I have seen this happen a lot of times!
also has happened to me.
You have a good conversation going on and once you realize this guy comes from India/Pakistan there is no reply...
It is very annoying!
Did I mention this website?? I have been to a couple of sites and chat rooms and got the same thing a lot of times.
anywho, thanks for the reply and I hope a lot other women think like you!
Merry X'mas
If it's something that you've experienced on other sites, why would you post on this site in such an almost accusatory way?
Shouldn't you ask the girls who've done that instead?
I have no problem whatsoever with what colour a person is, or where they come from .. in any part of my life, virtual or real life. Agree with Shylass that it's the attitude etc. which counts, for me.
However, somewhat along the same lines, IMHO anyway, I see no reason why there is an "Inter-Racial" catergory in the stories here ? TBH I find it less than egalitarian.
The inter-racial category might be there simply because there are many people who are turned on by a specific skintone/race etc.
It falls along the lines of a fetish and is a matter of personal preference.
The category simply helps people find what they're looking for.
I don't particularly care about colour, I'm just explaining why I think the category is there.
A lot of people are actually much more sexually attracted to someone of an other race than themselves. There is nothing wrong with that. Those people find the interracial category much more appealing. I like that we have our stories categoried as it makes it much easier for readers to find what they like.
As a person from one of the two countries you mentioned in your post, I can tell you that I haven't encountered on Lush any thing like you are mentioning in your post. I have made hundreds of friends here and most of them are gals :-) And yes, I do tell them my origins.
If you are respectful and interesting, people will chat with you. If you are annoying, people will not even bother to respond to you, and may even block you. So be nice, have fun and enjoy the site. Don't blame your origins when problem may be with your social skills (or lack thereof). Chill !!!
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If you are respectful and interesting, people will chat with you.
(Kiss to that guy.....)
xx Steph.
Most likely for the same reasons we have problems with white men, black men, Hispanic men and Asian me. Your men and we are women and we do not march to the same drummer.
sometimes its not the skin color which makes people avoid people of other races.. it also has a lot of do with uncerainity about the unknown..
Such as likes and dislikes which are culture based...and people shy away from contacting people for the simple reason that they might offend the other person.. without knowing that they are offending them..
Example..
***In the West offering a hand shake to a Lady is totally acceptable.. you try that in Malaysia, or an Arab Country.. women will get offended.
***In the West if a guy does not look into a Ladies eyes.. she will consider him a liar... in India if a guy looks into a Ladies eyes.. he is considered rude...
These are just a couple of examples.. this list is very LONG!, a lot of people have heard a few of these and conciously or subconciously try to stay on fimiliar grounds... not out of hate but out of respect.
So, people dont judge by skin color but like to stay in their comfort zone.. and yes there is a "Glass ceiling" when it comes to working / relations in other cultures...
You will have to try harder to blend in and break the glass ceiling ... but you have to do it in a positive way.. just look at this post.. you got slammed by a number of ladies for the way you approached the issue.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”
― Helen Keller
I had a quick conversation with an Indian guy in one of the chat rooms and he thought it would be appropriate to send this as a follow-up:
"hey my sexy slut , hz u ????????????? wanna have a blowjob on my 7.5 nches cock ?????///// i can turn u on , add me , my little sexy slut !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
If you're doing something similar, that is where you're going wrong.
I thought it had been proven that race doesn't exist, so would never post in that category. It's ridiculous to suggest that girls don't like Asian men. People are just people irrespective of their ethnic origins
I don't come into contact with Asian men in real life so have no preconceptions.
Danielle xx
The color or your skin does not matter we are all red blooded that's what counts.... countless times we meet guys online from India an Pakistan and its their attitude that is the problem not you race or skin tone.
I only have problems with men (and women) who are rude,obnoxious disrespectful ASSHOLES!!! The color of their skin has nothing to do with it!!!
I dunno about this as a thread, although sweet to offer a non-christian (yeah making assumptions!) merry xmas.
But ignoring what it is meant to be about (and accepting the basic tenet that of course it is ultimately down to what comes out of the mouth rather than the colour around it) it does allow me to vent about the most annoying thing about Lush for me which is the inter-racial section. Sorry, justifications about it being about exploring other cultures, and the attraction of doing so, really is beau locks. Read them - it is just the worst type of stereotyping. Lose the category (damn now i know what i should have said in that recurring one thing that would improve Lush thread!) and let people introduce interracial sex (which sure as hell aint a big thing anymore) into their stories in whatever categories they want to put them.
Sorry, but in my dull aged liberal mind, keeping the interracial section is just pandering to bone headed racial stereo typing. Why it needs to be there with or i don't know. Wake up and recognise the 21st century and the modern world please!
Right, soapbox collapsing under my righteous bullshit!
Sorry to ignore the question of the OP but I think the subsidiary conversation is far more interesting.
When I was a story verifier, there was (and I think still is) a mod who refused to read stories submitted to the Interracial category. I respected that, in the same way that some refused to do stories or BDSM or (in my case) Anal. Everyone had their individual reasons for this and they were all valid.
Should the Interracial category exist? If there are people who want to read and write those kinds of stories, then yes. No one is forced to read them but there are some who will want to. Some say that race shouldn't be an issue but, in truth, sometimes it is. The stories in this category shouldn't be in there simply because people with different skin colours have sex in them; the stories, in my opinion, should make an issue of race - it should be a key device in developing the story. The sense of strange and new and, sometimes, can create the excitement and heat that makes an erotic story great.
A great example is Indian girls whose families are still very traditional and/or religious and to whom it would be a very big deal if she was in a relationship with a white boy. True, this is becoming less of an issue as time goes by but this does still happen (I know for a fact it does). There's a great story of forbidden love in there which would fit well in the Interracial category.
I've never written in that category, although I've used an Interracial tag and that was mostly because I imagined the story a very particular way and wanted the readers to get that. In general, I make no or little mention of race in my stories although most readers would probably assume the majority of my characters to be white (which is usually how I see them because I grew up surrounded almost exclusively by white people). Like I say, in general it isn't important but, to some stories, it is and there is nothing wrong with that (in my opinion).