I get the impression (from this site and others like OKCupid and PlentyOfFish) that women, in general, don't like all the cock-shots and topless-abs-selfies that men usually post. Is this true?
I'm also a photographer, trying to practice by taking self-portraits and hoping to work with male models, so I'd love to know what sort of photos you ladies DO like to see of men on here? Any particular outfits or poses? Maybe you could share examples of some of your favourites?
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
The thing is, we don't hate most types of pictures and can appreciate them for what they are. It's typically the method you use to show us these pictures that are off putting.
Most of us prefer a say in the matter. It's not the first thing I wanna see when I'm browsing a profile. Some guys have a public image gallery full of dick pics, complete with their dick pic tiled as their profile background. And then there are the guys who randomly send a PM saying, 'Hey! Look! It's me and/or my dick. What do you think?' It's all extremely eye-roll inducing.
Some guys are just so eager in showing us their man meat that they don't stop to consider that we may not wanna see it...just yet. It's very overwhelming, and we become so desensitized to cock pics that we just ignore them if they're shown to us when we don't ask for them or seek them out.
However, to those guys that have an album full cock pics that you say are all yours, but they're all obviously different cocks, please keep doing that. It's hilarious. I laugh heartily every time.
With other types of pics, it's more or less the same. I personally find the solo torso/bicep pictures hilarious. 'Want some of this? Wanna get to know me? Look at my bod.' But that's just me...I'm weird that way. I do think that because of the prevalence of the dick pic, pictures of other body parts are a welcome relief, but aren't particularly eye-catching to those that aren't already seeking them out.
As far as my preferences go, I'm more abstract. I like pictures of things that represent different facets of who a person is. If you're doing a facial pic, I prefer something that looks sincere and even goofy, and not like you're trying to look attractive or intense. A lot of guys take the, 'I'm so intense and deep' approach and it just falls so flat. Throw in some pics of paraphernalia of your favorite sports team(s). Have a hipster moment and take a picture of your cup of coffee. Even some pictures of women/men you find attractive so I get some idea of what you're into. I enjoy things like that.
I can appreciate a nice body shot, but those don't move me unless they're accompanied by a better representation of yourself in a more sincere sense.
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Someone compared this to a bar, and I find that to be a fairly accurate description. Just like I dont want to walk up to a guy in a bar who is waving his cock about, I dont want to bombarded with it here. Guys are somuch easier, wear a low cut shirt, and you're in.
Girls want to be approached, preferably in something that is a) not smelly and dirty, at least not unless you are directly off work(men doing things with their jobs are very sexy) But dont send me a picture that has your toliet in it, clean the background up a bit. I dont want to be treated to a picture of what a slob you are. and yes, I will notice the pile of dirty clothes in the background.
b) dont assume that because you are talking to me that I am interested in cyber jumping your bones. so treat me to the types of pictures you would share on fb. not those in your private album. unless I ask for it.
c) if I do express an interest in your cock(see b), do share something that is more then just a simple dick. I like to see a guy's face, although maybe not in the same pic as the dick.(i get privacy issues) What I like about a dick pic isnt the dick, its the person the dick is attached to. And this isn't a deal breaker for me. I just like to see faces. I understand the privacy issues.)
On Lush, I can appreciate just about any picture a guy is willing/happy to share. Demands/coercion isn't really my game.
I'm slightly partial to a nice topless selfie. But I'm not allergic to a cock shot either. (Well, that's actually an understatement!) Mugshots are unnecessary - although it's fine if they want to share it.
Understandably, not everyone likes pictures displayed in such an in-your-face manner. So perhaps consider adjusting your settings (under Photo Album) to only allow select friends to view them?
I also hear a lot of complaints about authenticity, and have learnt a pretty neat trick to resolve this: Clutch/strategically place a piece of paper with your/recipient's username when you take that shot. Dead simple.
But while pictures paint thousands of words, it's really the exchange of words (via chats/bios/stories) that gives a better idea of one's personality. I'm not one to fuss over whether or not a picture's shown. But if you've got it, flaunt it. Shamelessly. Why not.
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A man's body is almost a beautiful as a woman's, almost. But it really takes the skill of the photographer to bring the beauty of man out to the audience.
I know one guy at when I first met him about 5 years ago he had one of the most beautiful bodies. Sculptured but not over muscled. I do not see him real often but when I do it seems he has added another few pounds of muscle. To tell the truth he is not the instant turn on he was at one time. But we are still friends and he is one of the good guys around this world.
I do love a man penis, erect or not, especially if he has heavy testicles and was not abused as a child by circumcision.
But I really object to the guys who you do not know at all and the first thing he does is send you a photo of his cock. Now there may be lots of 18 year old females that are impressed by such photos. But I am mature and used more of them than you could count.
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I appreciate that most people don't want to show their faces on this site, so I totally don't mind the headless nude torso shots or topless selfies or clothed selfies. I find them sexy. Back shots are great. Black and white, interesting lighting, shadows... maybe a little mysterious but still mostly uncontrived. Keep the poses masculine and/or casual.
Then you can always get into more 'lifestyle pics' like hanging on the beach, sunday morning lounge with a cup of java, sports, travel shots, hiking etc. It really depends on what you want to share and how much of yourself you feel comfortable putting out there.
I don't mind nudes at all, as long as they're not just a series of medical close-ups of a dick. I think the sexier option is a body shot with boxer briefs and the nice bulge of a hard cock noticeable, or where it's partially obscured by a towel or something. The suggestive shots seem sexier and a little less cave-man than "sup babe, here's my dick."
"Sup baby, here's my dick."
Oh my Gosh - I'm dying of laughter. You need to put that into a story! Exactly like that.
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I'd love to see their cocks drilling a cute tight ass.
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I did wonder if it was guys' behaviour rather than the actual pictures that bothered you!
