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well basically this time next month it will of been 2 years so i guess i just got used to it *shrugs*
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How do you handle not having sex for a long time?
Candy Connoisseur
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The same as most guys. Just take care of business yourself...
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well in my case it meant my wife was cheating. it was kind of a dead give away when nothing happens for month or 2 at a time. before that it was once or twice per week.
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Isn't that just called "Marriage?"
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I masturbate a lot!!
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I've never had that problem. I always got the game on to make my girl feeling horny 24/7 so that way she's good to go whenever, forever.
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Quote by Espresso
What happens to you and the relationship when you go with out sex for awhile?
Sorry, if I wasn't clear before. I hope that helps.
Looking in my past..lack of sex does not cause the relationship to hurt but it actually has made me more sensative to Her needs... made me look her our lives more critically to see where the problem might be.. I have looked at myself more from her point of view to see if I am actually the cause of the issues.
Then when I have found what the real cause is worked to improve on it...unfortunately there have been factors which might be totally out of my control (not me just having sex) such as illness (physical or otherwise) outside forces (job related) etc. which have devistated not just the relationship including sex.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”
― Helen Keller
― Helen Keller
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Plenty of self love. You know jerking it.
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As a young man of 20 I was once marooned in the Libyan desert for 2 years so masturbation was the main alternative though in retrospect with a more worldly view I think a few colleagues ''experimented.''
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well,sex is best,but,masterbating gets the stress away&keeps ones balls working well!
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If I was not getting sex cause my gf just refused to have it anymore id find out why
If there was a legit reason id be ok with that but if not I would have no fucking idea what to do and id just end up using my hand a lot
If there was a legit reason id be ok with that but if not I would have no fucking idea what to do and id just end up using my hand a lot
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I'm experiencing such a situation at present having moved house and home some considerable distance from my previous address. Also the guy I was seeing has moved to Bahrain for work purposes. It's not an ideal thing for me but I get by with masturbation night and morning and keeping my eyes on the look out for a potential new friend with benefits.
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Having spent 20 years in a marriage throughout which I was sexually rejected 29/30 days a catalyst arrived at which point I drew a line in the sand and left to live on my own. I was more fortunate than most in that I saw my two children for several hours every day but handing them back every night was unbearable. During the period of separation my wife and I got on better than we had for years and passion (sex) suddenly returned. All was rosy. I moved back into the matrimonial bed but within a week we had return to 29/30 days of nothing and that has continued ever since.
I would have left but I could not bear to be apart from my boys again, but nor could I handle being celibate. A real catch-22.
Eventually I made the decision to look outside. It was actually very easy to find women looking for ‘friends with benefits' and I now have 3 friends I have sex with. (I think most women are more randy than teenage boys!) . One of my friends I have met for the last six years on average one hour or so per week, and for the other two it has been for three years and we meet once per fortnight and once every three months respectively.
I am neither proud nor ashamed of it. It fulfils my need for a mental and physical intimate relationship whilst enabling me to continue to read my children a story every night before tucking them into bed. My sons are growing up in a reasonably secure loving environment and I am certain they are benefiting from that.
I would have left but I could not bear to be apart from my boys again, but nor could I handle being celibate. A real catch-22.
Eventually I made the decision to look outside. It was actually very easy to find women looking for ‘friends with benefits' and I now have 3 friends I have sex with. (I think most women are more randy than teenage boys!) . One of my friends I have met for the last six years on average one hour or so per week, and for the other two it has been for three years and we meet once per fortnight and once every three months respectively.
I am neither proud nor ashamed of it. It fulfils my need for a mental and physical intimate relationship whilst enabling me to continue to read my children a story every night before tucking them into bed. My sons are growing up in a reasonably secure loving environment and I am certain they are benefiting from that.
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Quote by SamBrown
Having spent 20 years in a marriage throughout which I was sexually rejected 29/30 days a catalyst arrived at which point I drew a line in the sand and left to live on my own. I was more fortunate than most in that I saw my two children for several hours every day but handing them back every night was unbearable. During the period of separation my wife and I got on better than we had for years and passion (sex) suddenly returned. All was rosy. I moved back into the matrimonial bed but within a week we had return to 29/30 days of nothing and that has continued ever since.
I would have left but I could not bear to be apart from my boys again, but nor could I handle being celibate. A real catch-22.
Eventually I made the decision to look outside. It was actually very easy to find women looking for ‘friends with benefits' and I now have 3 friends I have sex with. (I think most women are more randy than teenage boys!) . One of my friends I have met for the last six years on average one hour or so per week, and for the other two it has been for three years and we meet once per fortnight and once every three months respectively.
I am neither proud nor ashamed of it. It fulfils my need for a mental and physical intimate relationship whilst enabling me to continue to read my children a story every night before tucking them into bed. My sons are growing up in a reasonably secure loving environment and I am certain they are benefiting from that.
I have no problem with this or any holier than thou advice to give. I feel you are coping with things the best way you can.
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This site and porn sites
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Quote by PutmeinCoach
Isn't that just called "Marriage?"
Awe that's just mean
It doesn't have to be that way...
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Quote by Dudealicious
I have actually lived out this scenario, I was in a sexless relationship for almost 5 years of my 10 year marriage. I am a very sexual person and started to wonder if it was me that was the cause of the problem. I asked on numerous occasions and was told that it was actually her that had the problem. I tried to be as understanding as I could but over time it became a friendship to me, not a relationship anymore.
Then one day hit, and I had enough of it. I called off the 10 year marriage and have found someone with a sex drive that equals mine....I have never looked back.
If there is no sex in a relationship, wouldn't it be just a friendship?
Sounds eerily familiar - been there and done exactly that except it would appear I'm still on a quest to find a partner in real life who's sex drive equals my own.
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Masturbation...... works for when deployed or any other number of situations where sex is not available.
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Ice cold showers
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Quote by oldhound
Ice cold showers
Maybe this works for men but showers of any kind just make me hornier. Luckily, ever since my divorce, a long time is like a week or two and my toys and fingers are always there to help when needed!!
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Quote by Nikki703
Maybe this works for men but showers of any kind just make me hornier. Luckily, ever since my divorce, a long time is like a week or two and my toys and fingers are always there to help when needed!!
Nope, does not work for this man... myth in my book. A cold shower just leaves me COLD and still sexually frustrated. LOL Yeah, let's compound the problems!!!!!
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Works for me, that or the firing range, or archery.
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Quote by oldhound
Works for me, that or the firing range, or archery.
Working out, or range time, indeed... temporarily, for me. ;) Cold showers just piss me off.. I hate being COLD.. LOL It only took one time trying that out for me to realize, nope, not for me. It is great if other guys can benefit from it though. brrrrrrrr If I am going to take a shower to relieve sexual tension, I would rather it be a HOT one and me masturbate while doing so. LOL
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Eh, Im naturally adaptive to cold, Carson and wainwright were awesome. Heats ok, but I kid of like it cold
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Ummm, been awhile so hard to say, but I would use every toy in my arsenal hehe while on line here at Lushstories reading or chatting...hehe
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To answer the question, I'm going to run through how my last relationship ended. My ex and I eventually grew to resent each other, and it wound up leading to the dissolution of the relationship. During that period of time, my ex did bring in a new boy to our shared apartment; I woke up one morning to find them sleeping together (actually sleeping).
Since then, my sex life has been confined to solo activity, with one brief interval of cyber.
Since then, my sex life has been confined to solo activity, with one brief interval of cyber.
Advanced Wordsmith
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Getting involved deeper with hobbies and of course lots of masturbation
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Same as the rest......Masturbation, choking the chicken, polishing the knob, cleaning the pipes, ...... whatever you want to call it. Fantasy, porn, cyber, sites like this, phone until I lost my hearing......whatever aid helps you to get there.
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fingers, toys, happy memories of good loving, reading and writing erotic stories, and anticipation of the next time, all keep me going