Shame on you.
Get a divorce if you're not happy at home then go fuck anyone you want.
He has told you where he stands on sex and you have told him.
He isn't divorcing you so apparently he wants to remain in the relationship.
One thing that stands out in my head is that you are already talking about an affair/relationship with this other guy.
If it was just a sex thing then it probably wouldn't be on your mind just yet. The reason i bring it up is, if there is a lack of sex AND a lack of companionship then what are you still doing with him? You're setting up a bad situation to get worse for him.
I say make a choice.
Everyone's opinion has been very helpful. I have actually started talking to mu husband about having more sex and he said he would try. ( I have to convince a man to have sex with me) never thought that would happen. But so far everything is status quo. No extra effort yet. Not even when I touch him in the morning. I'm a little fed up. I have been texting with my new friend and we even had lunch. HE wants to meet at his place in the morning for breakfast when no one is there. Which to means he wants to do the do. I'm excited and afraid at the same time. But the idea of a man wanting me, and showing it like I know he wants is going to be fun. I didn't tell him if I'll meet with yet. but I am thinking about it, and i have already masturbated once thinking about this beautiful black beast fucking me. Maybe its like what some of you said, i've already made up my mind, its just a matter of time and convenience.
Of course not. But that's the beauty of this double standard. Acting like a reasonable adult is impossible for most of the humarace cause we are selfish.
The fact that she has described her partner in this tryst as a beast rather than a man pretty much shows she's gonna do it fuck the consequence.
I am meeting him for Breakfast next week wednesday. We will have his place to ourselves. We have both made the decision that we are going to be intimate. I indicated that I "wanted him" but to be honest I'm still on the fence about this.
It is done! We did the do yesterday and although i'm still processing everything that happened? I can honestly say I have no regrets. I do now see why women rant and rave about the sexual prowess of black men. I don't think I have ever been fucked so passionately or intensely than when I was fucked yesterday. I am a little sore to be honest. But I want to see him again. Thanks everyone for your advice and input.
Have you tried the stockings, handjob leading to blowjoy routine? Surely that cant fail!
Are you proud of what you've accomplished? Should you be?
It's kinda cool watching someone add increasing justification for a comeuppance. ;)
well i honestly cant say i am surprised here. sucks to be your husband. congrats, you are indeed everyone's pal. or a cheater. or filthy lying whore. or a woman justifiably seeking satisfaction because she cant get enough from her husband, who would play the victim card if the shoe was on the other foot. pick your poison.
I know that my opinion comes too late, but cheating is an awful thing. I think you made a big mistake. No matter how much like a "brother" he acts, your husband is still just that: your husband. It appears that you wanted to be told that cheating is perfectly acceptable, that you wanted someone to tell you that being lonely is an excuse to break a vow. But the truth is, cheating is not acceptable and you should have listened to that twinge of guilt.
Just finished reading this thread and the dilema and moral implications of it. We each have our own burdons and crosses to bear. It is not up to us to judge, give permission, or deny permission based on our own values or beliefs.
That being said, some decisions have to be made as they won't make themselves. Do you stay and continue this and possibly other affairs or do you end a dead end relationship (if it is dead end) and move on with your life so each of you can find your own happiness.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
