It's over 5 years for me since I've been with a man.
I have not had one touch me in those ways for a very long time.
Do you ever feel unusual for it?
I'm ready to be with someone again, but I don't have a real life partner.
I would like to be with someone again though.
(No oral, no fingers, nothing from men. Just me all of this time.)
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are there other women besides me who haven't been with anyone for anything for a long time?
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geesh would drive me crazy i adore physical touch mmmmm got to have it, but each to t heir own but got to be close to people.
hope it works out for you xx
hope it works out for you xx
Brown Sugar
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It's over 5 years for me since I've been with a man.
I have not had one touch me in those ways for a very long time.
Do you ever feel unusual for it?
I'm ready to be with someone again, but I don't have a real life partner.
I would like to be with someone again though.
(No oral, no fingers, nothing from men. Just me all of this time.)
Whoo, chile! You need a cutty buddy! Quick! I feel for you. Always have a cutty buddy on call...always! The toys are good, but there is nothing like the physical touch of another person...the weight on top! Put that on your 'to do' list.
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It's over 5 years for me since I've been with a man.
I have not had one touch me in those ways for a very long time.
Do you ever feel unusual for it?
I'm ready to be with someone again, but I don't have a real life partner.
I would like to be with someone again though.
(No oral, no fingers, nothing from men. Just me all of this time.)
Oh, my goodness, you poor dear. You're certainly not the only one, but what is holding you back from giving yourself over sexually to a man? Personally, I really savour the touching, kissing, the scent of his skin...intangible things, really, but things that I can't imagine being without.
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It's over 5 years for me since I've been with a man.
I have not had one touch me in those ways for a very long time.
Do you ever feel unusual for it?
I'm ready to be with someone again, but I don't have a real life partner.
I would like to be with someone again though.
(No oral, no fingers, nothing from men. Just me all of this time.)
Not trying to steal your thunder but rather add some fury to the storm .... men can be in the same circumstances as you have laid out here. I wish you well.
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It's over 5 years for me since I've been with a man.
I have not had one touch me in those ways for a very long time.
Do you ever feel unusual for it?
I'm ready to be with someone again, but I don't have a real life partner.
I would like to be with someone again though.
(No oral, no fingers, nothing from men. Just me all of this time.)
During my marriage I had a stretch where I went for over 3 yrs without sex. My marriage got really bad and I also didn't feel good about myself because of this plus I had no interest in cheating so it was just my fingers. Even once I finally had sex with my ex again it was no good and I didn't have really good sex until after I divorced. But it has gotten so much better, LOL!
I'm curious, WHY have you gone 5yrs? Is it your choice? I know you said you don't have a life partner but I am sure that you can find a willing partner if you wanted to. Do you only want sex when you are in a serious relationship? Don't get me wrong, I am not judging you if that is the case. We all have our own ideas of what we believe in but since you are asking this I get the feeling that you MISS having sex with man. I don't mean to pry but............
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During my marriage I had a stretch where I went for over 3 yrs without sex. My marriage got really bad and I also didn't feel good about myself because of this plus I had no interest in cheating so it was just my fingers. Even once I finally had sex with my ex again it was no good and I didn't have really good sex until after I divorced. But it has gotten so much better, LOL!
I'm curious, WHY have you gone 5yrs? Is it your choice? I know you said you don't have a life partner but I am sure that you can find a willing partner if you wanted to. Do you only want sex when you are in a serious relationship? Don't get me wrong, I am not judging you if that is the case. We all have our own ideas of what we believe in but since you are asking this I get the feeling that you MISS having sex with man. I don't mean to pry but............
It's my choice, and I was with someone for a very long time. After the first 6 years there was nothing intimate happening.
He never gave oral sex, didn't like to get me off. He cheated. Then I cheated.
With the same man for 6 years. Then that man stalked me.
I do miss having sex with men.
I miss their touch, ect....
It's my choice not too. But now I am ready again but with whom would I do that with?
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It's my choice, and I was with someone for a very long time. After the first 6 years there was nothing intimate happening.
He never gave oral sex, didn't like to get me off. He cheated. Then I cheated.
With the same man for 6 years. Then that man stalked me.
I do miss having sex with men.
I miss their touch, ect....
It's my choice not too. But now I am ready again but with whom would I do that with?
Thanks for sharing with us. Now that you feel ready again I'm sure you will meet the next guy soon. How did you meet guys in the past? Im sure the same things will help you meet a new one. Have faith, he is out there!.
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Thanks for sharing with us. Now that you feel ready again I'm sure you will meet the next guy soon. How did you meet guys in the past? Im sure the same things will help you meet a new one. Have faith, he is out there!.
You're welcome.
I don't meet or date anyone. I avoid men.
I'll interact when need be but that's about it.
(Except on here.)
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Now I'm totally confused!! If you avoid men and don't want to meet any, how do you plan on having sex? Some type of Virtual Reality program? You say you want to feel the touch of a man again but don't want to meet men. Not sure how you can accomplish that!!
But I am hoping you can!!
You say you want to feel the touch of a man again but don't want to meet men. Not sure how you can accomplish that!! But I am hoping you can!!
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Now I'm totally confused!! If you avoid men and don't want to meet any, how do you plan on having sex? Some type of Virtual Reality program?
But I am hoping you can!!
Thanks hon..
I was with the same guy for 15 years. I don't date or flirt.
We broke up over a year ago . I broke up with him.
I know, how am I supposed to have sex if I avoid them, have to put an ad out somewhere.
Go from there.
Brown Sugar
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You're welcome.
I don't meet or date anyone. I avoid men.
I'll interact when need be but that's about it.
(Except on here.)
You've got to change your thinking, gorgeous! While you don't have to have a predator/prey state of mind, it is important to give off a vibe of 'openness'. Believe that the right man will come along, and he will. Put yourself in a position to meet people period: work, gym, restaurant...etc. He'll come along when you least expect. Choose to find a man. Say it, "I will find a man." He will come.
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You've got to change your thinking, gorgeous! While you don't have to have a predator/prey state of mind, it is important to give off a vibe of 'openness'. Believe that the right man will come along, and he will. Put yourself in a position to meet people period: work, gym, restaurant...etc. He'll come along when you least expect. Choose to find a man. Say it, "I will find a man." He will come.
Thanks beautiful.xxoo.
Sounds like a good plan..
I go to Starbucks a lot..lmao
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You've got to change your thinking, gorgeous! While you don't have to have a predator/prey state of mind, it is important to give off a vibe of 'openness'. Believe that the right man will come along, and he will. Put yourself in a position to meet people period: work, gym, restaurant...etc. He'll come along when you least expect. Choose to find a man. Say it, "I will find a man." He will come.
I totally agree. What do you like to do for fun other than sex? Maybe join some type of club involved in something you enjoy so you may meet someone with like interests. Or you can try online dating. I know someone who met her husband that way and is very happy. Like Possibly said, you will meet him when you least expect it but you need to really want that. Be confident in yourself and show confidence, in your dress, your attitude, etc!
Its really not as hard as it seems once you have your mind made up you are ready!! Before long you will be beating them off with a stick!!
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I think the first step is to always love yourself first. If you can love yourself then you can let people love you.
Like others have said you must put yourself out there (Join a gym, a club go to the library.) I tell you I have the most fun in Home Depot and Lowe's. There are tons of men there and you just ask silly questions and in a few minutes you are involved in some really good conversation. I am married but I am a flirt. I have the best time there and at the grocery store.
I think you just need to always be happy and just try to talk to people. Now a days there are some great websites to meet people. A lot of my real life friends have met their husbands on websites like match.com, eharmony, plentyOfFish. About 5 people that I know had a lot of success on match.com. Just always meet in a public place until you get to know them.
You are such a wonderful girl and I know eventually you will find somebody. You just need to believe in yourself.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mysteria
xoxo
Like others have said you must put yourself out there (Join a gym, a club go to the library.) I tell you I have the most fun in Home Depot and Lowe's. There are tons of men there and you just ask silly questions and in a few minutes you are involved in some really good conversation. I am married but I am a flirt. I have the best time there and at the grocery store.
I think you just need to always be happy and just try to talk to people. Now a days there are some great websites to meet people. A lot of my real life friends have met their husbands on websites like match.com, eharmony, plentyOfFish. About 5 people that I know had a lot of success on match.com. Just always meet in a public place until you get to know them.
You are such a wonderful girl and I know eventually you will find somebody. You just need to believe in yourself.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mysteria
xoxo
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I totally agree. What do you like to do for fun other than sex? Maybe join some type of club involved in something you enjoy so you may meet someone with like interests. Or you can try online dating. I know someone who met her husband that way and is very happy. Like Possibly said, you will meet him when you least expect it but you need to really want that. Be confident in yourself and show confidence, in your dress, your attitude, etc!
Its really not as hard as it seems once you have your mind made up you are ready!! Before long you will be beating them off with a stick!!
Thank you Nikki...xxooo
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I think the first step is to always love yourself first. If you can love yourself then you can let people love you.
Like others have said you must put yourself out there (Join a gym, a club go to the library.) I tell you I have the most fun in Home Depot and Lowe's. There are tons of men there and you just ask silly questions and in a few minutes you are involved in some really good conversation. I am married but I am a flirt. I have the best time there and at the grocery store.
I think you just need to always be happy and just try to talk to people. Now a days there are some great websites to meet people. A lot of my real life friends have met their husbands on websites like match.com, eharmony, plentyOfFish. About 5 people that I know had a lot of success on match.com. Just always meet in a public place until you get to know them.
You are such a wonderful girl and I know eventually you will find somebody. You just need to believe in yourself.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mysteria
xoxo
Thanks sweetie. Very good advice.
Big hugs to you.xx
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I once went 12 years. Voluntarily.
I got out of a really bad relationship and afterward, had no libido at all. I didn't care if I never had sex again. It just wasn't all that important to me. After about five years, I started thinking about entertaining the idea, but it took quite a while before I could find someone who I trusted enough to be that vulnerable with again. Most guys want a quick, fun one night stand or just a fuck buddy. I wanted something more than to be another notch in some man whores bed post. So, for me, it was worth the wait.
I got out of a really bad relationship and afterward, had no libido at all. I didn't care if I never had sex again. It just wasn't all that important to me. After about five years, I started thinking about entertaining the idea, but it took quite a while before I could find someone who I trusted enough to be that vulnerable with again. Most guys want a quick, fun one night stand or just a fuck buddy. I wanted something more than to be another notch in some man whores bed post. So, for me, it was worth the wait.
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It had been about 11 years without any sexual contact what so ever from another person for me. Last couple of years I have had limited sexual contact but still no sex. Yes sometimes I do miss the physical touch of another but I have learned over the last few years, it has to be right person and that is hard to find.