Not a thing wrong with asking her to shave. However since she is reluctant Don't be surprised if things have not changed.
She may not have the confidence to be different. I have been bare of a long time but she is not me.
Don't do it until she does. If she doesnt, go find someone else.
There are other options have a conversation... she should at least try something for you. If she doesn’t try then Dudealicious and doctorlove may have the right idea.
Lots of questions...
Perhaps consider why you "can't stand hair." Have you been conditioned by the porn industry that women must be hairless? What is it about hair that you "can't stand?" Might she be as uncomfortable with the idea of shaving as you are with the idea of going down on an unshaven pussy?
What about you? Do you shave?
If she's reluctant, there could be any number of reasons. Maybe she doesn't like feeling bare because it brings up adulthood issues. Maybe it itches. Maybe she's afraid of cutting herself. Maybe she feels it's an unreasonable and invasive thing to ask. Find out; talk, listen, communicate.
Can you compromise? Can she remove some of the hair; shave her lips and leave the hair above it in place? Can she trim it shorter or remove some of it so it doesn't feel so intrusive? Can she live without you going down on her?
Is this really a relationship deal-breaker for you?
I would ask, suggest a salon to start with. Brazilians or Bikini are extremely popular with them. She would learn a lot as well.
Suggest a shape that you may like. Landing strips are popular which give you the opportunity to get hairless lips etc.
There are ways and means of avoiding the 'itch' that can follow. Creams are a bit messy until you become proficient and they avoid the itch.
Good luck and I am sure once she agrees she will keep it up - or off.
Tell her your preference, respect her decision.
Also somebody was talking about it like it had something to do with confidence, what utter shit.
"A dirty book is rarely dusty"
That's the kinda shit that creates drama. You fuck each other and you feel it might be wrong to ask a question,wtf?
Agree with some of the others. You can ask but respect her decision, its her body at end of the day. Fashions and tastes do change .
If you're in an intimate relationship, you should be able to discuss this. Does she also enjoy performing oral on you? Suggest an even exchange. If you shave bare down there will she also. Point out that the hair will grow back. Are you willing to do that? If not, why should she? My wife and I both enjoy oral, neither of us liking hair in our mouths. For decades, she has either shaved bare or at least very trimmed. I did the same until in my eraly 50s got electrolysis completely removing the hair on my cock, ball sack, around my nipples, around my anus, and reduced the area of public hair. I usually keep my pubic hair very short using a beard trimmer, sometimes shaving completely. If you are uncomfortable about fully shaving and being seen bare in locker rooms etc., why shouldn't she feel the same. If you are willing and make the offer on a trial basis, maybe she will too. Maybe make a game of it, place a wager on a sporting event or something. The loser goes bare for 2 weeks. Ask she do it for a trial period for your birthday. Expect her to ask the same of you. In my view, if you aren't willing to try it yourself, you shouldn't push her into it.
It's not wrong to ask as long as you respect her thoughts on the subject. If she's reluctant to go completely bare then why nit ask her to start with trimming. See how it goes from there. Just don't be pushy on the subject and you might win het over.
Offer to shave her. Even trim her.
ask her and if she says no respect her decision
No I do not think it is wrong to ask your girlfriend to shave. I do think it is wrong to try to force her to shave. I read some of the replies and found most to be good advice, but a few not so good. So here are my thoughts:
For most any relationship to work, a line of honest communication MUST stay open. Try to find out what her objection/s to shaving is / are. Then see if there is a workable solution to overcome those objections. If she is reluctant to even discuss this issue, which to me is a very minor one compared to future life and relationship issues, then it is probably a sign of a rocky relationship going forward. Along with the open and honest communications, I also believe that a mutually satisfying sexual relationship is a must to a healthy, strong, and long lasting relationship.
The first time I shaved, I felt it to be very strange and was reluctant to shave my cunt and mound. That feeling went away as soon as I felt the new sensation of smooth skin against smooth skin. That was reenforced when I had my first new and greatly improved orgasm. I can't promise she will have better orgasms. I can testify that of the women and men I know, most will say it is well worth the trouble of keeping everything as smooth as possible. I have had many of them say, just the sensation of smooth skin against smooth skin is worth the time and effort of shaving.
How much does she crave oral sex? If she is really into it, maybe she would be more inclined to consider shaving, at least for a test run, if she was concerned about that pleasure going away. I do agree with you that pubic hair is not fun to deal with. Wether it is all natural, trimmed all neat and very short, and everything inbetween.
Another component for the recipe for a good and healthy relationship, is the willingness to compromise in most situations. There are a few issues that I believe are not open to compromise. An example would be; one partner wanting an open relationship. Hubbie and I have been in an open marriage for nearly 38 years, but it was mutually agreed to by both of us. We also know it is not for everyone. Another factor for us is the fact that I could not get pregnant since I was in an accident when I was 11.
Good luck;
Brandie
Some people don't like to shave because it can be very itchy when the hair starts to grow back, which can happen quite quickly, particularly with pubic hair. The problem with this is that it either takes a lot of effort to maintain a not-that-itchy pussy, or she will just be itchy for several days to a couple of weeks after each time she shaves.
There are a lot of options here, though. First place to start is a conversation. Remember to not make her feel pressured, or like you are demanding she take any particular course of action. I would say the first thing to do is ask her why she doesn't like to. There are an array of reasons. Some women feel cold, or itchy, others feel that the imagery infantilizes their body in ways that make them feel weird about themselves and/or their partners, some just don't like how sex feels when they are shaved - it can be much more intense and for some people more stimulation is too much stimulation. Of course there are many reasons that she might be reluctant to do so, and I am just offering advice on a few.
Is a trimmed but not shaved pussy a good option? Less itchy for her, and the hair still isn't likely to get in your nose or mouth/stuck in your teeth/whatever the problem is. If it is less an itchiness issue for her, find out what it is. The prior solution is also a nice middle ground if it is an overstimulation issue.
If this is more of an internal or emotional issue, the important thing here is to find out what bothers her about it, and then explain that your desire for this is not based in the imagery that concerns her, and that it is in fact about your tactile problem. Oh. Make sure she knows that you don't think she is gross when you are having this conversation. In the end, it will likely come down to either her concerns overruling that desire, or in her deciding that she thinks its a reasonable ask and that she is happy to make licking her pussy an easier and better experience for you. Either outcome is totally acceptable, though.
If she is not comfortable, don't push it. She might change her mind later, but she might not. Then it's up to you to decide if the hair is a dealbreaker.
By all means have a conversation, but don't try to dictate anything. You don't own her. BTW, I've been known to floss with pubic hair.
I've shaved my gf so many times... servicing your gf is good lol
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