Of course, why not?
There's a reason she's my crush and she may or may not ever know so what possible harm could there be. So far most don't know.
Truthfully most of my fantasies include my wife. I know, weird, but that's the way it is.
All the time. You're overthinking it, dude.
My latest story is a racy little piece about what happens when someone cute from work invites you over to watch Netflix and Chill. I don't actually, it just feels wrong to do that. Maybe I'm just weird.
Not always. Sometimes I fantasizei about women I've seen in the grocery store, or gas station. Sometimes it is people I know, like co-workers, or clients (or clients' wives) or musicians or their wives. I like variety. LOL
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
I have really never heard this. I understand people having some guilt, but it sounds more like you are so caught up in appearences not wanting to "be the pretender" - that it happens to be that it makes you exactly that. How would strong confidence be diminished? The awkwardness sounds like a personal problem. I say this and comment not to sound so harsh as I am for the female point of view that I would want my date to be real. I want someone honest with themselves or they can't be honest with me. I am not so offended. The air or the confidence is not by any means the whole package that could also be blown in other ways upon those initial opportinities.
I am with the person who I consider the love of my life and I know for a fact he was very much infatuated and fantasized about me before we got together. Yes, he even told me. It took him awhile and he was a bit shy about how to admit certain things, but for him, it was more important to him that I knew the extent of his feelings which went beyond sexual gratification. Did that bother me? NO. It might someone else, but really I like that we can talk about most anything and be comfortable and it takes that practice little by little, nervous or not, ESPECIALLY when you want something more. The ideas about what others might think, or feeling like you are carrying a dirty little secret is more about you, and not something you can presume how another person would feel or how they would perceive you anyway.
Did it "hurt" our relationship? Absolutely NOT.
Did it make him feel uncomfortable when we met? No. We are STILL together.
I might be hurt if I knew he "couldn't" get in that place with me before we go out for whatever fear or complication and yet jerked off to random other females not out of respect for me but from his OWN issues. Ohhh no. I do not see this as something you should avoid... rather I think this is something to be considered and as to whether there is too much put into this that is over complicating something that should not be so complicated.
Certainly makes sense - and is even noble in a way - but for me, think over the years I've masturbated thinking about pretty much every girl I had a crush on. This post reminded me of one woman I worked with... goes back 20+ years ago... had such a crush but never in a million years thought anything would happen... she was married... we got to be friends... she was so hot... I'd masturbate on my knees... thrusting into my hand thinking of fucking her doggy style... well wouldn't you know it... little while later... she got separated... we got flirting... then more... and then boom... I was on my knees fucking her doggy style lol...
Yeah all the time it's a blast !! Lol
My only crush is my girlfriend. And I don't need to rumb one out when it comes to her. That may sound lame but that's how it is for me.