I don't think the moves that work for a woman, swaying hips, bending over, etc, work for a guy.
So what would be your idea of a good lapdance from a guy?
A lap dance for women?
I'd start with a carefully planned and arranged breakfast in bed including a single red rose and served after I cleaned up the kitchen.
Women are not quickly or easily stimulated visually but will respond amorously to a well thought out romantic demonstration of how much you value her.
To clarify here my wife actually asked for this to make up for the terrible one she says she got at her bachlorette party. I'm like most of you and would think a lapdance from a guy wouldn't be that sexy. That's why I asked for pointers.