I wasn't sure where the correct place was for this question so forgive me if it shouldn't be here....
Another question on this forum prompted me to finally ask the question..... Could someone please explain to me what the attraction is, for them to want an interracial relationship? I thought people were attracted to people, not race or colour so it's not something i've ever understood.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
As sprite said before me, I'm attracted to people and not just their race. Being biracial (half black, half white...please don't ask me which half) I get asked all the time: Are you more attracted to black guys, or white guys? My answer is always the same. I'm attracted to attractive people. My biological mother is white and my biological father is black, which is one of the many reasons she was forced (yes forced) to give me up. My adopted mother is black and my father is white. They wanted to adopt, I was ideal for obvious reasons. But I digress.
I think you've actually answered your own question. I think people who date interracially have already gotten past that barrier and just see the person they're with and/or embrace their differences. However, I will say that some people do have their personal preferences for certain races, and it usually has more now to do with preconceived notions and less to do with stereotypes. For example, I know black guys that will only date white women because they give less "attitude" than black women. But I always point out to them that the white women they seek out tend to to be meek, not because they're white, but because they sought out a meek woman that happened to be white...thus proving themselves right. I also know Indian guys who only date white women because it's a status symbol. It goes along with the "American dream". Job, house, car, white trophy wife. Again, my examples are just preconceived notions of people I know. For some, it is still a . And that may hold an allure for them.
For me, being of distinctly mixed raced, to date interracially, I'd have to date someone that wasn't black or white, which I have many times. But I wouldn't date someone just because they were the same race as me...or date someone just because they weren't the same race as me.
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There were several reasons why i prefer interracial relationships.
One is you get to experience other foods you might not try if you weren't exposed to them. Second is you get to see how other cultures interact with their families. In other cultures it opened my mind to certain family decisions which i would follow over what is considered tradition in my own family. knowledge is good for growth.
When being in an interracial relationship they have certain values that i am looking for. it just so happens they are of a different race. Love doesn't see no color. for me it doesn't matter what race they are. if you love that person then you love that person.
Thanks for your replies folks, there are reasons you gave that I would never have thought of.. I thought the ' ' aspect might be one reason given, and a preference for a certain 'look' (not colour) but looking for certain values, dating white women for less 'attitude', status symbol....etc never occurred to me...
race has zero to do with sexual attraction
though living here in the south...sometimes it is looked at ..as...well...differently..
i dont care what color you are..if you treat me like a queen
you have no color..only love
My wife and I both dated in interracial relationships when we were single. Variety is the spice of life. Enjoy and appreciate the nuances that make us different somehow. But the only real differences are cultural and that can be the same race in that regard.