So, I was just wondering... In our modern, free thinking society - you decided to ask the man of your dreams out - but for whatever reason (he's crazy, he's faithful to his partner, or he just doesn't like you...) he declines your gracious offer to become your [s]adoring sex slave[/s] current squeeze.
How would you rather he deliver the blow? Gently and politely? Telling you no-way-no-how-because-ew?
I've personally had several types of rejection and prefer the brutal edge myself... It hurts, but it helps me to realize what a wankshaft the guy is and get over him muhc faster.. You know if I've had my eyes on him a while that is. The nicer ones where you get let down gently lead to hope which are more painful in the long run I think...
For example... I've had
- The I'm very complimented, but I'm married - I found this one ok, it wasn't a crippling blow, but it was enough to easily move on from... Plenty more eyecandy after that to search for
- The I'll keep leading you on, somewhat, and then talk shit about you behind your back because I'm uninterested - This on e was fairly brutal and while not an actual rejection - it opened my eyes to what a git he was, and I gave up and moved onto better men ;)
- The I'm waiting on someone myself, but I'll let you down gently, but I think you're alright... - This is just frustrating... It left me wondering for ages... e.e
I've probably had others, but these stuck out. Sorry for the depressing sorta theme... Just came into my head... So yeah - Rejection, how would you like it to be served?
You know Hannah, not to sound like a conceited bitch but I’ve never really been turned down; well, the only time was when a few of them that wanted a committed relationship got upset when I didn’t. Some of those blows hurt, especially if they say something like “you’ll end up alone” or “you have no heart” but it is what it is, and sometimes you just don’t see yourself with a certain person.
I don't beat around the bush when I tell guys I am not interested, and I expect the same. Usually it doesnt come to that. I usually know immediately if they are interested, I don't have to hear it from them. Most guys don't hide that shit very well, good or bad.
Doesn't matter how they say no because they always come back sooner or later always. If I'm interested all I have to do is wait. If I get sick of waiting I may loose interest then they loose out.
Bunny12
Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! It doesn't really matter if its done nicely or with a 'brutal edge'... when it's done, it's done.
I cut things off with a surgeon's precision... I don't stick around, wanting to be friends, and I don't spend time strategizing on how to win him over. The first hint that he's not interested, and I'm out of there. I have a lot of pride. And if he doesn't want me, I have plenty of men on speed-dial that do!
I've never been turned down for a sexual liaison but I've been in a few relationships where things turned bad, and when I know the end is near, I walk away and don't look back.
But they always do... without fail (just like Bunny said).
It could almost be another thread post... why do all men come running back to a relationship precisely 3-6 months later (and usually attempt to come back twice). Funny thing, it always happens without fail. I think because most men are shocked into their senses when a woman has the self-confidence to move on faster than they can...
Scrambled eggs, works for me.
In my world. It's a pretty big and colorful place.
People just disappear, contact me again saying I never call, as if I would hunt something that wasn't all that anyhow...
*cough*
Well, then there are the once that follow me with puppy eyes, that I would never look at.
Then there's the ones "I feel lonly lets fuck!"
But really if I'm going to be let off the hook, just tell me it's over. I move on within a week or two if we had a 2year relationship.
Dwelling on things in my world sort of makes the colors dark and dusky, no fun at all.
If a guy tells me no, it's his loss. There are plenty of other men out there who will tell me yes in an instant. I've been asked out a lot by guys and I have turned some down.
As far as the guys who turned me down coming back to me six months later, I politely tell them that I'm dating someone else and leave it at that.
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I do apologize about that. But what was said was not in jest, it was entirely baiting and you know it, and so does Damon. He says these things and when someone gets their "feather ruffled", he backs off saying, "it was only a joke, geez"