloulos raving. Having peeked at your pics I dont think you'll have trouble finding a new squeeze or two to help you move-on as you look like the bees knees.
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tonibabiiee,
After what you have explained, and after being with him a year, you had all the right in the world to ask him to spend New Years with you and not her. If that guy had any morals at all, he would respect you and not worry about being with her. It's obvious that he has more than a working relationship with her. He had that going before he was even with you.
I can tell you right now, he has no respect for you and that if he loved you, he would have never thought you were unreasonable with your request. Since his heart was leading him astray, he saw that as an opportunity to be with the other woman.
Now, it's your turn. You need to put your feelings aside and get out of this relationship while you can. While you still have feelings for him, it is apparent that he has none for you at all. All he wanted to do was fuck the other woman instead and when you said what you said, it gave him free reign and he took it.
Nothing is holding you back from leaving. You just think there is because you still have feelings for him. Think about how he treated you. I know if it were me, the moment he took the opportunity to leave and get with and have sex with her, that would have been enough for me. I'd have been out that door in a second.
I think you even know you will be better off getting out, so ask yourself, what's the one reason that is holding you back? If you can't answer that question, then you have your answer.
He definitely is not worth your time, and if you ask me, not worth the other woman's time either. Sounds like he thinks more of himself than being with someone that loves him.
After what you have explained, and after being with him a year, you had all the right in the world to ask him to spend New Years with you and not her. If that guy had any morals at all, he would respect you and not worry about being with her. It's obvious that he has more than a working relationship with her. He had that going before he was even with you.
I can tell you right now, he has no respect for you and that if he loved you, he would have never thought you were unreasonable with your request. Since his heart was leading him astray, he saw that as an opportunity to be with the other woman.
Now, it's your turn. You need to put your feelings aside and get out of this relationship while you can. While you still have feelings for him, it is apparent that he has none for you at all. All he wanted to do was fuck the other woman instead and when you said what you said, it gave him free reign and he took it.
Nothing is holding you back from leaving. You just think there is because you still have feelings for him. Think about how he treated you. I know if it were me, the moment he took the opportunity to leave and get with and have sex with her, that would have been enough for me. I'd have been out that door in a second.
I think you even know you will be better off getting out, so ask yourself, what's the one reason that is holding you back? If you can't answer that question, then you have your answer.
He definitely is not worth your time, and if you ask me, not worth the other woman's time either. Sounds like he thinks more of himself than being with someone that loves him.
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