First off, hello all!
So here goes. A little bit of backround first. I am a married male, I have known my wife for nineteen years thirteen of which we have been married. I am 43 and she 39. We are very happily married, no issues whatsoever. Sex is good, when we have time ( two children). Ok here comes the issue for the past year or so I have fantasized about having one or two men join me in having sex with my wife.2gfAzhKBCA1tDzUJ Strictly straight. I just envision the two or three of us pleasuring her in every way conceivable, having her orgasm over and over all night long. Problem is, I'm afraid to bring it up. I would say we are fairly conservative, we don't typically joke about sexual matters or make crude comments to each other. Now my question to you ladies. If you had a significgant other who told you this, what would you think of him? Would it be a total turnoff? I'm quite nervous to bring it up to her, once you say it, there's no going back if you know what I mean. Anyways, thanks for taking the time for any and all input. Happy holidays!
Mr Met
Before you just throw this out there, you and the wife need to have a sit down discussion. About many topics, but what you need to understand is you need HER to tell you what HER fantasies are. You should not start off telling her this.
Once the two of you can discuss your sexual fantasies with each other, only then can you bring something like this up. Not until.
"I expect nothing. I fear no one. I am free." Nikos Kazantzakis
BTW - if this is not on her fantasy list, don't push it on. That will cause more harm than good.
FYI - I have been married twice. This one has lasted 30+ years.
"I expect nothing. I fear no one. I am free." Nikos Kazantzakis
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If you guys aren't naturally sexually adventurous, then this may be a bit overwhelming for her.
Do you guys watch porn together? If so, show her a few threesome or gang bang scenes. Good gang bang scenes. Nothing too rough or sensationalized. Then ask her if she likes it and just sort of get the conversation going.
I hate to be a downer, but if you guys don't even go so far as being risque with each other, your chances of realizing this fantasy are probably very slim. But then again, she may have a kinky side that she never thought she could ever express. You never know.
I think you guys should start having kinky fun on your own before you start inviting other guys into the mix. Try a little dirty talk and see how she responds to it. Introduce her to the idea of double penetration by fingering her ass while you fuck her. Buy her some toys and insert them in different places. You get the idea.
She may just be waiting for you to take that first step.
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Slowly and not at all casually is the way to bring it up. Be calm, and I would suggest your first several conversations not lead to anything, even if she does jump right on board. She needs time to consider, and once she does, you're going to need time to REconsider how you feel about other men fucking your wife. You'd be surprised at the caveman-esque, almost reptilian reaction that might be provoked when you see them stick their big hard cocks in her mouth, ass and pussy. I even get it with my girlfriend sometimes, and I'm a very girly girl who is excellent at sharing.
The point is you never know what's up until it happens. You, your wife, and your guest partners must all feel free to withdraw from or cancel the event at any time before OR during, or somebody will probably get hurt, and probably for a VERY long time. Hope everything goes well.
Thanks for all the advice so far. I was actually considering bringing it up by way of saying I had a dream about it, and see her reaction. Kind of like " hey hon I had the wildest dream about you last night. I came home from work and you were sitting on the couch with nothing on. On each side of you was a man, both of them kissing your neck shoulders and breasts. It actually turned me on, so I decided to join them and we brought you back to the bedroom and made love to you over, and over again" See what she says.
I also like the idea of watching porn with her, and gauging her reaction. We used to a long time ago, but haven't in years. It was during a porn movie where she actually confessed a curiosity over kissing a woman.
As to someone else's concerns, I would never push this fantasy, if she doesn't seem receptive I will never bring it up again. Don't want to ruin what I have.
Again thanks all.