Allow me to add some context before I pose my questions please.
I'm new to actually being a participant in Lush and to the type of site that it is, but not to sharing intimate ideas, experiences, and fantasies. In the past, I've done that with females after i've already met them in person through everyday activities. So, the sharing has been done over the phone, msn/ voice messages, and even via text. I have found that naughty sharing via voice (either messages or real time) is much more interesting, intimate, and powerful than by typing. The girls all agree.
So, my questions are:
1. Why is their no voice messaging built into lush? Is it just a matter of bandwidth cost?
2. Why are girls online who enjoy naughty typing, so reluctant to voice chat/voice message via programs like msn/ ?
I get that people are, and should be, reluctant to give out phone numbers (don't do it!), but with the ability to easily block/delete people, and to remain anonymous, why not use or msn, etc? Actually, I feel a lot safer after I hear someones voice as it lets me know who i'm dealing with better.
Answers appreciated. Thanks.
I won't voice chat or cam with anyone from lush because that part of me is something I'm not willing to share here. Once I know someone fairly well (as well as you can know them here) I don't mind sharing a picture. Twice, I have had a voice conversation with someone here, but only because I had been 'chatting' with them for a few months, I felt comfortable enough to do so and there was no cam.
This isn't my 'real life', it's fantasy.. If people are a part of my real life they get to speak to, and see the real me. In a fantasy world, I don't want to share ALL of me.
In principal I don't have a problem with voice chating to a well established friend on here, but the problem is a practical one.
Lush is my secret, I will often be type chatting on-line when others are in the house, so silence is needed......
In principal I don't have a problem with voice chating to a well established friend on here, but the problem is a practical one.
Lush is my secret, I will often be type chatting on-line when others are in the house, so silence is needed......
Although I have a big mouth....I'm just shy/ insecure...english is not my 1th language so the 'risk' that i sound funny or stumble over my own words is a bit too high hahaha...
But I like to try it out one day with 1 person I have on my mind ;).
I have tried to fix the microphone on my laptop, but I also can't get it working, so I guess it's just fine for this moment....
And I prefer to chat (without camming) by , lush freezez so often....
Most women don't like moving on to or msn simply because they don't like it - accept it and move on
I know of many women on here who have pretty much felt forced on to to "prove that they are women" - of course once they do the pressure moves on to appearing on cam. Once women do this once they become more and more reluctant to voice chat with anyone - especially with some one they've only just met.
If you want to talk to women on voice or phone you need to develop trust. That requires a lot of work and women want to know if you're willing to put that work in
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When I was single... it was different. Now that I'm married... I won't voice chat. I've been asked before... I explain my "why" and if someone doesn't understand or respect it then that's their loss.
Actually, I'm glad Lush doesn't have that and if I were to want to voice chat... which as I stated earlier... I don't... I will use a program like or Messenger for that.
I'm guessing most women aren't into the chatroulette type of scene here. As others have said, it takes a while to build trust and even enough of a level of interest to take things to phone/ /cam.
It's far less effort to type... you can multi-task, have natural pauses and little breaks, you have shorter convos and you can end things quickly and conveniently. Once you're talking live or on cam you're kind of 'in the box' with the person which makes it much more real and intimate and often comes with the underlying pressure of phone sex or cam reveals.
I've done it before but the connection has to be compelling and the attraction has to be pre-existing. It all goes in stages, right? A basic stranger saying "hey let's and get to know each other" is probably going to hit a brick wall pretty often on this site basically because most people aren't going to go that effort for a faceless stranger on the internet that they're not even that into.
For me...I enjoy voice chat or video chat but I will only do it with someone I have gotten to know on lush and that I feel is a gentleman. I hate it when someone i have never type chatted with asks me to because to me that is too much too soon. And believe it or not there are some very nice men on lush. Not all of them are assholes. Another reason I am particular about who i video chat with is because I am a plus size woman and not all men like that....the last thing I need is a man that will ridicule me because of my weight.
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