I know women get the urge to get pregnant and is something they may not realize, but many men out there also feel the compelling urge to mate just as bad. And I am not talking about just wanting to fuck, but men who get the urge to take a woman with the full intent on making her pregnant.
I'm just curious how women cope with or deal with these urges when they hit you.
Do I get the urges? Sure.
How do I deal with it? I remember the screaming kid at work throwing a tantrum because his mum won't let him out of the trolley. His screams echoing up and down each aisle.. Yeah, no thanks!!
The desire to have a child is hardly restricted to women. This became painfully apparent to me when I became sterile at 23. The loss of my ability to father children destroyed me emotionally and changed me in the most fundamental ways.
After that, every relationship I had was tainted by what I considered to be a fatal flaw and I refused to even consider the idea of getting married. Stupid, yes but I was young and angry and would not be talked out of it.
So yeah, the urge to have children of your own, of your own blood and heritage, that is not something women alone can feel.
I have had the urges, pined for a little baby then soon get bought back to reality because I suffer from some medical conditions and couldn't give a child a fantastic life and so that instantly makes me not want one. 99.9% chance I won't get pregnant because it would be unfair on the child (I could potentially die a lot younger than other people). Also, the fact that when I see babies puking, crying and screaming and I just like 'Thank god it isn't me"!
Everything happens for a reason. Live for the moment and have no regrets.
I never felt any compulsion to have children. I have 2, but my distinct thought both times were "Fuck. Now what?"
My ex husband felt the compulsion to have children. Both of my girls are a result of his compulsion. When I made it excessively clear that I would not be impregnated again, he left me for a girl with a baby.
I never felt the urge to have children...in fact, when I fell pregnant with my first, even though I was working in a radiology clinic at the time, even though I am a nurse, I was in such denial I didn't even check the pee on the stick test for like an hour. So the first one was a whoops! the second one was incredibly carefully planned (based on an APA study showing that a three-year separation in sibling ages was supposedly perfect), and the third was another whoops!
The desire to be impregnated, or to impregnate someone, is, however, hardwired into our brains, and I'm finding as my boys grow older and I approach the no-go point, I want more and more to be pregnant again.
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