I can't help but think that if this was in the ask the gals section written by an exboyfriend that most of us would be saying how immature that text was and how he needs to get over it already.
I wouldn't reply. In fact, it would probably boost my ego and get rid of any
hurt I might have had with the split.
What you said in your text and what you did (text him a long swan song)
contradicted themselves big time. As an outsider, it seems that you were
hurt by the fact that you haven't heard from him. In truth, silence is the
quickest way to show someone that you DON'T care, have moved on,
found someone to occupy your thoughts and time...not texting them.
a message like that, that person is dying for some contact from you, your best option is to completly ignore it.
Why bother replying? You aren't going to make him feel bad. Chalk it up to experience, and move on.
Id say, Oh hey thanks for findng my phone, drop it into the police station with my name on it. Ill go pick it up. The rest of your message seems a bit weird because we broke years ago and you and I fucking hated each other for years. Im married now and however your life has worked out, i hope you are happy. i am and just wished I had not have been such a weak, jealous dickhead when we broke up and you had not have been so fucking cold and arrogant when you cut me out of your life, but im glad you had the foresight to see we were never gonna work. Funny I know for a fact you went off the deep end when we broke up, i think thats becuase of the cold cold way you deal with everyone you have a disagreement with. I played as hard as you did but i never ever got that fucking cold. Oh and i saw your brother the other day, give him a ring he said he hadnt seen you for ages.
I'd say that, I saw the above GF the other day when I was out with my wife. I AM SO GLAD WE BROKE UP all those years ago.
It's like the deep purple song: "I was hurt when I was young...er, by a woman who was cold, she took my name (well thankfully that didnt happen) she took my body and threw away my soul".
my ex who i cought in the shower with another man on our wedding day said something like that to me about the guy who now beats her.......she tryed convincing the community that i was horrable to her and they all looked at her like she was on crack b/c i would do things like bring her dinner at work and stay home with the kids all the time so she could go grind with other men at the dance club......so my reaction when i recieved a letter like that from my ex was tell her she is an idiot.......
"The lady doth protest too much, methinks."...Hamlet
well this is now wrapped up. he started texting me all the time and i am with a new guy. he got mad cuz i always got upset when the ex texted me so he told him off and got him out of my life. i will be big enought to admit i did still have feelings then and was just trying to urt him it was stupid and childish but the past is the past what the hell can i do about it now?? nothing!
Good on you Jack for admitting you had guilt over the break up, but I think you have created more turmoil by running and hiding rather than addressing the issue with her direct ally surely she deserved to be treated with some integrity and dignity through the ending of your time together. All I can say is you need to grow some balls and Cagomay you need to stop living the drama and move on......
Personally I would not have responded to the email at all but tried to catch up for a chat if I needed too
The best thing to do in this situation is walk out the door and dont dignify poor behavior with any response, just keep moving forward
If I received that message from an ex, I'd simply hit "delete" and move on with my life.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
I would not respond, other than possibly to stop by the local courthouse for a restraining order. I don't know about you, but my phone has a nice feature called "delete contact"
"I can resist everything except temptation." - Oscar Wilde
I've had something kinda similar happen, but the person was serious. Shades of reality.
But, if I got that message? I'd tell her to eff off and forget she existed.
But I'm a self-respecting gent. A person with no ego or an axe to grind might crawl back or bait you into a fight.
I wouldn't respond and cut all contact. You are clearly not over it.
Life goes on; turn the page and test the waters out there.....
goodbye good riddance and don't let the door hit you in the ass
If I bothered to answer (I doubt I would) I'd say: 'this email explains why we are no longer together. Goodbye, good luck and die happy!'
I always try to end on a positive note. That way if they commit suicide I can say my last words were, "I hope you have a good life."
I wouldn't.
Even if I could decipher what she said, what I got screams "don't respond!". That seems like an odd thing to share with the world, though. Anyway... I hope you're both happy.
I'D ask her to pass along a message to him -- GOOD LUCK
