My girlfriend is very easy-going when it comes to how guys touch her when she is in a nightclub, and will let them touch her however they want, the more forward and confident the better in her mind, as long as she is somewhat attracted to the guy. Even under her skirts and dresses and inside her underwear.
I was curious how some of you other girls feel about it. How do you girls feel about strangers you meet in clubs and bars touching you up and feeling your body? And how far do you let them go?
Thanks for the extensive reply. I got a good insight into your perspective from it. I can see why from your point of view, some random guy touching you would be unappealing. Guess it's a turn on for some and not for others.
I think I even got creeped out just reading the part about the guy licking his lips behing you, Katje. It's always good to see a secure relationship, where you talk about how your boyfriend is fine about how his friends behave. It is curious to know how far your friends tend to go with you, especially when they've had a little too much to drink and inhabitions go out the window.
The only thing someone who decides to randomly feel me up in a bar is going to feel is the distinct heft of my Glock 26 in her FlashBang bra holster. The one guy who had this experience, backed away veeerrry slowly.
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As long as it is reciprocal I am cool with it.
If I know the guy and if I have a crush on him then it is all good...
This is not even close to being okay. PSA for guys reading this: never do this.
Ever.
I agree with most of you in most instances.
But at the same time if I have accepted a drink from a strange guy and sent a signal of interest. Or maybe had a few laughs together. I would not object to a bit of exploration at all.
Or maybe we are dancing nice slow intimate dancing and to a point I could feel his hardness and I do not back away makes it just fine. In fact it could be called an invitation
Remember an invitation need not be always verbal.
Well I have pretty stern ground rules as far as what guys can do is concerned. I mean it's part of my "good girl" persona haha. If I let random guys grope me on the dance floor my entire image would be blown haha. Generally I don't dance with randoms anyways, so it's not really an issue. However, if I'm attracted to a guy and we know each other and my friends have vetted him....well...some hot dancing is cool. But he needs to be discreet and not too obvious or I'm gonna slap his hand down. I'd really totally blush if everyone saw. Isn't his what bedrooms and dark corners are for hehe?
Once I was at a club dancing with a couple of gfs. I was a little drunk and they were playing with me. One was fingering me from behind and the other had my tits out playing with them. I knew I was being watched and it was turning me on. My eyes were closed just enjoying it. The one fingering me stopped and pulled my dress up so everyone could get a good look at my pussy. Then she started fingering me again I opened my eyes and realized she had let a guy take her place. He didn't stop til I came in front of everyone.
That was the first time a random guy fingered me at a club. It's happened a few times since then. I guess I'm a big enough slut to enjoy it.
In college I enjoyed going to clubs so crowded that you couldn't really tell who was touching you.
It's been a couple years since anything like that has happened. Don't think I would really like it now.
It would take avrgblkgrl a minute to respond? I've have the world record then if that is the norm. Um...not only no...but, hell no. Totally gross, disrespectful and creepy.
They'd pull back a bloody stub! Talk to me, Buy me a drink, Ask for my Number! But DO NOT touch me!
I have known too many guys to get signals wrong, in fact most I ever knew, it seems they are notorious to me, and even without ANY provocation. (I've had fun back in the day on dance floors and stuff too, but too much is too much! Back when I did drink it is a wonder MORE did not happen that was bad- and there was plenty. I was never an exhibitionist. I never felt like I needed to seek any attention. I DID loose myself dancing but that was not "bad" or meant as sexual. Even not drinking and older now not hanging out with those people and types of scenes... things still happen, so "signals" are too easily misinterpreted in my opinion, or they do not need any signal, just a "Hello" or not even that or a smile sometimes - right place wrong time! Whether they think they are God's gift to women or just act on impulse or 'trying'.) I say, they should be careful and proceed with some caution if she lets you know she is interested, test the water first.
I have a few friends who grope me or spank my ass. Honestly, I wouldn't let a stranger grope me out of nowhere. Now if I was dancing and I've had a couple of shots then I'd allow grinding and maybe a little touch but nothing skin to skin.
When I've been groped by strangers like this, I find I'm suddenly a very bad dancer. My stilleto heels tend to stomp down on the feet of which ever guy is doing the groping. View my ass like you would my car. Touch by invitation only.
*Im 6' and run regularly. I put those heels to very good use. Gropers typically become hopping-on-one-footers.*
I'm STILL trying to believe somebody asked this? Dude; it's called sexual assault and battery! And, YES , they CAN have you arrested for it! The ones who only want to HURT you, are the NICE ONES! Ever wanted to spend the rest of your life as a known sex criminal? How are you going to like having to register and report to your parole officer? ( Shaking my head as I leave.)
It kind of enforces how much of a party slut she is, if the girls with slut as their orientation or in their name won't let a stranger touch them in a club.
If I'm into the guy... Yeah sure you can touch me but if I'm not keep your hands off of me.
This is definitely not ok!!!
