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I recently read somewhere -- "finally a video I liked .. not the usual degrading bj"
Do you consider giving a bj degrading ... If so why?
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Giving a blowjob - a degrading act ?
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no, not all all. sharing a loving moment. i lick to receive also !!!
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It may be from a feminist viewpoint of witnessing the act.
If you look at it when a woman is on her knees in front of a many standing, them maybe.
I don't see it as submissive or anything degrading.
I think of a man or woman "servicing" each other sexually is a grand thing!
Oral sex whether it be "giving head" or "eating out" is very sexy!
Kisses!
Steph
If you look at it when a woman is on her knees in front of a many standing, them maybe.
I don't see it as submissive or anything degrading.
I think of a man or woman "servicing" each other sexually is a grand thing!
Oral sex whether it be "giving head" or "eating out" is very sexy!
Kisses!
Steph
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Oh, I'd love to do it but am afraid, need some help doing it, once I do I think it would come naturally
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In certain circumstances and positions (such as on your knees or being coerced into giving him a quick BJ without receiving anything in return) I see as submissive actions and I enjoy that role very much.
Degrading no, I don't see it in that way.
This may sound strange, but I view the circumstances you laid out as degrading along with the forced scene that is borderline IMO. BJ's done freely is all together different.
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Giving a blowjob is the same as eating a woman. Both can be acts of beauty and can deliver great orgasm.
Of course, we see women jacked in the face often and rarely see men forced or handled roughly in this manner. Bummer because not only is it a turn-on to watch a woman stick her sweetness in a face and work it hard but also, it's great to watch a emotional dick sucking.
Imagine a mouth drenched dick and balls. So hard and slippery it slides down a relaxed throat as the balls hard become an extension and are allowed in the mouth as well. Then she strokes with her hand the places the mouth missed. After a while his blood red cock begs for the softness of the mouth and then the roughness of her hand. Shoving, he screams in a low manner as she sucks and then jerks the cream to his head and spills it over him to see the whiteness and then has to have the sweetness and eats it.
With a towel she wipes the wet and mess from him and wishes for more.
A blowjob is sex. It can be wonderful to receive him with your mouth as you should your vagina or your ass : )
Of course, we see women jacked in the face often and rarely see men forced or handled roughly in this manner. Bummer because not only is it a turn-on to watch a woman stick her sweetness in a face and work it hard but also, it's great to watch a emotional dick sucking.
Imagine a mouth drenched dick and balls. So hard and slippery it slides down a relaxed throat as the balls hard become an extension and are allowed in the mouth as well. Then she strokes with her hand the places the mouth missed. After a while his blood red cock begs for the softness of the mouth and then the roughness of her hand. Shoving, he screams in a low manner as she sucks and then jerks the cream to his head and spills it over him to see the whiteness and then has to have the sweetness and eats it.
With a towel she wipes the wet and mess from him and wishes for more.
A blowjob is sex. It can be wonderful to receive him with your mouth as you should your vagina or your ass : )
Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.
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This may sound strange, but I view the circumstances you laid out as degrading along with the forced scene that is borderline IMO. BJ's done freely is all together different.
Yes it does sound strange. If I'm consenting and quite happy to do it how can it possibly be degrading to me personally or be regarded as borderline .
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Yes it does sound strange. If I'm consenting and quite happy to do it how can it possibly be degrading to me personally or be regarded as borderline .
OK...if you STARTED it that would be one thing AS LONG AS you had total control of depth (in the moth/throat), speed, and timing/location on/in your body.
Best BJ I EVER received was NOT asked for by me, nor expected in any way. We had finished me giving a long, slow, body massage and moved to sofa where she could stretch out and spread out for some oral attention from me. She then sat up and had me join her on the sofa for hugs, kisses, cuddles....when she suddenly got up, knelt on the floor between my knees...jerked my slacks off and proceeded to administer very slowly and softly an unforgettable BJ. At some time in the act, I lightly caressed and held her face/cheeks with both hands. I don't think that was degrading as she totally controlled the intimate act.
Maybe I watch too much porn that IS degrading??
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They are only degrading if she has a good girl complex
Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X
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What kind of "good girl" are you talking about?
The good girl complex is when a woman believes that good girls don't do things like oral sex, anal sex, various positions, or even enjoy sex all that much.
Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X
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Degrading? Not as long as it is consensual with someone you like. Then it's great fun! And fun when he reciprocates!!!!
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So, if a man is on his knees licking/sucking his woman's crotch is that considered degrading too? I think not. Political correctness at it's worst. Keep that shit out of the bedroom.
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
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Nothing is degrading if your doing it of your own free will and you are enjoying it.
And as far as "Good Girls" dont do those things, I enjoy Anal, Oral, Kinky Sex and a few other things I wont mention, but I think Im a "Good Girl", at least when it matters. LOL!
I am so sick of everything having to be politically correct. Its like the people who say stripping is degrading and exploits women. But in reality wouldnt the guys who are giving all their money to the dancer and then leaving horny and broke be the one who is exploited?
And as far as "Good Girls" dont do those things, I enjoy Anal, Oral, Kinky Sex and a few other things I wont mention, but I think Im a "Good Girl", at least when it matters. LOL!
I am so sick of everything having to be politically correct. Its like the people who say stripping is degrading and exploits women. But in reality wouldnt the guys who are giving all their money to the dancer and then leaving horny and broke be the one who is exploited?
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I dont find it degrading at all, when it comes to oral i love giving and receiving!
I can understand why not every woman like to watch oral on a porn, must of the times girls are just been mouth fuck and gagging and tearing and make up all over her face. Not my favorite thing of porns either.
But i have never felt degraded or felt like im degrading someone during oral!!
I can understand why not every woman like to watch oral on a porn, must of the times girls are just been mouth fuck and gagging and tearing and make up all over her face. Not my favorite thing of porns either.
But i have never felt degraded or felt like im degrading someone during oral!!
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I dont find it degrading at all, when it comes to oral i love giving and receiving!
I can understand why not every woman like to watch oral on a porn, must of the times girls are just been mouth fuck and gagging and tearing and make up all over her face. Not my favorite thing of porns either.
But i have never felt degraded or felt like im degrading someone during oral!!
That is because 99% of porn is made by men for men. If you ever see a porn vid made by a women director,or a vid made for couples enjoyment, the scenes are much more passionate and take the woman's pleasure into account too.
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I dont find it degrading at all, when it comes to oral i love giving and receiving!
I can understand why not every woman like to watch oral on a porn, must of the times girls are just been mouth fuck and gagging and tearing and make up all over her face. Not my favorite thing of porns either.
But i have never felt degraded or felt like im degrading someone during oral!!
Just my opinion here... but I see a difference between a blowjob and skull fucking.
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates
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No, it's not degrading.
There are certain cultures that do see it as degrading and prefer not to subject the 'wife' to giving BJ's (better to use the dirty hookers for that kind of thing).
Positions are also not degrading in themselves... it's just a play on dom/sub which every sex act can be labelled as. There is plenty of porn out there where the female is using a guy's face as a fuck-toy as well.
If it's consensual, then it's not degrading. There are many people that enjoy degrading/humiliation overtones as part of role-play but you've got to understand that it's just sexual role-play, not a statement about who those people are in their non-sexual lives.
There are certain cultures that do see it as degrading and prefer not to subject the 'wife' to giving BJ's (better to use the dirty hookers for that kind of thing).
Positions are also not degrading in themselves... it's just a play on dom/sub which every sex act can be labelled as. There is plenty of porn out there where the female is using a guy's face as a fuck-toy as well.
If it's consensual, then it's not degrading. There are many people that enjoy degrading/humiliation overtones as part of role-play but you've got to understand that it's just sexual role-play, not a statement about who those people are in their non-sexual lives.
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That is because 99% of porn is made by men for men. If you ever see a porn vid made by a women director, the scenes are much more passionate and take the woman's pleasure into account too.
You should watch some porn by the female director, Mason. You'd probably be shocked. Personally I think there is plenty of passion/pleasure in her films but she definitely takes the more raw route in this interpretation.
It's a little known fact that some of the most extreme porn out there is actually made by female directors. Yeah I know... it surprised me too!
At the risk of veering off topic, Poizenivy posted something rather interesting on a related thread:
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst20447_Love-giving-head.aspx
STRESS RELIEF FOR LADIES....and I AM blushing just mentioning it.
Rick
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst20447_Love-giving-head.aspx
STRESS RELIEF FOR LADIES....and I AM blushing just mentioning it.
Rick
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Well I'm convinced that it's OK to give blow jobs, just gotta wait for the right opportunity.
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OK...if you STARTED it that would be one thing AS LONG AS you had total control of depth (in the moth/throat), speed, and timing/location on/in your body.
Best BJ I EVER received was NOT asked for by me, nor expected in any way. We had finished me giving a long, slow, body massage and moved to sofa where she could stretch out and spread out for some oral attention from me. She then sat up and had me join her on the sofa for hugs, kisses, cuddles....when she suddenly got up, knelt on the floor between my knees...jerked my slacks off and proceeded to administer very slowly and softly an unforgettable BJ. At some time in the act, I lightly caressed and held her face/cheeks with both hands. I don't think that was degrading as she totally controlled the intimate act.
Maybe I watch too much porn that IS degrading??
Wrong again, I never start it,I like having a man suggesting, requesting, or demanding that I give him a blow job. pushing my head head down there so I'm looking at his hard cock bobbing about and pulsing with a need for release in front of my face. I like him to start it, I like him to be in control of me and it's very horny if he tries to shove his cock deeper into my mouth until I can't take anymore without gagging. I love to feel his lust as he holds my head so I can't move away when he shoots his load into my throat and I have to swallow.
Realistically I suppose that I am in control to a degree of what's happening, I'm being the sweet nice girl who only submits to sucking cock when the man coerces me into doing it but that's exactly what I want him to do.
Maybe coerced is the wrong word, persuaded or talked into it might be more appropriate
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Wrong again, I never start it,I like having a man suggesting, requesting, or demanding that I give him a blow job. pushing my head head down there so I'm looking at his hard cock bobbing about and pulsing with a need for release in front of my face. I like him to start it, I like him to be in control of me and it's very horny if he tries to shove his cock deeper into my mouth until I can't take anymore without gagging. I love to feel his lust as he holds my head so I can't move away when he shoots his load into my throat and I have to swallow.
Realistically I suppose that I am in control to a degree of what's happening, I'm being the sweet nice girl who only submits to sucking cock when the man coerces me into doing it but that's exactly what I want him to do.
Maybe coerced is the wrong word, persuaded or talked into it might be more appropriate
That is so HOT and I LOVE your attitude!!!
Too bad there aren't more women that feel that way. The BS about oral sex being degrading must have been started by a bunch of ugly prudes that want to be sure that nobody enjoys sex.
I love going down on women and don't mind it if they want to grind their pussy into my face and ride me like a horse either.
Someone that is able to throw their inhibitions out the window and enjoy sex for the pure intense good feeling you can get from it and completely surrender to the pleasure of the moment will have a very happy and fulfillng sex life.
Sex is one of the most wonderful things about life and I celebrate that every chance I get... ;)
Great minds think alike but dirty minds work together.... ;)
To take my man's lovely velvety cock into my mouth - in whatever position. To see the look of ecstasy I'm inducing, written all over his face. To know his whole being is responding to my ultimate stimulus. To receive the hot flush of his deepest and most intimate body fluids and to commit it to its digestion within me. And finally, to know a part of his flesh is to become ultimately a part of my flesh. How the hell can that be degrading???
PS I'm reliably informed B/J's or oral sex along with anal sex was an illegal act here in UK forty years ago. Punishable by jail in some cases. Thankfully I'm a girl of today or I'd have a prison record as long as my arm.
PS I'm reliably informed B/J's or oral sex along with anal sex was an illegal act here in UK forty years ago. Punishable by jail in some cases. Thankfully I'm a girl of today or I'd have a prison record as long as my arm.
I don't think the general act of giving a blowjob is degrading...it's the way it's done that can make it become degrading. when it's extra rough and there's a lot of unnecessary force added by the guy (i.e. making the girl gag, holding her nose, getting so rough that she ends up drooling all over the place, etc.) that's when it can go from something hot to something kinda gross. everybody has different levels of sexual comfort...some like it rough while others prefer slow and passionate, so what i would consider degrading could be another girl's biggest turn-on. to each its own, i suppose
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I don't think the general act of giving a blowjob is degrading...it's the way it's done that can make it become degrading. when it's extra rough and there's a lot of unnecessary force added by the guy (i.e. making the girl gag, holding her nose, getting so rough that she ends up drooling all over the place, etc.) that's when it can go from something hot to something kinda gross. everybody has different levels of sexual comfort...some like it rough while others prefer slow and passionate, so what i would consider degrading could be another girl's biggest turn-on. to each its own, i suppose
ALEXIS: I think you stated very well what makes it degrading. It's the male's "attitude" and followup action that we're talking about. Well said
Her Royal Spriteness
it's totally degrading. in fact, all sex is. sex should be for making babies, not for pleasure. that's how god intended it. all you people are going to burn in... *bursts into giggles*
actually, my first impulse was to say 'if it WAS degrading, i'd be doing it more!' - being degraded is kind of a turn on too, if you're in the proper mood. ok, you tell me, is 9 am too early to be drinking?
yeah, i know, i need to take these questions more seriously. Hey, Nikki! seriously, if i was making porn, it would make most guys blush! want to make some porn with me? we'll have Doll direct! omg, it's gonna be scary! *giggles*
actually, my first impulse was to say 'if it WAS degrading, i'd be doing it more!' - being degraded is kind of a turn on too, if you're in the proper mood. ok, you tell me, is 9 am too early to be drinking?
yeah, i know, i need to take these questions more seriously. Hey, Nikki! seriously, if i was making porn, it would make most guys blush! want to make some porn with me? we'll have Doll direct! omg, it's gonna be scary! *giggles*
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