Where I work, the first floor is the lobby, storage etc. Most employees work on the second floor and arrive around 830 a.m. Almost everyone who works on the second enters through the employee
entrance and walks thru a short hallway and up the stairs to the second floor. If a younger woman is ahead of me at the entrance door, she almost always holds the door open
and motions me to go on ahead.
I'm sick and tired of "age" before "beauty". What do I do? I don't like being treated like an old man who can't open a door for himself.
Hmm I think you're being over-sensitive. Surely that's just common courtesy. Just be grateful the young lady has noticed you. It's when she lets the door slam in your face that you need to worry.
The place where I work has an insane number of doors (mostly internal fire doors, to be fair). So if you need advice on door-holding protocol, I'm your girl.
+1 on the oversensitive thought.
It's a common courtesy that you shouldn't over think (unless the gal says "after you, Gramps.") As long as you are holding the door for others when you can, then everyone's banking good Karma points. I hold doors open when I can, and smile and say thanks when they are held for me. It's a win/win for all involved.
+ 2 on the oversensitive.
I do it out of courtesy, not out of age, gender, whatever else you think may come into it.
We all have to live in this world and surely holding a door open for one another is a small gesture we can all appreciate?
Just know someone is doing something nice and appreciate the gesture if you are a man... 99% of time I get the doors for people....
Of course. Man, woman, boy, girl. It would be bad manners to push through or let a door shut on someone regardless of gender.
Anyone opening a door for anyone else is just a nice thing to do. Calm down. I nearly always do it, because it feels nice to do so.
A pretty actress once opened a door for Dorothy Parker and said, "Age before beauty." Dorothy Parker replied, "Pearls before swine" and walked through the door.
I hold doors open so I can show my dominance towards....okay no, I can't do it. Some people can't read sarcasm.
As stated above, holding doors is just a nice thing to do. For someone older, younger, male, female, dog, cat, identical twin or evil step mother. It's just polite, and reading anything more into it is a little too much thinking for what is just a simple act of not being a knob
If I get to a door first I open it for the person after me. Common courtesy.
If I'm with my husband he always opens the door for me.
when i have the chance, i'll open the door for anyone, young, old, man, woman, whatever - it's just a nice gesture and gives me a chance to interact, even if it's in a small way, with people - and when they do it for me, i'll always give them a smile and a thank you - not sure why the fuss about a simple gesture...
when i lived in SF, i'd make it a habit of saying hello to pretty much everyone when i was out walking about - just a 'hi' and a smile, nothing more - i like to think it got passed on - sometimes i'd get a surprised look, but often, i'd get a smile back. kind of made my day a little brighter. it's the little things that we forget sometimes, that have the most impact.
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It's common courtesy, not condescension! If you see it as a problem I hope you never come to England, where we queue for things, hold doors open for each other and thank people for their courtesy as pretty standard things (apart from in London, apparently, but the rest of the country does it just to make the Londoners freak out when people say hello to them when they're on the bus ;) ).
Just you wait until you visit a northern city, where other blokes call you 'love' and people smile at strangers...
I am a native southerner living in Atlanta. The vast majority of southern people are extremely polite and friendly, much more so than anywhere I've ever been. And I've traveled extensively. People here will open doors for you, say 'hello' to strangers, wave at strangers, etc.
But in the Atlanta Metro we have lots of transplants from other places. They either adapt, integrate and love it or they hate and bicker and complain all the time.
Those that bicker and complain, well, we take them into the swamps and feed them to the alligators. Our alligators are getting fat.
its just common courtesy some of us have manners you know,don't be so sensitive
I will hold the door open for anyone.
Yes i would.. Its called being polite... I don't have a problem with it..
