Have you ever dated an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband of a female friend?
If not, are there any circumstances that would make this an option? (ie. does it matter how serious they were, long long they've been separated, or how close the female friend is?)
What if you had genuinely strong feelings for this guy?
There is much talk on "the rules", meaning that you never date a friend's ex.. but are there any circumstances where you might consider bending this rules. Or is it all fair game as long as they are broken up.
Also, if you've been on the other side of the fence where a friend of yours has dated your ex, how did you react to it?
Both guys and gals are free to answer this Q...
It's only ok if you don't get caught. I did it and it ruined both relaionships, especially when they got back together.
I’ve always had a tighter bond with my girlfriends than I’ve had with my family… So, ex’s are strictly off limits for me – hell even guys that THEY like are off limits.
I don’t care if they ARE over them, or if the guy they like doesn’t like them back... I refuse to open up a can of worms and lose people that I care about. A friendship is more important to me than any dick would ever be, but then again I only have a handful of people in my life that I would refer to as FRIENDS…
yeah I go with the bros before hos or whatever the female equivilant is...Life is too short to lose good friends over a man
I think the trick is too do this with nobodys knowing. can you enjoy it successsfully I do knot no. but if you do not try you do not succeed.
There's too many fish in the sea to troll for someone that a friend of mine has had intimate relations with.
I have never wanted to invite that kind of drama into my life. That's jealousy and the only jealousy I can control is my own.
On the flip side, there was a time long ago, when that was one of my worries. That someday in the future, I'd see one of my ex's hanging on the arm of some guy I knew...and that guy might not even be a friend of mine.
But, I got over that shit, in my late 20's. That's jealousy and that's a waste of emotion.
I had my shot with that woman, it didn't work out..she should have a chance to be happy and if that happiness comes with whomever she chooses - more power to her.
Also, as I was telling someone the other night...of all my friends or guys I know closer than mere acquaintances - none of them ever had a girlfriend or a wife whom I found to be all that, attractive anyway. Perhaps that's just part of my overall thinking, creeping into my vision to cloud 'her looks or appeal', I don't know.
I just know that I don't need that kind of crap near me.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
My frisky side of me would say, oh yes no problem dating a friend's ex; but when I realise what friends I have and considering that most of my friends have kids at my kids school, this means seeing the friends ex-wife a lot and as I have been friends with the women - there is no way that I could rub it in their faces and start dating their ex-husbands.
It's to messy to even contemplate in my mind.
No, no, hell to the no! Do not under any circumstances, date your ex. Period!
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I had a close female friend once encourage me to date her ex. I went out with him once, but felt completely uncomfortable with the situation, despite the fact that she was so ultra cool with it. He was also one of the great loves of her life, and while she was fine with it initially, I didn't want to risk our friendship if things turned serious later, and she started to feel awkward about it.
My rule has always been to stay away from men that my friends have had relationships with, unless it was just casual dating... in which case I'd ask first, just to make sure.
I have, however, hooked up with an ex's close friend.... partly due to attraction, and partly because I knew it would upset my ex (who deserved to be made as upset as possible based on how our relationship ended).
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No way. My sex life is to complicated already. I totally don't need that shit.
Just because I know there is this whole 'girl code' thing going on with this, I wont do it. BUT, personally, just because my love with this person didn't work out, doesn't mean I don't want them to find other love.
Maybe they were meant to be, I don't ever want to be the cause of two soulmates not finding each other because I was too petty to get over myself.
If a friend has an issue with my being happy, I would be forced to reconsider the value of that friendship. Whom I date matters only to who is dating me.
No, I wouldn't date a friend's ex. Sisters before misters and all that.
I'm not sure I'd want a friend dating an ex of mine either. I might start to wonder if they'd had something going on during the time we were together. It's best to just stay away from that issue all together, I think.
Depends on why they broke up in the first place... If he was the cause of the break up, then he's not worth it, but as the saying goes... "One womans trash, is another womans treasure"
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My best friend had been seeing a guy for almost a month (long time for her) I told her I wouldn't mind bedding him myself so she brought him round to my flat one Saturday night and we had a threesome. It was lovely for all of us.
She carried on seeing him for a further six weeks until she got tired of his possessive attitudes. l.
I then had sex with him myself on a few occasions .... I told my friend about it and she wasn't in the least bit bothered. We're still the best of friends and occasionally still have girly sex together.
No never ever will across that line..
Not until she is with someone else and he has been with someone else.
