I have been thinking about getting slapped (hard) while having sex and the thought really turns me on. I am not sure that i would willingly admit it to anyoue though.
How would you react if a girl asked you to hit her during sex?
In my own opinion and experience this is a pretty common masochistic desire. It sounds weird but it's fun to feel the pain of a slap or punch to the face from someone you highly desire. To do something like that, giving or receiving, is breaking through all barriers. You can never be closer to someone. A person you are close enough to take pain from (or give it to) is the closet relationship you can have.
Hair pulling, anal, spanking, slapping, choking, humiliation.
Think about the people you do that with and the people you don't. Think about who you trust more.
It turns you on because it's highly stimulating (good or bad), it's fucked up and you're sharing that with someone. Extreme situations and acts create bonds between people who share them.
I couldnt do that .. it goes 100% against my morals. Now point her towards the grill, the deep fat fryer and fridge .. no worries.
I'd have to question where the relationship is going. Anyone who knows me well knows I'm very uncomfortable with violence and pain on any level and I doubt I could really bring myself to handle even that mild level of pain play.
Different, uh, strokes for different folks, I guess, but a 'face slap' is just a bit outside of my zone!
(Somebody quite recently asked me to 'choke' them during the old horiziontal polka and I couldn't do that either!!! In fact, she ended up in fits of laughter when I tried!!!)
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Couldn't do that. There is a difference between passionate sex and abusive sex. Prefer the passionate
Oh, i understand, but that's not me. I'd politely decline, and that's all. Pain goes both ways.
Assuming I was being asked by a woman with which I was very comfortable and familiar, I think I could be open to it. However, I certainly wouldn't go full on rough and forceful. While I'm all about being a team player and giving a woman what she desires in the bedroom, I would be lying if I said the idea didn't make me at least a little bit uncomfortable. If I were allowed to take small steps with it and gradually work up to a level of 'smack' with which we were both comfortable then I would be open to giving it a try, for her benefit. However, if I were asked in the heat of the moment, with no opportunity to gently explore the concept and be reassured of her desire, I think the best I could muster would be a cautious and playful slap, about on par with the forcefulness with which I would use for a love tap on the ass.
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I enjoy it when one particular female lover slaps my face. Yes, it hurts but we both enjoy it. For me it's not cruel or mean, it's sexy and thrilling. So...I would understand if a woman wanted that. But I'd struggle a bit to do it - and could never slap her really hard. A man isn't supposed to hit a woman, ever - and all that. I'd very much want to please her but I'd start very gently.
my reaction would be to slap you tell you tell me it hurts I have been asked before and now there is no thought just reaction
I am always out to please my lady. I would slap you hard, then, if you wanted more, I slap you even harder. Then I would continue fucking even rougher.
While I couldn't hit or punch a lover, I do slap ass pretty hard. I've done some light choking when they've asked. I definitely have done a lot of hair pulling or whatever. If this is something that she is into and it provides pleasure for her then I could do it, but I would never be abusive. I will add, my wife can get into some pretty rough sex and I love to make her happy. She has begged me to slap her ass, but so far she has not asked me to slap her face.
It would end the sex for me. To each his/her own, but pain and pleasure don't go together for me. I cannot and will not knowingly, purposely inflict pain.
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Hey... pssst.... that's an l (as in luscious) at the end of my name, not an i I could never bring myself to do that. And I would find the request very off putting and wouldn't be able to continue.
I would slap your ass, pussy, or tit. But, not your face. Too much like abuse instead of kinky sex.
Definitely not for me, sorry.
I feel I have been given a lot of good answers from two different points of view, and while it has not made my mind any clearer about this I thank you for your responses
Why not, if she asks. In the heat of the moment it can be sexy. But I would slap her in the most erotic way. There is difference between a sexy slap and slap.
I would happily slap her if she asked . I once had a lady friend who got turned on by being caned on her ass tits and pussy . It was the only way to get her wet .
I would slap her but making sure not to leave a mark
If that was what turned her on and aided in her reaching a mind blowing orgasm I would help her as long as it did not leave any long term marks on her face.
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