So I've just started writing erotica and am working on my first story. I'm going to do a few short stories using different writing styles and techniques, before moving on up to a series I have in mind for novella length stories/books.
Anyway.... The OH has noticed my constant typing over the last few days and has asked what I'm up to. I have said I'm writing a book but I don't want to show it to anyone, him included, until it's finished. He has accepted this so, for the time being I've bought some time.
We are a VERY open couple, more than most I would say, the issue however is not that I'm writing erotica, he'd be fine with that and to be fair he'd probably want to help out. The problem being, some of characters are roughly based on real people I know from work, collage and our social group. Although I've changed enough that they wouldn't be easily noticed, even by the OH I'm just a tad unsure how to go about telling him and letting him read them. The only reason I base some people on real people right now is for ease of writing, giving inspiration and just all round making it easier to develop characters while I'm just starting out.
How did you go about letting your OH know what you get up to in your spare time??
No, she doesn't know. She is aware of my spanking fetish, and we have enjoyed exploring it.
Not sure why anyone's spouse ..oh..or partner would object to erotic writing..I think it is sexy and could only improve your sex life!
Having said that the father of my kids would find it disgusting
Now real stories real people..some are cool with a past some are not
I don't know if I would divulge that..but again I don't know your oh or your relationship
Why not just start with letting your oh know that u are writing erotica
Hope it goes well !!
I told him what I was doing. That and the erotic thesaurus and other "research" books lying around should tip him off! LOL! The only thing he doesn't know is that I've published one on this site and intend to do more. He knows I'm on a forum but has never asked what type.
From the sounds of it, he would be very supportive. I would not shy away from letting him have a peek. I can understand the concern of him recognizing some of the characters, but you explained the reasoning very eloquently here. I agree 100% that it is easier to build off characters that you know- in the beginning. Character building is very difficult when you don't have a personality in mind.
If you don't plan on keeping this a secret forever, than the sooner the better!
I am lucky to have a very supportive partner, it makes all the difference in the world. Clear your mind and your conscience and you'll see that you are worried less, and writing more.
Not yet, but I'm starting to think about it. Not sure how she'll react to some of what I've written. Mercifully, most of my stuff is pure fiction with only vague inspiration from real life so I don't have the problem of her recognizing specific people, just whether she'll flip at me doing something like this when we're on a sex drought in real life.
My husband was stationed away when I first joined Lush and started writing erotica. Trying to write for publication was something I first did before that time in the thriller genre. So writing wasn't new. When I decided to write and self-publish my erotica I didn't tell him for a whole year out of embarrassment.
Since then I've written and published over 50 erotic works. He knows about my bigger stories because I talk about the plots but he doesn't keep up with it all like he used to.
She certainly does. My girlfriend enjoys Erotica, and I always let her read my stories before I let them out into the world. In fact, my first story here on Lush was first written as a gift for her. She liked it very much and encouraged me to publish it, and so started my Lush career.
Of course my OH knows I write erotica. He supports and encourages it.
My spouse knows and everybody else that I tell. A few people including my husband know my pen name. The rest of them just know I write.
I have nothing to hide. This is what I enjoy to do.
Hugs,
Mysteria
xo
I never have a permanent OH, so it's not an issue.
In the world's harsh wear and tear many a very sincere attachment is slowly obliterated.
Είμαι ταξιδιώτης τόσο στο χρόνο όσο και στο διάστημα
I actually started writing stories on another site because I didn't know about Lush yet. Back then my wife was not my wife yet and was actually an old girlfriend trying to move back into my life and push out the current girlfriend. That was one of the reasons I started writing.
Eventually I found out about Lush which was the best thing ever for developing my writing. By that time my old girlfriend had become my girlfriend again and was my fiancée by the time I joined Lush. I had not told her about my writing. She discovered my stories and profile on Lush and recognized that it was me. She didn't tell me until after she had read them all. She likes to read Lush but is not a member. So yes, she does know now.
Yes, she knows and has read some of my work.
No he doesn't know I write erotica. I did years ago show him a story I wrote and said it wasn't great, ever since I just post my stories online. He does know that I read erotic fiction though.
Yes she does, considering some of my stories are about or based on our sexual exploits, it isn't a secret I keep from her. And she enjoys reading them.
No and I don't think I will ever tell him, it is my private escape and ultimately he is the beneficiary.
My OH knows and has read most of what I write. He is supportive now. At first I think he was more concerned with how much time I spent on the computer. He now enjoys me bouncing ideas off of him and reading him my works. He is proud of me and his only regret is not being able to tell our friends. We don't think anyone of then would be quite so understanding, sadly. If it makes me happy, then he does benefit and that is a good thing all around. Now if only it paid, lol. Good luck with whatever you decide to tell him or show him. I think you'll be surprised in a good way. I know I was.
He knows..he wasn't altogether thrilled but accepts it..
No. But then I don't live with him so it isn't an issue.
No-one knows I write actually, which is ok with me as I'm not really proud of it. I just wanted to tell some stories and practice creative writing.
No my wife doesn't know. She see's me writing, but she thinks I am writing a fictionalized tale of my youth. Granted that is what I started doing then I got the idea for my current series that I have been writing the past month or so, and I am not sure how she would take it even though we have been married almost 16 years. My writing is an outlet for some of my thoughts and fantasies, as twisted as they may be to some.
I've been writing not just erotica, but fiction, non-fiction, copy, articles, blogs, and political commentary for over nine years, so everyone who knows me, knows I write. ...and probably wishes I'd shut-up already!
I started writing years ago. I showed my wife a couple of them and she didn't like the age difference between the two main characters. I haven't shown her any since that initial offering. I believe she puts me in the main role when there's a man involved and it's straight sex. I have yet to show her one of my lesbian stories and I'm not sure I will because she's gotten more prudish throughout our 35 years of marriage.
From the first moment I began writing erotic I let my OH know about it. She was not concerned. And not terribly interested either. She is fully aware that I post to seven varied writing sites and have published three eBooks. One of which was erotica in Spanish. She would be happy if I could earn some money from all of this, but otherwise she just ignores it.
Yes she does, but she doesn't have a problem with it. I love to write.