Ive been wanting to loose my anal virginity for awhile now, but I have heard some good stories and bad stories, is there anything I can do to prepare my self?
butt plugs?? perhaps small dildos in that area..maybe finger play??
RELAX! No matter what you do to "prepare" yourself, if you are not relaxed you end up fighting against yourself and the experience. This goes for both men and women. But yes, as blaze said, butt plugs, small dildos, fingers, or anything really that will get you used to "things" in that area will work great. And then, make sure your partner is caring and understands that anal is NOT the same as vaginal, so it is often best to do a lot more "warming up" before going hard at it. Good luck!
I have always tried to choose a partner for anal sex that is not extremely large (whatever that means). I still feel that even if he is large we can still have satisfying sex and I would consider myself lucky.
Dancing Doll gave you good advice and all I can add is do whatever it takes to get relaxed.
I was very relaxed the first time and it was a very pleasant experience.
If you find the first time less than you had hoped, please do not give up, I have friends that need a time or two to get what they wanted for the beauty of anal sex.
Good Luck and let us know how things worked out for you
First of all, you must ask yourself one question. Are you doing this for yourself, or for your partner? If you are doing it for yourself, you will have no trouble in reaching your goal, by following some of the steps that others have wisely given you.
Anal lube, butt plugs, fingering, going slow and so forth.
However, if you are doing this simply for your partner, then it may take a longer time in obtaining your goal. The reason being is: It’s not something you really desire or that you really wanted to try.
Taking into account, that you are asking this question, allow me to give you some tips that may just help you. First make sure your partner understands fully that YOU ARE IN CONTROL NOT HIM or HER! You are the only one that knows if it pleasure or pain.
Relaxation is the one of the keys so if you are not relaxed do not force it. That will only lead to disappointment and we do not want that, now do we?
Timing is also a key. Your frame of mind, will determent the out come. If you are in a state of mind that is passionate, willing and for lack of a better words, down right horny, you will have no trouble at all in obtaining your goal and you will have one of your finest sexual encounters of your life.
In the end, (No pun intended, just poor wording.) You will discover a few things out about yourself. You will either love it of hate it or something in between. You also will discover if you will like it slow or hard once you become accustom to it. In any case, it is never is a waste of time to try something new.
So with that I will wish you the best of luck and the good will
Relax us plenty of lube and take it gently until you feel comfy.
Can't Help; I believe that hole is an exit only area!!
the advice you have been given is terrific but i agree you need to be this for yourself not your partner. Play with toys use plenty of lube and relax