I am wanting your thoughts and advice...I spent time and effort preparing a sexual date night with my husband and was eager to please him for hours and enjoy anything he wanted to do with my body. I practiced with my toys until I could deep throat and showed off my newest move and yes he got off once and after a rest started receiving my mouth again and then I noticed that he was falling asleep...I asked him if he was up for continuing and he said yes so I rolled over on all 4 his favorite position and he was just reaching my growing desire for more when he was finished and ready for sleep!! I decided to finish off myself with a toy and instead of him going to sleep he played on his phone watching stupid videos for a hour and never noticed i was begging for sex and rubbing my clit raw!!
Am I overreacting or is this something all men do?
what would you have done if I was your wife?
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I would have fucked you silly till you got your much deserved orgasm...if my pecker is tired i have hands, fingers and a tounge that are not. I dont want to bash your husband but this just sounds like a lazy lover....
I totally agree with clay I always make sure anyone I am with wife or anyone else I may be with that you get all the sex and orgasms you need or want. So I feel you are not overreacting and if you were with me wife or not you would get what you need completely
What he said with his actions was "you're boring, I neither love nor desire you." Your next inquiry should not be to this forum but to a competent divorce attorney.
Now, let us suppose that this thread was begun either 1) by a guy who wants to leave his wife or 2) by someone, male or female, who just wants to stir up some controversy. In these cases my response would be: 1) grow a pair and do right by the woman, and 2) get a life, dickhead.
kjsteadham~ real men don't just fall asleep when sex is happening or about to happen. You've obviously married a little boy if he still plays video games on his phone over being with you. Maybe you should try having sex with a woman. You don't have to worry about unwanted pregnancy and woman really pay attention to other women's needs. YOU have to put your foot down & make a decision cuz it will NEVER change. Personally I would have had sex with you until we couldn't move anymore.
My wife has begged a few times. She would just "turn on". Her pussy would soak her pants, even drip from them. That could sometimes take the entire day of all night to satisfy. She would be raw and sore next day, but satisfied. I always tried to please her. If she needs another orgasm, I do my best to deliver for her.
Young lady you got the wrong guy. I know cuz my wife is not in to sex at all & when she does let me do her it's like a chore. I LOVE sucking & licking everywhere on a woman from her head to her Feet & if her TOES are pretty I will suck them too. NO video's or games or TV takes the place of a woman who needs sexual love.
That was just rude of him. He should take care of you as much as you did of him and more. Obviously not too tired to watch videos. I'm so sorry that happened to you and I agree that he didn't deserve you in that encounter.
A man should always aim to leave his woman hanging from the ceiling by her toenails and fingernails totally spent driving wet begging for more. I am an older guy and when I couldn't get up a second time
, I would do cleanup, finger her, use her toys and when she said stop she couldn't cum anymore, I got her off one more time.
Sorry but something is going sideways with your man.
Well I can see how easy it is for people to say dump the guy, but I have a different suggestion.
People focus a ;lot on sex and forget that communication is even more vital.
Before you throw this relationship out the window, sit him down after dinner. Turn the TV off, and have a serious talk.
I can be Captain Oblivious at times, especially when my mind is fizzing with something else.
So don't assume he's picking up your body language or your subtle messages.
Don't make it it a YOU conversation make it a WE conversation.
A YOU conversation will only make the other person feel like they're the villain, they're going to shut down and get defensive really fast.
A WE conversation is an honest attempt to find a way that BOTH Of you can get what you need.
There can be a lot of reasons people act like they do, and not all of them are to do with you.
Have you considered maybe he's afraid to tell you what he's really feeling.
Sometimes you just don't feel like having sex, but if you turn it down you can feel there's going to be a consequence down the line.
So sometimes people have sex, just to get it out of the way.
I don't know I'm just guessing. Go ask him. Properly, respectfully and with compassion.
Then you can find out if it's something you can BOTH work on together.
Some of my best friends had relationship troubles because they didn't talk about how they felt.
Sometimes the women put out, so they didn't feel like a bad wife even when they didn't really feel like it.
Or felt they were really boring and kept trying to spice things up, when all he wanted was a cuddle because he was worn out after work.
He felt he can't turn down the sex or be a bad husband, and she feels she has to put on a high end porn show to keep him interested.
We can be kinder people, better teachers and better communicators.
So take a moment, ask yourself what you really feel, what you really want to make things better, and how you'd like them to help you do that.
Then LISTEN. Don't judge them. Don't push them. Listen to them.
Then at least if they mumble and don't bloody tell you what they're feeling or why they did that. THEN you can blow up and have a knock down fight over it, with some cause.
Whatever was posted is always meant in love and respect never to offend.
I'm also highly likely to have posted this from a phone so there may be typos or odd word changes, auto correct can be a pain.
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If you were my wife I would usually give you as much as you wanted. I used to be able to keep going all night but now that I'm older it would be best to lower expectations. That being said its a bit unfair to expect your husband or any sex partner to have sex whenever you want them too or to keep going when they don't want too.
Sexual proverb #1; Never let the man cum first, or the woman will go unsatisfied!
It's true. I'll speak for myself, unless we had been planning a marathon night, once I have a satisfying orgasm, my drive is depleted. And, like a lithium battery, I need time to recharge. Unless we're on vacation, after a day at work and good sex, I will typically fall asleep before the recharge takes place.
On the occasion that she surprises me with a spontaneous invigorated sexual urge needing to be satisfied...(i.e. coming to bed in heels, lingerie, freshly shaven, wet and demanding, unexpectedly) without my prior knowledge of her needs...well, then, I'd realize the opportunity being presented me and I make sure that she is EXHAUSTED before I cum! I'll gladly give he as many orgasms as she can have, and then finish. Because, still, late on a work night, my body (especially at my age, now) will still need to recover, and no matter how good the sex, ill likely fall asleep before that happens. But after her 3 or 4 orgasms, she'll likely beat me asleep.
I think any GOOD man would think similarly. Mabye it was a fluke and he was just, truly not in the mood but couldn't refuse a blow job.
If it happened again, I think a conversation should take place.
That's unfortunate and I'm sorry it happened. You're not overreacting and should have tried to talk to him about it. Don't let this experience ruin your motivations to try again and it it goes the same way, be sure to say something so you both can address the problem.
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Kinkme is right. I always make sure my wife cums first and I try to make it last. we always have a lot of foreplay. But she knows I am a giver. Her pleasure is very important to me. You are not overreacting. You should have been pissed and told him so. if you did all that for me. i would absolutely go down on you and not come up until you were well pleasured. And then telling you how hot and sexy you are. Sounds like hubby was pretty selfish. My wife wouldhave made me sleep on the couch and it would have been a long time before I got another blow job from her. Happy wife, Happy Life. especially when it some to sex. :) :)
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