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Is it okay for the guy in your life to call you "bitch"?
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Gingerbread Lover
Unless I'm actually being a bitch, and deserve it, then no. It's not okay. And he'd better find a more suitable word or turn of phrase than that to confront me with, as well. I wouldn't call him a name like that if I was confronting him about something, or as a term of endearment, unless he requested it.
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Allow Me to weigh in here as well. In My experience, the word bitch has always had negative connotations. No one I knew used bitch in a nice way and there was always anger and bad feelings associated with it. So I dislike the word. Now I know a few ladies on Lush that consider bitch as a good thing and even enjoy being called that. But I have never nor will ever use that word in reality or My stories. You may be a slut, a whore, or a fucktoy, but you will never be a bitch! 
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I won't like to chat with any man who calls me a 'bitch'. There are many decent and acceptable ways to address a woman...this particular word is among the worst possible.
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Sure....if he wants to hear what kind of a son-of-a-bitch he is ...und do with out sex ...for a week for each use ...of the word ....
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Honestly it depends on the situation, my ex called me a bitch once when I was very much behaving like one, it was a term for my behaviour. If he behaved like a bastard I would tell him so.
It's not like he was throwing it out there to pimp slap me, it was just a word he used to describe my behaviour and since I knew he respected me I didn't feel the need to go crazy and kick him out the door. I guess it's difficult to put to words the difference between using it as an insult or using it as an adjective of sorts.
Words don't hold much power, it is the intent behind them that carries the weight. If somebody used any random word with the intent to insult me I would be angry.
It's not like he was throwing it out there to pimp slap me, it was just a word he used to describe my behaviour and since I knew he respected me I didn't feel the need to go crazy and kick him out the door. I guess it's difficult to put to words the difference between using it as an insult or using it as an adjective of sorts.
Words don't hold much power, it is the intent behind them that carries the weight. If somebody used any random word with the intent to insult me I would be angry.
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It's all in the context. With the right guy I can enjoy being called bitch, slut, etc. during sex. However if it is used in anger than no it's not okay. Some girls are okay with it, most aren't. Don't try to call her a bitch during sex without her permission, 9/10 times it will not end well for you.
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In the heat of the moment...it depends on the games we are playing and the way it is said.
Top Shot
Ermmm...99.95% of the time, no. Definitely not.
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Brown Sugar
Uh, no never! It is never okay for my man to call me a bitch.
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Nope, not okay at all
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A bitch is a dog. I am not a dog and don't like being called a bitch.
I was addressed as that bitch in a meeting and replied "bow wow" and then gave him both barrels. He apologised and withdrew the comment.
I was interested to see that very few people made eye contact with me after that during that meeting.
I was addressed as that bitch in a meeting and replied "bow wow" and then gave him both barrels. He apologised and withdrew the comment.
I was interested to see that very few people made eye contact with me after that during that meeting.
Rainbow Warrior
I'm used to it. In fact, its become a running joke, because of my position as head of a company. My boyfriend is the titular CEO, but since my dad owns the company, and I'm the chief operations officer, no one questions my authority. So at work and at home, I'm not only called a bitch, but the QUEEN-bitch!
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To be fair I don't like babe, honey, or sweetie either.
This. Honestly, in the right context, at the right time, I'm okay with being called "bitch" (thus my "99.95% of the time not okay" comment before), but I am never okay with being called "sugar" or "honey" or "babe" or "sweetie"--I actually find those words more demeaning, because they're just thrown out there, with no thought given.
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Depends on the context in which they are using it. If it's said in a playful manner(Who doesn't tease and pick on their Bf/Gf/Wife/husband/etc.?) then I'm okay with it. If it's meant to insult me, then we have a problem.
Edit: Would be ironic of me to say it offends me at all times given the image in my signature.
Edit: Would be ironic of me to say it offends me at all times given the image in my signature.
There are too many uptight, politically correct, attitudes on display in this thread for my liking.
Between two people in a committed relationship, any mode of communication is acceptable... yes absolutely anything... so long as everything said or done is consensual, and does not vicariously involve any third party.
The colourful expressions my dear wife may, on occasion, use to describe me would obviously be totally unacceptable to the professed sensibilities of some who have posted above. As would my responses to her, laced as they would be with elegant dismissive charm and wit I hope. Over the years these exchanges have ensured we have never fallen out seriously over anything. They are the oil that makes the relationship function. As for what anyone else might think about the way we carry on ...we care not a fig. It is not their business, and if they think it is, then they can go f*** themselves.
Would I use such banter with anyone else?... no I would not. Would I write it down?... no I would not.
Would I use ironic or mock sarcasm, including pejorative descriptors in banter, with anyone else?... yes of course, with any real friend of either sex with whom I was comfortable, and absolutely certain that misplaced offence would not be taken. The merest hint of uptight political correctness occurring in otherwise normal conversation with anyone is, for me, sufficient to trigger the default condition of a perfectly professional, well mannered, exchange of such colourless banality that it probably ends in terminal boredom for both sides.
Meaningful social intercourse requires give and take, mutual respect on both sides, levity and kindness, in order to be significant.
Anything else is either platitudinous vacuity or a dangerous dialogue of the deaf.
Between two people in a committed relationship, any mode of communication is acceptable... yes absolutely anything... so long as everything said or done is consensual, and does not vicariously involve any third party.
The colourful expressions my dear wife may, on occasion, use to describe me would obviously be totally unacceptable to the professed sensibilities of some who have posted above. As would my responses to her, laced as they would be with elegant dismissive charm and wit I hope. Over the years these exchanges have ensured we have never fallen out seriously over anything. They are the oil that makes the relationship function. As for what anyone else might think about the way we carry on ...we care not a fig. It is not their business, and if they think it is, then they can go f*** themselves.
Would I use such banter with anyone else?... no I would not. Would I write it down?... no I would not.
Would I use ironic or mock sarcasm, including pejorative descriptors in banter, with anyone else?... yes of course, with any real friend of either sex with whom I was comfortable, and absolutely certain that misplaced offence would not be taken. The merest hint of uptight political correctness occurring in otherwise normal conversation with anyone is, for me, sufficient to trigger the default condition of a perfectly professional, well mannered, exchange of such colourless banality that it probably ends in terminal boredom for both sides.
Meaningful social intercourse requires give and take, mutual respect on both sides, levity and kindness, in order to be significant.
Anything else is either platitudinous vacuity or a dangerous dialogue of the deaf.
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Contextually I'm okay with anybody doing it, but it's not a common context. It's a friendly jab, and that person and I have to know why its happening, even if we don't know each other. If it isn't meant as something friendly, it may be met with a similar response. If my partner were to say it to me meanly then it would simply be met with tears; though this has never occurred with my current girlfriend. The point is, it's up to the situation, but it's a very simple delineation in my eyes.
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