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Quote by BigJay23
Thank you so much, that is what im looking for advice like that, but how do i stop myself from getting friend zoned? I always seem to get it, even with people i just met
Quote by She
Jay was looking out of his league, but not better or worst..he was just not fishing in the pool of women who are attracted to his type of guy.
Quote by Mazza
I never took offence at your sweeping generalisation, I just found it surprising that not only does someone think that way, but had the (what I deem) poor judgement and lack of class to 'say it out loud'.
I can honestly say that I've never encountered anyone, male or female, who behaves that way.
I don't see how such a statement as the one you made can possibly be either conducive to the thread or helpful to the OP. surely such negativity is what we are trying to avoid?
Quote by Magical_felix
Thinking this way about women or anything in life really will just make you fail at everything.
This may be a stretch, to assume you have female friends, but how many of them have you helped find boyfriends?
I mean "getting what they want?" Like what?
I mean, don't you do favors for your male friends? Do you expect your male friends to suck your dick if you help them move or something?
Why is there a double standard for attractive women?
How come doing a normal friend gesture or favor for a woman you find attractive somehow obligates her to have sex with you, go out on a date with you, or be your girlfriend?
What if a woman you were just not attracted to but was your friend all of a sudden hit you with, "Uniball, I take you to the airport, I have you over to my parties, I make you food, I listen to you bitch and moan about your life, I am such a good friend to you... BUT you don't want a sexual relationship with me, why are you using me like this? If you don't start putting out, I'm kicking you to the curb."
Quote by MadMartigan
Bro. You ran yourself smack into a brick wall.![]()
Better to just cease and desist at this point.
Quote by kiera
Im a firm believer that there is someone out there for everyone, the waiting can be frustrating I know but the right person will come along for you I am sure.
Kiera x
Quote by 1ball
The thing is, you probably have victim written across your forehead in an invisible tattoo that only women can see. Many women are little more than parasites, given the chance. They measure their self-worth by how much attention they can get from men and how hot of a bf they can attract. Even if they don't want to be with you, they could be helping you find a gf, but they're getting what they want from you, so why should they? You really don't want to know them, at least not on their terms. If they don't want to meet you halfway, kick them to the curb.
Quote by 1ball
A false premise. My statement only applies to the women it applies to. Think about who is likely to be left for any length of time in the "single and looking" pool. You'll find a lot of the women I referred to there competing with each other for Mr. Perfect because they worry more about what their girlfriends will think about their guy than whether they deserve the respect of the guy they're pursuing or are capable of earning the trust and respect of the guys they're rejecting.
A piece of your life that they haven't earned and don't even try to earn. Extroverts are often like that. Most women and most men are extroverts.
No, but I would not keep doing them favors if they never did me favors. Would you? That's not a rhetorical question. I would like an honest and relevant answer.
False assumption not relevant to what I said. They can find other ways to return a favor. many don't bother. They just act entitled to favors, for as long as you let them get away with it. Those are the ones to kick to the curb.
I've had and have platonic friendships with women who did not fit the parasite description. I'm advising the OP to learn protect himself from those who do. And when I was seeking a gf, I found many who did.
False assumption not relevant to what I said.
Quote by LadyX
Looks like I missed out on group therapy again...
Quote by Oberon
You crack me up. You are wildly intelligent, yet you possess humility.
You have passion, yet display restraint.
You have strong opinions, yet express them reasonably.
You have beliefs that you've examined, and principles you seem to live by.
I have seen you stand up for yourself, and defend others.
You're funny as Hell.
Those are all extremely attractive qualities.
Quote by latinfoxy
You must be such a joy to hang out with! I cant think of the reason why you are divorced!![]()
Quote by 1ball
I'm not. Jumping to false conclusions seems to be a common thing here.
Quote by 1ball
I'm not. Jumping to false conclusions seems to be a common thing here.
Quote by latinfoxy
I was sure that i have read you complaining about an ex wife at some thread, maybe i was wrong. But im pretty sure im not wrong about the other part!![]()
Quote by 1ball
This is an important consideration. Everybody who is looking for somebody is fishing in a pool and has competition from others who are fishing within that pool. As I see it, for a heterosexual male, there are four main pools to consider
Undesirable - Ineligible -- Don't touch that.
Undesirable - Eligible -- Don't want to touch that
Desirable -Ineligible -- Can't touch that
Desirable - Eligible -- All that's left
Things that make women Ineligible include
Already committed to some other guy
Homosexual
Not local
Incarcerated
Celibate
Things that make women Undesirable include
This is a highly subjective thing. It could include smokers, women with children, wrong religion (or too much or too little religion), too old, dregs of society, too something or not enough something. This is where a guy could find someone if he broadened the pool he fished in to include some from the Undesirable - Eligible pool. Otherwise, he's stuck with the Desirable - Eligible pool and the competition there is the fiercest.
Quote by 1ball
Keeping in mind that the heterosexual women are also fishing in pools they define subjectively, a guy who has negatives (as perceived by a large percentage of the Desirable - Eligible women) is going to be in fierce competition with a lot of guys for the small percentage that find him attractive.
Quote by Magical_felix
if you save someone from drowning do they now owe you their life?
At Christmas do you compare how much the gift you gave cost compared to the gift you received? Do you then feel slighted if the gift you gave was more expensive?
What if one of your plutonic friend's life takes a turn for the worse and now they need your help?
Are they now taking advantage of you? Are they being parasitic?
You think it's the right thing to do to let them suffer when you can help, even if you will get nothing in return?
Quote by 1ball
A bunch of sad bitter stuff.
Quote by Magical_felix
Read what you said over again. Then read it again. It's sad 1ball. Your outlook is laced with anger. Seems like you lack empathy and love in your heart. Reflect on your words and think about how you relate to people, for your own good.