Talk to your husband. Tell that you know he have cheated on you. Tell him that you will forgive him. If he agrees to an open relationship, or swinging. The main key is combinations between the two of you. To make this work. Or eventually you will ended up getting a divorce.
It ain't going to happen Dear. Either you go with some sort of open relationship, or you get the big D.
If you clean up very well I doubt if you husband will be able to tell that another mans semen has been in your vagina. However there are lots of other tell tail signs and they may betray no matter how clean you are.
If you decide on an Open Marriage, just so you can have Sex with your special guy. I can almost guaranty that sex with this guy will not be as exciting and dangerous as if you went ahead and cheated on your husband until you get caught.
Having said that your Lush Sisters have given you wise if not the kind of advice you may wish to hear.
yeesh... this question actually made ME paranoid. if you are putting this much thought into it, just have the talk with your husband.
I think it's good that you both cheat. Every relationship needs a good bit of drama.
So keep on having sex with your BF.
Your husband will definitely be able to smell it and taste when you have sex with your BF.
This fact means he is likely a closeted bisexual and having a secret relationship with your BF behind your back.
Wouldn't you rather have a nice cup of tea?
Revenge cheating isn't going to erase the fact that he cheated first. It just makes things more complicated. Infidelity is usually a symptom of other, deeper issues in a marriage. As other people have said, it's probably a good idea to talk like adults, because there's more going on than you or him having sex with other people.
Also, research shows that Children of couples who are in a healthy relationship are often best adjusted, but children whose parents are in an unhealthy relationship (and just staying together for the kids) are often worse-off than children whose parents are divorced.
Don't believe everything that you read.
I know other poster have advised "full disclosure". However, once you admit to cheating it can't be undone.
However, you do have to worry about STDs.
A divorce might be a financial disaster for both of you.
If he does find out, tell him why you started, and why you let him continue. Do it without drama (guys hate drama).
Thanks very much for your needed advise. I have talked to my husband about going on free open marriage and as swingers and he seems he likes the idea so he agreed to let me have free sex with BF if I first have sex with any other man in front of him and I agreed. I hope things will work this way.
Swinging has saved many relationships but you must make sure there will be no jealousy on either side. Sounds to me like he's calling all the shots but if it gets you what you want, maybe it will work.
" I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer"
Woody Allen
Start telling your husband that you want to discuss some fantasies you have and that you want to know about his. When you go first, tell him you fantasize about taking another lover and coming him to your husband with your pussy used and full of cum. Continue by telling your husband that you fantasize you tell him you've just been fucked and want him to enjoy you now. Intimate or be very direct (you choice) that you want your husband to explore you and see, smell and perhaps…even taste you afterwards. Push your husband's head down to your pussy as you're describing this. He will most certainly begin to lick and suck you like never before. You'll know right then and there that he too fantasized about eating you after your BF has filled you with cum. Enjoy the sex and whisper into his ear that you especially loved him licking your lover's cum from you….ask him if he would do that if you were ever naughty and really came home to him that way? Ask him if he would like you to be his little slut and fuck other guys. His head will be spinning while he answers "YES" and cums quickly in you.
You'll continue introducing more and more of this slutty hot talk while you two make love. You'll probe for his fantasies and they will almost certainly follow this story line. As you two are more trusting and confident that this is exciting for you both, come home full of cum for real and tell him you decided to fulfill his fantasy for real. Have him lay on his back while you straddle his face and let him look at your swollen and fucked pussy. Describe how you got fucked. Tell your husband to lick your lover's cum from you while you share the details. Tell him the idea of you getting fucked for him (your husband) was so hot that you went on craigslist and started a dialogue with a guy and decided you couldn't wait any longer so you met each other to fuck. You then tell your husband you would do anything for him and want to make him happy so you were his little cum filled slut. He'll go so crazy licking and sucking the cum from you. He'll be begging you to tell him every detail. Asking you if you came. Asking you to describe the guy's cock and if it is bigger than his. He'll ask you to describe how your lover's cock and cum taste. Does your lover cum a lot?
Who knows, maybe you will even convince both your husband and your boyfriend to meet for a threesome. You can make it a MFM or even a MMF where everyone gets a taste and touch of each other.
Good luck. You're on your way to a fabulous and exciting time in your life. Don't go down the divorce road. Make it a fun and sexy experience for all three of you!
Nope, no cheating. You're either honest and respectful of your marriage/relationship or you're not. My wedding vows included "foresaking all others" and I take my promises seriously. And, before I start getting comments regarding my other posts, it's not cheating if the other partner knows and agrees it's ok.
Something seems off here. You have a BF but your not already cheating. To me if your already calling someone your BF then you have already cheated.,but to answer your question,you would need to take a bath before your husband comes home. It would help with any sex smell.
I think you two need to sit down and talk like actual adults. Cheating only makes things worse for everyone involved.
Probably not good advice; but cheating wives are a turn on!
If you cheat, all you do is take the guilt out of his discretions....... Make sure you can live with the consequences if you take this road, much easier to just be the adult and force a tough conversation.....
just fuck who you want and if he says anything, divorce his ass.
This is a formula for disaster. If both of you want relationships outside the marriage, then why not just call it quits? This sounds like a poorly written porno.