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How often are you told "No" when it comes to sex?

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doctorlove
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What do you think some of the reasons are?
buzzbomber52
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When married, I lost count. There was never an overt no, but it was I'm tired, or I've got a headache, or we have to get up in the morning, or just turning over/away. Then there was the total turn on "are you done yet?"

I just gave up, and quit trying. When I would try to talk to her about it, we'd have a big fight. No makeup sex either. The breaking point was when I asked her to shave and her response was to ask me if I was a child molester.
Red is the color of sex and signs that say Do Not Enter

The best thing to hear in the middle of the night - Lick Me
Subtle
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I stopped asking four years ago or so. I go to bed and she is fingering herself, thinking I can't notice what the jiggling of the bed is from. She wants everyone to think everything is fine, and acts like we are accomplishing our goals, etc. All the while...my mind is young while my body ages.
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Well, if your question means any relationship we ever had, it was seldom I got a no. It's usually pretty easy to guess when someone's not in the mood, but most of the women I've been with were quite sexual, so even if they weren't thinking about it, some humor, a little touching and eye contact and it was off to the races. Obviously, as in one time, when the woman I was with came home in tears because of an accident she had witnessed, I wasn't about to try to draw her onto the sheets, even though that was exactly what I was thinking before she actually came through the door. But occasions like that aside, or just health reasons like her monthly blues, I've never really been with a woman who needed a lot of coaxing to disrobe and open herself to me. Considering the post of the poor guy above me, I guess I've been very fortunate in company I've kept.
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They were too many... I lost count... "no" with a slap were much less though smile
ChuckEPoo
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I wanted to say something funny about the headache thing, but a couple losing their desires for one another is not a laughing matter. Guys, look at your situation. Are you still "dating" her? Treating her special? Maybe she says she's tired because she really is. Our situations are all different. Most women are holding down a full time job and if mothers are burdened with child care and domestic responsibilities. When they head for bed they are exausted and thinking of relaxing and sleep. How about restoring the romance? I did and it had amazing results. I started cooking more and helping with a greater amount of the chores around the house. At night, instead of looking for sex I started just talking with her rediscovering the amazing woman I first met, all while I was massaging her legs and tired feet. A miracle happened. We weren't just having sex but making love. Like I said, we are all different but worked for me.
1nympholes
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I think if you asked my guy over the last 25 years we have been married, he would tell you that he could count those times on one hand. I must have really been sick those times FYI
realz
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Kind of a lot now, my wife is having health problems.

When she's up to it she lets me know, but even then she doesn't have that much energy (kind of a mercy fuck). Those times it seems very important to her to excite me, more than she gets from the sex itself.
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NICOLA: "DON'T!!!!!"

Me: "you never let me have any fun..."

xx SF
Paman
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Unfortunately my wife's prolapse means that I have been living with an apologetic 'No' for some considerable time now.