If my guy went to a strip club and got a lap dance it would not bother me as long as it wasn't something he did regularly. If it was a special occasion out with the guys then what's the harm. I have gone to strip clubs,with both male and female dancers so I would be a hypocrite if I thought it was wrong. Even if he came while she was grinding him, that is bound to happen sometimes even if it wasn't what he was looking for.
But the thing that would bother me is that he went for the additional 30 minutes! That tells me that he wanted to cum from the dance. He was using it as a form of sex, at least in his mind. In my eyes YES, that is cheating!
Like others have said I don't class it as cheating in the truest sense of the word. My ex went on stag nights etc and had lap dances, more because everyone else was doing it and he felt he wanted to be part of the gang as it were.
I hav'nt heard of lap dances lasting 30 minutes? from what i've seen and been told about, they normaly last 2 or 3 songs, but i'm no expert. However I would be pissed at my partner going for a second round to have an orgasm, I would question his motives if he went to a strip club again, which is a shame because I think it's just a bit of fun in the main.
A lap dance is one thing. Ive had a few before.
But "and extra 30 mins of private dance and he came in his pants"
Thats terms for termination.sSH6XPEjwI2eM8Uf
you're a dumbass to even ask if people would consider a woman dry humping you, you playing with her tits and her making you cum in your pants is cheating, i think the answer is pretty clear!
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I don't know about cheating... and I do not know how thoughtful or respectful. I would not like it. It would hurt me.
I had second thoughts about the big bachelor party I was all for with my EX (at a Gentleman's Club) and at first I supported his desire to have the real bachelor party... then it made me rethink.
I should have never married that guy, that was one of many signs. I am also VERY thankful the man I am with now is very different personality-wise. He would rather be playing with me. I am not really sensitive that way except when I am in a committed relationship and inlove, and then things take on new meanings and work both ways for both people-like 'Why be there?' in the first place and not with me? Same thing applies with porn. I am not against it. We all have our happy-time private moments. I think those things should be committed to 'want' to do TOGETHER, not separate. 'But that is just my opinion and what works for me. Some people and couples have different boundaries of what is acceptable.
Not if I bought it for him. I have gone with my hubby to a strip club and the girls were more interested in me then him. He just told them to make me happy. He sat, drank, chatted and had a great time while I played. It was only fair to send two girls to rub all over my guy.
A lap dance is not cheating. And the dancers are honest about what they do, I think strippers are much more honest than wives,
My wife and I go to strip clubs together. We both get lap dances. Love it!
Yes it's cheating and unacceptable behavior.
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Is it cheating? Probably.
In reality that's going to be between you and whomever your partner is at that time isn't it?
I've been in strictly monogamous relationships, and completely open relationships, and that situation would have been different with each partner. Right now I'd say my girlfriend and I are somewhere in the middle of open and not, and I can tell you that this would certainly not be acceptable behavior for either of us. I have been in relationships where that would have been fine, though.
Honestly, reading the OP, I believe that offering "extra" services comes very close to crossing the line into prostitution. It's disturbing on several different levels, not least of which is that the dancer felt obligated to offer this "extra" service. Whether or not it is cheating becomes irrelevant in the face of illegal activities. The other part that disturbs me is how you found out--doing the laundry? Did he just come skipping home and tell you about it? Is he continuing a relationship with this woman?
I cast no blame in her direction--I had a roommate who danced at an infamous (read: busted for prostitution multiple times) club near our apartment in university, and she was constantly offered extra money for "extra" services. Very difficult to pass up when you're struggling to pay for rent, books, tuition, food, and other necessities--but she did. It's all good until you're in handcuffs.
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If it is sexual and something that you would not tell your wife/girlfriend about then it is cheating. If it wasn't cheating a person would have no problem mentioning it to their significant other.
Idont know if I would classify just a lap dance as cheating but its not something I would be comfortable with him doing behind my back. If I was there, perhaps I would approve a lap dance but certainly not one that involves the "extras".
i've seen some goofy questions for the gals, but this one has got to be one of the worst. (or best depending on your POV)
