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In Control, or Controlled?
Active Ink Slinger
I love letting go and let my man take over. To have him take me. To place me exactly the way he wants me, it drives me wild and gets me oh so wet. The flip side of this is I often find that that gives me the ultimate control because I love hearing him groan, to know that he is lost in me, that I am the one driving him to the edge and then over it. That i can use my body to pleasure him . So I guess I am both the controlled and the controller
Active Ink Slinger
50-50 works best for me.
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Active Ink Slinger
It is a partnership. But remember, just because you are a submissive, does not mean you relinquish control. In a D/s situation, though many may think otherwise, the sub is in control. All good Doms (-mes) know that.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
Her Royal Spriteness
want to hear a serious answer? my first instinct is to say 'controlled'. i identify as a submissive, after all, but truthfully? i am always, in a way, in control. that's the appeal to me, i sometimes think - i can choose to give myself to someone, but i control the situation, i insist upon rules, i have a safe word to stop things, i have a lot of control in my relationships, in some ways i am a control freak. not sure how i feel about it, but i recognize it.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by sprite
want to hear a serious answer? my first instinct is to say 'controlled'. i identify as a submissive, after all, but truthfully? i am always, in a way, in control. that's the appeal to me, i sometimes think - i can choose to give myself to someone, but i control the situation, i insist upon rules, i have a safe word to stop things, i have a lot of control in my relationships, in some ways i am a control freak. not sure how i feel about it, but i recognize it.
I know a few people who are into dom/sub play and when they tell me about their experiences, it sometimes seems to me that the sub is in control since she is getting what she wants and actually the dom is following her lead. Though I may be way off base here since I am not into this type of thing.
As for me, I prefer to be in control with women, and 50/50 with men.
Advanced Wordsmith
I identify more with being controlled, rather the one in control. I think it is because I more of a submissive by nature.
Active Ink Slinger
I would never let myself be tied up but don't mind at all my guy being dominant sometimes as long as he remembers turn-about is fair play.
Her Royal Spriteness
Quote by Nikki703
I know a few people who are into dom/sub play and when they tell me about their experiences, it sometimes seems to me that the sub is in control since she is getting what she wants and actually the dom is following her lead. Though I may be way off base here since I am not into this type of thing.
*nods* while perhaps not universally true, i think that for some of us, it hits the mark very closely.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Advanced Wordsmith
It really depends are the partner for me. I am really neither about dom or sub, i think the best kind of partnership is a balance between the both. What really makes it perfect is when the two are open about what they like/want and both work to make each other happy.
Advanced Wordsmith
Being controlled is something that doubles the pleasure for me. Its not anything like dom or sub but just letiting him do the things the way he wants.
Active Ink Slinger
depending on the situation I like both
Active Ink Slinger
I agree w/ Meena.... everyword..... ;)
Advanced Wordsmith
Mmm... Love being controlled. Put up a little resistance to make it intersting. 
Rookie Scribe
I have to say that all depends on my mood. Sometimes i love to be in control and then other times i need to be controlled...
Active Ink Slinger
I like being controlled. I feel silly trying to be the one in control
"I appreciate this whole seduction thing you've got going on here, but let me give you a tip: I'm a sure thing." - Vivian Ward (Julia Roberts) in Pretty Women
