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Hey girls,

Bit of an intimate question coming (excuse the pun) you way!

I've never had an orgasm sad I just wanted to know if there are others who have never had one or others who it just took a long time to get to. And if so, how did you finally get to it?!

Any help or opinions would be great!!!
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If you haven't been able to, I'd suggest a vibrator as the easiest way to understand what your body needs to get to orgasm (or even how it feels to have one). It will probably become easier to reach orgasm once you actually know what it feels like.

You can get a cheap but very effective clit-stimulator like "The Pocket Rocket" for about $15 (you can find them online). Playing with clit stimulation will probably be the fastest route to achieving climax. Do not get a dildo... it's not going to do enough for you.

And obviously you'll need some sort of mental stimulation as well, so have some porn or sexy stories on hand to get you in the mood.
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Dancing doll gave great advice! Try vibrating panties as well! They are a huge turn on because you can give the remote to your partner and have them suprise you with random pleasures!

Also the bullit vibe is really good clitoral stimulation
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Hey girls,

Bit of an intimate question coming (excuse the pun) you way!

I've never had an orgasm sad I just wanted to know if there are others who have never had one or others who it just took a long time to get to. And if so, how did you finally get to it?!

Any help or opinions would be great!!!


Hoe pathetic babe..!!

comon to me...I'll give u both anal and vaginal orgasms through the night!!
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Hoe pathetic babe..!!

comon to me...I'll give u both anal and vaginal orgasms through the night!!


Hey assfucker...no need to be rude, it's pretty common that women don't have an orgasm.It's not as easy for women as it is men.. So before you post something so crass, please think of other peoples feelings my friend.

By the way, did you mean to spell how...instead of hoe?
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Hoe pathetic babe..!!

comon to me...I'll give u both anal and vaginal orgasms through the night!!


Hey assfucker...no need to be rude, it's pretty common that women don't have an orgasm.It's not as easy for women as it is men.. So before you post something so crass, please think of other peoples feelings my friend.

By the way, did you mean to spell how...instead of hoe?


Are you speaking from a point of experice. Hoe pathetic Dude. lmao




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Hoe pathetic babe..!!

comon to me...I'll give u both anal and vaginal orgasms through the night!!


Hey assfucker...no need to be rude, it's pretty common that women don't have an orgasm.It's not as easy for women as it is men.. So before you post something so crass, please think of other peoples feelings my friend.

By the way, did you mean to spell how...instead of hoe?


Are you speaking from a point of experice. Hoe pathetic Dude. lmao



ROTFL Oh fuck hoe dare you say that Mister!
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Hey girls,

Bit of an intimate question coming (excuse the pun) you way!

I've never had an orgasm sad I just wanted to know if there are others who have never had one or others who it just took a long time to get to. And if so, how did you finally get to it?!

Any help or opinions would be great!!!


I think Dancing_Doll's advice is spot on...

It isn't always easy for women to reach orgasm. Take your time, relax, explore your body, go with what feels good to you. You'll get there in the end I am sure and it will be worth it...



BTW Assfucker, no need to be such a dick about it... geez....
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ok ...... back to the topic .... now that the boys have finished arguing ....

I concur with Dancing_Doll .... the clit is the easiest to play with and a bullet is a great idea. For many women, the reason why they don't orgasm is not physical but mental ..... find something (lit/porn/cyberchat) that gets the mind stimulated and makes you wet .... then play!

Practise makes ..... orgasms easier.
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I so agree that the female orgasm really does start from mindset. Try to lose your thoughts to the moment and the pleasure of the physical stimulation you are enjoying. I allow my mind to wander to my wildest fantasy, and even sometimes imagine that's the scenario I am in at that moment. Only other advice I can give, is if you try too hard, invariably you won't achieve orgasm, as you simply won't be relaxed enough. Good luck - practice makes perfect, believe me !!
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comon to me...I'll give u both anal and vaginal orgasms through the night!!


i remain dubious.
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Practise makes ..... orgasms easier.


^--- perfect smile


Don't give up, either. For some women it takes a long time to reach orgasm. When I started having sex, it took... a long time. But, practice does make perfect. ;) It's not so hard anymore, but I still don't compare to the stories that go bangbangbang-OMGimgonnaCUM!!!. If only it were that easy.

Some women come easily and repeatedly. Others build slowly but go off like volcanoes when they get there. The best thing any woman can ever do is keep trying different things, different touches, different sensations.
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I can't offer much personal advise on this question as we are all very different. I do have orgasms but not very often. Dancing Dolls advice is certainly worth exploring but doesn't work for me personally as sex toys leave me a bit cold.

There is a lot of good advise on sexinfo101.com
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Thanks to everyone for the advice! And support actually!! Still trying but at least now i'm more patient about it and know that someday it'll come..... biggrin
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I guess it's hard for me to understand because my nipples are very sensitive and I get horny pretty easy. Having an orgasm with a vibrator has always been super easy for me and I guess I just assumed it would work for all girls? With guys I like to come one or twice from their tongue or fingers before they enter me and then it's much easier to come. I love cowgirl so you can control the amount of stimulation and you can also reach down and use your own fingers. Have you tried that Ell? Anyways good luck girl.
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Lots of great advice there! In between the boys squabbling! And you are right just to take your time and explore your body and find where you are particularly sensitive (we're all different!) As lots of people have said, having the right mindset is a major factor, so just explore what makes you feel aroused; porn, sexy stories, or just plain old fashioned fantasy! Have fun and enjoy the journey!! smile
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Orgasms are something I've never had a problem with - but I do realise that's not true for all women and girls.
Humans are the only species on this planet to enjoy the orgasm phenomena ... but in nature it's not of paramount necessity for the female as much as the male. However the capacity is clearly available for females to enjoy orgasmic joy and is a source of supreme satisfaction repeatedly - which men can't achieve without a period of rest between ejaculations. It's largely down to the biggest sexual organ in our bodies i.e. the brain. A friend of mine can orgasm just with the power of thought alone. Clearly she has a very well developed sense of local brain excitation and psychic stimulus and can imagine a sexual situation to the extreme, bringing about her orgasm with no physical contact with lips or genitalia.

For lesser mortals like myself much more is required - and this is where "Dancing Doll" hits the nail on the head. A vibrator would be ideal for stimulating that particular part of the brain into realising its true existence and initiating its further development. That in turn may result in increased blood flows to vital erogenous zones - even allowing the clitoris to swell more definitively and make better contact with the male penis - essential for me to orgasm - and maybe a reason girls prefer a bigger, thicker male member inside them to accentuate the feelings of intimacy.
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I must admit I find it easier to orgasm when I'm masturbating (with either fingers or a vibrator) - just because I've worked out (with lots of practice...) what combination of stimulation gets me going best. I find I often don't orgasm when I'm being fucked - although I still enjoy it!

I confess I do orgasm quite a lot when having cyber-chats on Lush - the combination of mental stimulation through sexual chat, and physical stimulation with fingers or a vibrator, really gets me going!

But having someone else give you one is still the best, of course!

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I think an orgasm build up starts with facing your partner and looking at his eyes, loking at his body and really taking in what you see. admiring your partner's body, and enjoying his touch on your skin. Then it has to be built up slowly with loving touches. I can't orgasm without nipple play, I always orgasm on top. Slow and steady wins the race for me. I have to work hard at coming and concentrate what I can feel in my body. If I do too much kissing while on top, my orgasm takes a lot longer.
Also when I'm on top, my partner has to move in a way that I like.
Making love on the carpet while I'm on top can be better than the bed, as it's a hard surface and I feel better that way. Its a bit rustic on the carpet growl Love it.
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Thanks to everyone for the advice! And support actually!! Still trying but at least now i'm more patient about it and know that someday it'll come..... biggrin


An orgasm is a bit like going for a wee when it won't come, you can feel it nearly wanting to happen, but you have to put a lot of thought into it. And when you feel the orgasm happening, you just have to let it cum scuse the pun hee hee.
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Hoe pathetic babe..!!

comon to me...I'll give u both anal and vaginal orgasms through the night!!


Hey assfucker...no need to be rude, it's pretty common that women don't have an orgasm.It's not as easy for women as it is men.. So before you post something so crass, please think of other peoples feelings my friend.

By the way, did you mean to spell how...instead of hoe?


Are you speaking from a point of experice. Hoe pathetic Dude. lmao



Don't jump on AssFucker, he is obviously too lacking in Maturity to deserve a response.

Little Sister Dancing Doll gives good advice and there are many toys to explore your body. Each of us will find the exploration different.

I do not know how helpful this will be but your OB/GYN would be be the last resort. It would be sad for you to miss out on something so special.