Ive been trying to get a gf for almost 3 years now only to get told im not their type or how canI date someone like you, i know im over weight, balding, and have acne but do women really only care about looks? I have a great personality and great sense of humor, im nice, kind hearted, caring, is that not good enough either? Please ladies and gentlemen help me out and give me some advice
Have girls really said "how can I date someone like you?"? Whats that even supposed to mean? What kind of girls are you asking out? Strangers...or girls you are already friends with?
That question aside, most people can improve their appearance if they want. You say you're overweight...do something about it. Losing weight gives you more confidence and would, I guess, make you more appealing to women.
Are you hitting on overweight, balding women who have serious acne issues... or are you constantly reaching for the items on the top shelf in the marketplace of life?
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
A great personality according to whom? Are you overbearing? Or needy? Or just really desperate? Because women pick up on that kind of stuff. Especially insecurities. Do you really push the relationship thing? Do you date with the overall intention of being that woman's boyfriend? Do you do too much too soon? There are so many factors to consider other than your winning personality and wit.
What are the other negatives besides your weight and acne? What are your hobbies? What kind of job do you have? Do you live with your mother? Are you going for women who have something in common with you?
I REALLY hate to say it, but WellMadeMale made some great points. I hate the "stick to your own league" stigma as much as the next person, but there is some truth to it. Sure there are beautiful women with really unattractive men or vice versa out there. But really, how often do you see that? Are you as shallow in choosing women as they are when they reject you?
Overall, I don't think you're unattractive. But I wouldn't look at you across the room and go, "Yeah baby. I'm going home with that guy." Not at first glance. Just like you wouldn't look at an overweight and acne-ridden woman and immediately undress her in your eyes. To be completely honest, you have to work harder. You have to be extra charming. Extra funny. Extra witty. Extra everything to compensate for it. In a perfect world, looks don't matter. But the world isn't perfect, and looks do indeed matter.
Make a woman WANT to get to know you. And when you strike out, you can't automatically assume it's your looks. Don't use your looks as a crutch to disguise the real problem(s) of why a woman wouldn't want to be with you. Because if they've given you a shot, then they've already gotten past the looks. You have to do the same.
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My only advice and this pretty much applies to most aspects of your life (and anyone else's life in general) is this....
stop fucking worrying about what other people think or will think. There are far too many assholes, narcissistic tools, petty jerks, and just plain mean-spirited soulless creatures on this planet.
DO NOT help them out by belittling yourself. It's not you, it is society who has put a premium on what qualifies attractive. Everyone is attracted to different sorts of people. Inside we're all just piles of red meat, waste, and bone and inside, we all smell like shit.
Unless you're made of candy. In which case, you better run or Ima come eat you up.
You are who you are and what you were born with. You can change things, sure. To an extent, but ultimately just live your life and what has been given to you.
No one likes the self-deprecating types. Having to constantly reassure someone that you are attractive to them, funny to them, worthy of your love, etc, etc, etc, is just a vicious cycle that goes nowhere. It is the epitome of unattractive.
If you can't love yourself or see yourself as attractive, why should other people think that way?
At the end of the day, it's a massive guessing game as to what you need to do. One girl wants A, B and C, another wants X, Y and Z. It's a lot more hassle than its worth to be honest.
One last thought.
I just can't resist quoting "Shit My Dad Says."
"Out of your league?! What fucking league are you talking about?! You are a man, she is a fucking woman! That is all that matters, goddamnit!"
Followed by my personal favorite.
"Son, you're always telling me why women don't like you. No one wants to lay the guy who wouldn't lay himself."