Quote by Magical_felix
Your wife/GF literally told you she didn't care if you cheated cause you weren't getting any off her? LOL
What is that...
Quote by Magical_felix
Your wife/GF literally told you she didn't care if you cheated cause you weren't getting any off her? LOL
What is that...
Quote by Naughty_Nurse
Hi, i wonder why you think this is funny?
If a woman doesn't feel any sexual appetite I think it's just very good of her to give green light.
She can not expect from her husband to have a sexless life I think?
Quote by nil4sin
I have heard that sex in a secret relationship is most enjoyable. Only condition is that the involved persons are in total agreement.
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Quote by Metilda
I think it's tragic when one persons' health or other issues end up controlling and denying someone else what is a basic element in a relationship and life.
I can't imagine looking at my husband and telling him 'no sex' . . . and then getting offended if he gets to a point where he can't deny himself such a basic, primal urge.
That's forcing someone into celibacy - and it's sad. No one should have that type of power over another person.
While I understand that you can't create sexual desire when it's just no longer there (for whatever reason) - you shouldn't let that force the other to let go of it, too. Nor is sex the only type of sexual satisfaction to give/receive.
If I was in a position where I couldn't bring myself to please my husband AT ALL I'd give him the green flag to go and seek out someone else PHYSICALLY.
However, I did go through a time when - because of health issues - I could NOT have sex. We resorted to oral/manual stimulation during that time. I might not have been able to orgasm, but I still saw to his needs and enjoyed it.
If someone is so put out by their issues that they can't even get someone off that way then there's more going on than meets the eye.
Quote by Metilda
I think it's tragic when one persons' health or other issues end up controlling and denying someone else what is a basic element in a relationship and life.
I can't imagine looking at my husband and telling him 'no sex' . . . and then getting offended if he gets to a point where he can't deny himself such a basic, primal urge.
That's forcing someone into celibacy - and it's sad. No one should have that type of power over another person.
While I understand that you can't create sexual desire when it's just no longer there (for whatever reason) - you shouldn't let that force the other to let go of it, too. Nor is sex the only type of sexual satisfaction to give/receive.
If I was in a position where I couldn't bring myself to please my husband AT ALL I'd give him the green flag to go and seek out someone else PHYSICALLY.
However, I did go through a time when - because of health issues - I could NOT have sex. We resorted to oral/manual stimulation during that time. I might not have been able to orgasm, but I still saw to his needs and enjoyed it.
If someone is so put out by their issues that they can't even get someone off that way then there's more going on than meets the eye.
Quote by yourmisterdork
Did you ever consider she just didn't want sex with YOU? Older married men can let themselves "go" just as married women can. Are you a slob, overweight, have gross habits, lust after "the young stuff" while you ignore your wife, no longer make any effort to "seduce" her? Are you a "lazy lover", a lousy one, only make love on some schedule? Consider her POV and work from there to get your "goove" back. Is she worn out from housework that you expect but never help with? Are you a "make me a sammich and bring me a beer" guy?
The same old-same old rut and routine of married life is reflected in the sex life as well for either gender. And "trying to spice it up" with kinks or experiments is a "bandaid" approach if the romance and desire isn't built up first.
Too many people, in my opinion, rush to adultery as a "fix it" without considering the alternatives. Look to your own deep motivations. Do you think the "outsourcing" with something strange is because you're bored? Maybe you're the one that's boring. Do you think some "young stuff" will make you feel younger? In most, cases the opposite is true because their sex drive and energy will outlast yours and you'll be a disappointment to them, then it's bye bye.
Are you "full" of porn images and vids that excite you and think "Oh, yeah, I'll get me some of that"? Reality, it's not! For every "hot babe" or "hunk" you think exists for you, there are a bazillion plain, ordinary people who want average, ordinary lives not based in some frenzied sexual fantasies that most men of an age can't maintain for more than ten minutes. Oh, sure, with Viagra or Cialis, you'll think you're SuperStud until you wind up in the ER or Intensive Care.
Just my two cents worth, of course. Go on and do what you think you can handle, but don't whine when it doesn't work out.