More recently I seem to be fantasizing about two men or a man and woman with me. The man or one of them would be my fiancé. I've never done this or really considered it until about 2 years ago. Sharing my fiancé has always been a No No but I can't get it out of my head.
Is there anybody out there in the same boat?
my hubby and i starting sharing last year mfm 3 some and i for one love it
I share the fantasy, but am not certain how I would feel actually watching him with another woman.. In my mind, I absolutely love the idea, but I don't know if I would get jealous. I am nit big on sharing.
"I'd much rather be a woman than a man. Women can cry, they can wear cute clothes, and they are the first to be rescued off of sinking ships."
— Gilda Radner
It's a huge fantasy and I think it's fairly common among women (or at least among some of my friends).
The reality of it can be different though. You have to be in a good place in your relationship and set the ground rules which you both agree on. I'd also highly recommend that if you do it, try hooking something up while on vacation or in another city. That way you never see the third party again so it negates a lot of the "what happens after this" factor and helps avoid some of the natural jealousy that might arise.
You would also need to talk after-the-fact about ground rules - eg. was this just a one-time deal or something you're open to. I have witnessed a friend's relationship fall apart because he was constantly looking for other opportunities for them and she was feeling like she had let him dip his hand into the cookie jar and had created a monster.
As long as you're both on the same page though, it can be a very hot experience.... Not recommended for everyone, but more couple-dependent on whether it's a good move. I think some can handle it and some are best to leave it to fantasy.
I think threesome fantasies be it mfm or fmf are pretty common with women. I am certainly guilty of having them often BUT I really don't think I could do it with someone I'm in a relationship with. If I wanted to fulfill this fantasy, I would be more inclined to do it with two new people - I just think it would be way less complicated if emotions and attachments were kept out of it.
